Show I Problem Talks With Mothers When You Mean No Yes or Maybe BY LOUISE D. D MITCHELL A J. foreign gentleman visiting this country coun country try re recently said ald to me with much nueh surprise sur eur ur- ur prise How curious you ou Americans n are You make meke your dogs dOg obey you ou but not fbi your children 1 I waa was startled taTtled for a a. moment but hut 1 I r re silted that this was was In indeed M. M a fact tact I have since observed this question Que more carefully and within two we k have hv been able to note six families where this is leso BO 80 Do your TOur do dogs dog or your children n obe obey your commands command Stop a moment and ana n think What would you do to your our do dog if he did not come corne the Instant you OU called I him What do you do to your ur child 1 Ii if he deliberately Or Or unthinkingly s 's c you I think the chances are re tha that th the dO g dc-g would get a beating and the child b boV be bc oV overlooked Now there are two kinds of ot t farce farce- scattered kid fend conc concentrated The former requires more energy to bring about re results results re- re suIts tho the latter less lees Therefore from froman troman an economic standpoint alone It is wiser to use the latter The voice of ot the era a average mother I is hi scattered force fonie for e Requests commands Plea pleadings are shrilled out In the nagging lbs nagging tone ot Dt the he e woman In n order to bring about bout the shrill tones f ar re accompanied k bi b 1 ed ear ar r a 0 shaking or an impulsive slap Flap all AU short culi cuts cut to discipline that thal th the thit moth mother r nowhere and the he child b where I f The largest part of ot a a. mothers mother's discipline pline goes out to her children through the tones tones' of of her voice Do not forget that Its calm grave decisive tones with Hh thede the thede thede de of ot finality as 3 a background background back bock ground to all that she sho ho says sas whether o of good or orill m f to them from their p points o of 01 view Jew has the strongest t control over oil nl ill their actions It f Is th the tho concentrated force of ot her personality and carries carries' weight with them I Mother means what she sale ThaIs That Tha ThatIs Is what that tone conveys to them and they know very well that there Is Is no wriggling lIns- lIns out tr from m under her decisions The value to the c child Ud of absolute reliance reli aries ance upon your yes yet or r no c cannot be estimated estimated esti esti- mated by you OU today but but it it will witt be bo shown to you in th the future Good or bad the thel child wants wanta to know definitely where he be stands in regard to Any tiny subject ct he ma may put td to you And h he will always accept your decisions in th the negative with Ith a a better grace If Ie h he knows knowlI there I would never have been an affirmative c The mother who Uses thea a. a A A. maybe mabe Is cruel to her child tar for he hS builds Q quickly and readily upon hope and In In his little heart has hUl taken It for granted granted ran d' d that her ultimate decision will ItI be a a. yes Tn fact many a a. small misdemeanor has hall ben bien the this ma be upon her part And the chU childs child's s 's tearful explanation will wll often be Well Wehl you ou said laid maybe and andI I thought sure It would be yes u Now my suggestion is I. that You say lIay neither yes U or no until you have given each small emaIl request an intelligent moment of thought 1 Then decide fOT or against the matter and let your Our decision stand tand unalterable You may mav may eyen yen tin Att afterwards that you ou might just juat a as well 1111 have O said yes where here you h had decided it was wu best to say uy no but do not tell teU this to the children Get your our own n experience cues ence en e out of the mistake and draw upon It for tOr future occasions Be lets lees 3 hasty huty even In Inyo yo your r. r greater deliberations and try t to look hook more keenly Into th effect upon the childrens children's urea life of what you must deny or give them f |