Show Studies for the Self Made Girl HOW TO BECOME A SUCCESSFUL SUCCESS SUCCESS- FUL GUEST BY LOUISE D. D Ml MITCHELL CHE L. L And in point of or fact thui this Is about the hardest thing In tho the world worl 1 for Cor the average average aver aver- a age c bU st guf-st st to b become ome nut Hut tho this whole se secret seret so- so ret cret of oC success lu In It lies In just ono one thing Put your our own Interests In Jn the background those of or your our hostess In inthe tho the foreground Nothing else counts much It is assumed that you ou have havo been boen invited In Invited In- In to this homo home because your friends wanted to have you ou not because the they were forced to do so 50 And Arid If IC this thin is DO so in your case alse start on a A. aulet ulet hunt forthe for forthe forthe the reason Wh why you ou were invited b by them Those rhose are two strong points for Cor you OU to accept as u-s guides In your efforts to discover the way n lii hi which to become a 3 successful rul guest If there are art young oung dou daughters in the house and you youl on are arc a friend of on one or all allo o of them tile the lie probabilities are are- that you were Invited aa as much to give glo them a good time lime as to have havo one yourself oura And right here Is a cue fo for you S Se See O that you give your our young younS hostesses a good time as well as that you have havo one ono your your- our self If It any sacrifice has to be made mado In the tim good time of oC either one of you ou do donot donot donot not make mako tho the grave crave mistake of ot sacrificing your our hostess Of or course It Il 1 is J her place her dut duty to prevent your our efforts to do this but be first with the offer and try b by a good g sense ense viewpoint to make It ft sin In- sincero Incero cero cere to yourself first and aud then to your our ur hostess It may be bitterly hard to doit do it it but bur If you arc In fn earnest about making mak ing a 8 success of yourself 8 as a a. guest that Is part of the training besides being decidedly good form Corm It If she has haslie tho lie bad taste to accept your our offer r. r orIs or orIs orIs Is forced or ed to do so o b by urgent necessity I keep your our poise and find a way a out of or orthe the disappointment that shall give sho you OU sorno sort nf or t nl 1 Dont Don't sit Mil and mope over it and think hard things s of or your Our hostess hosten Keep up lip your spirits and good ch cheer cr h by reminding reminding remind remind- In ing yourself our elf that It 1 is I ani only the tho successful success success- s- s ful Cui guest who is capable of oC being a perfect perfect per per- hostess and that some da day your positions positions positions po po- po- po will be reversed and you will know b by instinct and arid training how to make male and hold holtI a hl high h social p position for tor your your- our our- solf olf which she could not occupy It If the thc service In the home In which you vou are visiting is ui fn Inefficient and your our hostess inadequate see lice what you can an do doto doto doto to holp matters along Take entire earn cart of the room allotted to you you and and this should mean scrupulous rare care and and as- as HUlne some Iome small responsibility In the home that will relieve rel your Our hostess of ot ottile tile the carr cate of or It during jour OUr visit and make of your jour our sojourn there H n. rest a blessing a memo memory to look back upon and incidentally remove remo an any possibility o of your visit being one straw too many for Cor burdened shoulders to endure Show al s nYs tr to r ti iti the th the brave sweet attitude do that e all right Lots of oC things mil may KO go wrong ran even e with the best to the contrary and arid ItIs It ItIs itIs Is helpful Inspiring for your our kind kindly I at attitude attitude attitude at- at of M composure and approval al to lo be turned upon each error and to screen It from rein criticism Do not hot camp out on ou your OUr hostess hostess' attentions And do not expect to b be en entertained entertained n en- cvet every In Instant o of your visit Accept Accept Ac Ac- Accept with courtesy and Interest and ami e en er what hat sh she has hns to offer you OU In Ill Inthis this respect and If Ir monger meager find how best to enjoy it to the lull full Dont Don't put a a. hos- hos tees of ot small Income to any expense you 1011 youcan youcan can avoid Insist t upon and maintain throughout the frank arrangement of ot Dutch treat treal In all outside expenses I DouL ma make c e Jour your OUI Insistence tence offensive orren l e or humiliating but just Juat put It In the light of nt fairness to iii the fairness of equal rights for Women Make excuses eM to absent yourself from rom y your our ho hostess tess 88 at al least lea t au hour throughout through through- h- h out the day more day more If It convenient Take fake sen win liP sewing Ing or writing or reading with you on Oil all visits visit They The are tactful aid for tor hour hours of oC seclusion Hc from tho lie household or with It Find out and bring the pet pd hobby hobb of ot your host and i help him to mount and ride It If It you cant can't talk In In- In upon It It remember you OU al always aIwas always al- al ways was ha have ha the lie right to listen gently j 4 |