| Show PESSIMISTIC WOMAN THINKS LIFE BEGINS TO END NEAR FORTY I Name Linked in Gossip Column of School Paper Causes auses Embarrassment Steady dY Quarrels f and Keeps Silent A f. f By BETTY BLAIR According to the testimony of many women it is possIble pos pos- sIble for br Ute life to hold its greatest joys 1 In middle life The sacrifices sac sac- have all been suffered adjustments made a modicum of peace established and adopted For others increasing age all too often brings discouragement and an feeling of pessImism Dear car Miss Blair I know you have ha had letters the mother law problem problem lem before but mine seems just a little litlIe different nt 1 t rI Instead of thinkA think think- hi A I I ing wIth most R modern women I I I that life begins IJ t I at 40 my moth moth- thin r i law in has a aIt It I f I theory that li life e I I AU I begins to end at 40 and that she sheI r i- i I 11 1 need look for no t m o 0 r happiness C after 50 The trouble is she thinks her own stor story proves her pessimistic point For 10 months out of the year she lives in a family hotel nursing her grievances talking them over Sa jn the lobby with other retired women much older old old- er r than she For the remainder o ot the year she spends a month each with her married son and daughter and their respective wife and husband I 1 am the wile wife She has told all of my friends and acquaintances that I am a pretty independent little creature creature crea- crea ture who because 1 was an only child always had my own 11 way and so I am a spoiled little piece who is ruining her sons son's life She tells her daughters daughter's friends that her law son who is a jolly well liked man is so easy going her daughter will never have anything because he lets every every- I body ody do him You cant can't imagine what fun it Isto ls Is to have her come ome to our howe house When she isn't nagging at me she Js sulking She accuses us of not taking her into our confidence she suspects plots on our part to try to get rid of her she is quite sure lure nobody loves her I think it js Is one of the worst I crimes I crimes ever invented against married mar mar- ned ried happiness cr people to have ha to live with their in After roy my mother law goes my husband hus hus- band is very silent for lor days das When he does docs speak It is to remind remind re- re mind me by gentle innuendoes innuendoes' that the various complaints his mother has made against me might be more than fiction Her coming ruins our peace and hap hap- lor or three months after she has gone Is 13 there any preventive or cure for this scourge ALMOST BATTY BATrY The poor unhappy Woman Is of ourse a striking example of what whatnot whatnot not to do jf if you want to be happy happ I grow older Her initial and perhaps most fatal mistake was Innot In Innot not providing herself with an ab interest outside ot of herself hersell and nd her children lit Isn't too late even yet for her herto herto to take on interest Her children should plan a a. campaign to involve l r In something that will take her mind completely of off herself Take her r to the Neighborhood House or orthe orthe the Childrens Children's Service society r St. St Anns Ann's orphanage or the Childrens Children's hospital some vIsiting afternoon and let her see how much help is needed in order that the directors and superintendents super super- shall reach and maintain the high standards they have set forthe for fori the children eared cared for lor in those places I Let the superintendents know you arc coming and tIp Up th them m off to itress the point that help from a woman woman wo- wo man rich in human experience and means would be Invaluable Or take her to the Red Cross sew sew- J g circle some day and let her find findo o oUt t. t there how much need there is f for r help of women able to gIve In In- eigle her into some of at the meetings held by the City or District Federa lion tIon ot of Women's Clubs and let her realize the hours of at time women pend for civic and political betterment better better- ment The possibilities are arc legion in inthIs thIs city for intelligent women to put their time to good use And the dog do- do g so o makes them forget themselves and their own troubles There Is a solution for lor very em so that none need suffer il if only u can find ind the key Surely no one with Ingenuity will sit by and allow himself to become a martyr with so much at hand from rom which to choose GOSSIP INTERFERES Dear M Miss ss Blair I am very much In love with a aboy aboy boy two years older than L I. About a month ago he asked one of my friends to Introduce him to me 1 1 felt leU very much complimented over this as he is a popular boy and well liked by a great many girIs He is very nice and has acted as if he cares for me Ho He has as never asked me for a date but he waits to walk wIth me alter after cl classes es and I often find him lookIng look look- ing at me mc He has telephoned me mea a couple of times and seems so friendly I 1 know that he Js Is going with another girl andI haven't tried in flY any way to take him away from her When I talk to hIm I do so in a friendly way without any thought that he is trying to make makeS S a hit with me Our conversation has been jolly but not bout about each other to v Recently an item appeared in cur our school paper connecting our names together I was so erne embarrassed ern- ern e when I saw It I nearly passed out for fear ear he would think I had put it In or had made one of the reporters think I 1 felt that way Then to cap the climax climax cli- cli max one ot of my friends told me today she had asked this boyS boy it if liked me and that he said thinks I do but I dont He 4 Ill Th Letters Question and requests requests re- re quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- dressed to BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA A K Eo E. Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you ap pond pend the right name and address ad- ad dress dres but these will b be held in strict confidence and wilt will nut mit appear in print Questions involving involving in- in advertising Information cannot annot be answered has acted very strangely as i If ho he didn't want to see me or talk to tome tome me since the Item appeared I reel feel so unhappy about this I just cant can't do my work He HeIs HeIs Is such a nice boy and didn't deserve deserve de- de serve to get publicity with my name him in that way Is there anything I can do to clear this mesS mesi up Many thanks UPSET It Jc Is Quite possible that some ome joke jok jokester ster having more humor such as it was than tact put the item in the school paper Try to find ind out who did it and make the boy understand very definitely that you are innocent In the matter and that it would seem that people cant can't even be friendly I with each cach other without someone trying trying try try- ing to make it appear that one or the theother other has a case Let him know you are as much embarrassed over the situation as he could ever be This frank friendly t talk k should at least dispel any doubt in his mind as to your innocence concerning the item in the school paper QUARREL WITH STEADY Dear Miss Blair For six months I had been going going go- go ing steady with a boy of 18 just one year my senior Then two weeks ago we quarreled and I haven't seen him or heard from him since I love him dearly and andam andam am sorry about the Quarrel which was wac as much his fault ault as asit asit it was mine Do you think I should 1 take Ike the first step to try to tomake tomake make up E E. E R. R Not unless you are sure you were much to blame about the quarrel If the boy cares for you as much as you do for him he wIll make some move to resume the friendship I II not it is just as well that you ou take steps to forget him Men know instinctively that women forgive and forget quickly when they care for lor someone consequently if they care enough they will take the first step toward a reconciliation I |
