Show DISCORD IN IS CERTAIN TO AFFECT CHILDRENS CHILDREN'S S BEHAVIOR Y Youngster in Midst of Quarrels Forms His Own Conclusions Is your child an unman unmanageable gc- gc able Tact patience and understanding un un- will change the sit sit- nation Send for lor Mrs Eldred's Eldred leaflet How to Manage Manace the Child Wisely Inclosing a self self- addressed c 3 cent 3 nt stamped envelope envelope envelope enve enve- lope with your request to th Mrs Eldred in care of or this newspaper By Dy MYRTLE MEYER l ELDRED The difficulty in dealing with behavior be behavior beJ havior at ot its i r face ce value is that th the discipline Is so seldom successful It ia 18 8 as 35 futile as os wiping of off a dirty wIndow window win dow as often as It is dirty rather than lengthening the smokestack from which the dirt Is pouring or learning new is a minimum of This is s the theold old argument nt of pf cause cauSe and elect el et feet but we are sUil far too too mo often slaves laves to the policy of LOt dealing with effect and rid letting Caus cause al alone ne Here Here Is is is a year old whose home life ife is discolored b by his paren parents parents' cling He himself is ie bad as bad con can be e. e He Is is disrespectful to He tie hates his older sister He IS is utterly utterly ut- ut terly erly antagonistic and incorrigible What That can his parent do to m make ke him better First this mo mother her should take stock of wh what this world looks like to this particular year old Here is a small and helpless human being surrounded by a hostile world His only 9 natural protection against it are his parents They erect o Q house around him They offer him food They hey answer l his Ws s questions Supposedly they shower him with love His sense o of security flourishes under these conditions He can thumb thumb his his nose at death hunger pain and the uncontrollable elements Then his parents parent quarrel The Thc tether father says sac mean and disrespectful things s to the wife wire who returns them in kind Possibly quite probably there are threats o of divorce The child feels his security tottering and being t terrified d and insecure he does all oil the incalculably mean and horrid things which are the outgrowth of his fear Ever Every child is terrified by the evidences evi dences of or parents his dislike for each other Living with a par parent nt who is torn by unhappiness nes and dissatisfaction tion is certain to react on the dispositions and b behavior havior of children One couldn't im imagine imogine gine such a parent being placid or happy or confidence inspiring inspiring ing to her children Likewise if il parents cannot control their own tongues in front of their children how can they demand that thata a old 4 be controlled Authority is built bunt upon respect for the person perron wielding the authority It is never built on fear of or punishment alone This particular household n needs ds z a salutary shakeup and it must begin l at its roo roots ts a changed aUit attitude de of or the parents toward each other Then we may expect some change in the childs child's behavior |