Show i PL ULTRAMODERN WIVES L DIFFER ON PROBLEM ADV ADVANCED BY SCREEN l f Confidences on id n nes es of Young Daughter Arc So Frank Mother tr r Is is' is Nonplussed Tho Though gh Grateful Girl May J Kindness Shown Return Y J By BETTY BLAIR Ir Human nature does not change Trite but true With all poll their claim to sophistication to being steeped in ultra ultra- modernism human beings behave today day very much as their old-fashioned old grandsires arid and did when faced laced With the problems that stir the deepest human emotions Dear M s Blair The showing of or a recent film has started a fierce ar argument mc t among young oung matrons who pride themselves t that hat h a t q the they are ultramodern ern era which includes being very The They believe in taking life on the chin with a a grin erin but there are only three J. J of the dozen who claim unwaveringly that their philosophy philosophy J phy of life could allow them to tic ac- the theory of the film fUm and continue continue con con- to live under an hus ex bands band's roof after alter he had taken unto himself another wife no matter how much they might like the other wife The rest of us claim that no matter what the cause for divorce divorce di di- vorce no woman who vho had ever at fit any my time loved her husband could calmly continue t to live under under un un- un I der his roof root while another till filled cd her time one-time place Even though all romantic love for that husband husband hus hus- band had fled even though the realization had come completely that their lives could not blend she he would still fiercely b. b resent the fact that another nother had succeeded where she had failed with one whom she had once loved We would like your opinion on this question Miss Blair and thank you ou THE UTHE GROUP Christa famous author from whose book the play in Jn Uniform was made has recently advanced the theory that any number of women who liked one another all of whom have been married to the same came man at one time or another would not object to having a common common comm n roof shelter them The flattered gentleman would be acting husband to his current heart interest only The others would be an auxiliary society wives emeritus one might call them But try as we may we we- cant can't see sec a any lease lense to a progression of wom women n wanting to stick around after they had bad lost interest in the theman man Certainly they wouldn't be there if they Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- arc dressed to MISS B BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E. E Write legibly upon only only one side of the thc paper It Is necessary that you ap append append ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held In fa strict confidence and will nut not appear in print Questions in advertising information cannot be answered still loved him And not loving him hn they would be bored to tears to still stil have to listen to him singing in the bathtub or or complaining about the way his eggs were co cooked ked or r his c cof coffee coffee f. f fee boiled boned If they were young and modern and ver very sophisticated th they y would much prefer going out and making I new newer r gayer conquests Of if it the they 1 I still loved him they would be tr trying ing to recover recover- him or to forget him Neither of which could be done by pla playing around under the nose and the watch watchful ul eye of ot favored one No when two people have loved each other it is impo impossible i l for them to do a brother and sister act If they are able to do so it is because the they never did love in a high romantic fashion They never had sheer moments moments mo mo- ments of oC ecstasy or upset each eath other ver very much There w was from the beginning beginning be ginning only the sister brother groping grop ing for each other If a woman is emotionally disturbed dis over a man the last thing In Inthe Inthe Inthe the world she could do would be to take a seat in the wings another another an an- other woman played th Jh the lead in this this' mans man's show She would get out and if she makes no claim to sophistication tion tion wo would ld probably make ke a scrap scrap- bock of the memorable scenes that thrill thrilled cd her in her one man play and forever wish wish though she Me may not admit admit ad ad- mit it that it-that that there would be more curtain cur curS tam tain calls Of if she Is ultramodern she may start a play f her own patterned patterned pat pat- after the one she knew and loved so well f J- The trouble with most women women- and men men men-is Is that they are still on speaking terms with a dragon with green eyes Perhaps a a great m many ny women would like to be modern No doubt they try very hard but when it comes right down to the thc actual practice most of ofus us behave after very similar patterns when a- a crisis arises NONPLUSSED MOTHER Dear Miss Blair I was married when very young I and my ray year old daughter seems more like like- my s sister ter than i my say daughter sh She seems seems so grown grown grownup up and even in some some ways leaves I me far behind in her modern modem ways of knowing and doing things E Even e though I have be been n married mar mar mar- ried ned only onh 17 years I wo wouldn't hav have thought of confiding to my mother that my boy friend p parked his car and became very roman roman- tic Much less would I have told her that he kissed me I would probably have said that we had hada a flat Jat tire and blamed our laten lateness late late- n ness s. s In getting in on that As a consequence my mother and I seldom had confidences But my young oung daughter tells tens me methe the exact truth and sometimes I am utterly nonplus nonplussed ed I dont don't want to stop slop these confidences yet she he seems so well to know how to take care of herself that my advice seems almost super super- I wonder vonder i if other mothers have this this' same experiences with their young daughters SISTER H Between most modern mothers mothers and daughters dauters questions of love and sex ex h have vc been taken out of the mystery story tory group and given encyclopedia rating And when your daughter tells ells you that a high school football star star- tar grew crew very very romantic in the moon moon- light Ight she probably is seeking in her forthright way to have you OU verify her belief that a kiss kiss to to some men means more than a handshake and andin andin andin in addition to have you ou tell her i indirectly in- in dIrectly that nice girls dont don't allow the he boys to park by suggesting that men prefer girls whom the they must pursue not those who let him stall he the thc engine and then kiss him for foz it Twentieth century mothers even admit dmit to their daughters that their own problems weren't so very different different differ differ- ent eat from those of girls of today A Adean Adean dean a of ofa a coeducational nal school ic- ic re- re announced that girls admitted in n a questionnaire that they talked over their problems of love and sex with their mothers Your position is not unique and may we we suggest that you rou should keep your daughters daughter's confidences confidences con- con by realizing that her earl early experiences tie are not unique ith Hh r r- r but that hat th they y r require very very skillful handing handling hand hand- ling ing in order th that t she continue to hold holda a high place lace in the minds of her boy boyf f friends oJ GIRLS GIRL'S PRIVILEGE Dear Ml Miss Ir A boy whom like very much has taken me out t several times Would it be out of place for me meto me rue meto to invite him to my home and then ask him to accompany me to 10 a party The girls only are arc Invited Invited invited in In- to the party and are expected ex cx- to to invite ite their own p part part- it ners nen Thank you for the information mation BESS Since the Since the boy has shown this friendly friend friend- ly feeling toward you it would be quite all right for you to invite him to your home and nd the party at which the girls are asked to bring their partners |