| Show zi INDEPENDENT GIRL GIVES PRECEDENCE TO CLINGING VINE ft c. c j Pu Publishing lishing of Marriage License Mar Marriage Laws Answered An- An f. f kf in Three Problems Inhibiting Shyness v 4 Possesses Girl in Teens By BETTY BLAIR It is human nature to want to be necessary to someone's happiness The girl who makes it appear that she needs no nomore nomore o more than herself and the circle of friends she has built around her own personality deprives a man of the thrill of being needed Dear Miss Blair Lately I have h had d occasion to notice particularly the k kind of or girl most boys really fall for I S know that boys like to t take ke girls out who are arc in for 3 a good time but I be bc- that when it comes to settling on one girl they choose au the the girl who isn't quite s b in dent They seem to toI like a a girl who is isa ismore ismore r a I more more of the clinging clinging cling ing vine type sJ Now I am not at atall atall atall all the clinging vine type In fact I have always ai thought they were weak and spineless and I have tried my best to be just the other sort Maybe Mabe I have become too independent independent independent inde inde- pendent and have made myself too conspicuous by it I have many boy friends and seldom lack for dates to important parties par ties but seldom do the same boys ask for a second date Can you tell me the reason LADY DUFF In the days when had its rise the clinging vine was was regarded con contemptuously by her critics as weak cak and spineless probably also as Insincere But say what you will about bout her today she's the type that appeals most strongly to men To the average man she has more charm than her independent sufficient self lightly boiled hard sister It is easy to see why When men fell for lor the sufficient self type typo they relinquished their ancient hold of beIng being be be- ing necessary to the happiness of the best beloved Or so it seemed The wholly independent girl found in herself herself her her- self in her work in her play pay and in her point of view the reason for her existence If the man she liked best could keep up with her all well and good If not and he tagged along at ather ather ather her heels she despised him and let him know so If It he surpassed her hershe she hc left no stone unturned to beat him at his own game And she made madeno no pretense at keeping her light hidden hidden hid hid- den under a bushel Well it just didn't work It has so o long been the prerogative of men to o feel important and strong to have someone ook up to them for help belp and protection And do you suppose suppose suppose sup sup- pose now that they have had their eyes open that they are going to relinquish relinquish relinquish re re- re- re linquish this ancient right without a battle royal They arc are not So the thc clinging vine is having her innings But if she is wise she will inject a great deal of Intelligence that she uses subtly into her For Forno Forno no intelligent man today is looking for lor the thc beautiful but dumb type What Is the sufficient self-sufficient independent independent independent inde inde- pendent girl to do For her ability to row her own boat never did actually actually actually actu actu- ally mean that she didn't like another hand at the other paddle Well she need not be insincere to make the theman theman man she cares about feel her dependence depend depend- ence on him She can confide her problems to him and ask his advice on important questions She can feel grateful for lor his his' interest She can retrain re reo re- re train raia from mentioning her shortcomings shortcomings ings for sh she insults his judgment when she admits that she Isn't as perfect perfect per per- teet as he thinks she is And most Important of all she can stop attracting attracting attract attract- ing mg so much attention in public For I though men may be amused by a girl who makes herself conspicuous it is only when she the is escorted by somebody some some- body that they laugh 1 MARRIAGE LICENSE Dear Miss Blair Will you please tell m if it is possible to obtain a marriage li license Ii- Ii cense cease in this state without having it published in the newspapers DOUBTING THOMAS There are certain well wen known county seats within the state where marriage licenses have been obtained and marriages kept secret We do donot not tot know how this is accomplished as records of this sort are open for forthe forthe forthe the newspapers Speak to the licensing licens licens- lug ing clerk about this matter and about your our second question which h we may maycot may Slot hot publish NOTE TO BUDDY The safest thing bin for your friend to too o 0 would be to get rd permission to arry through his parole officer NOT OF AGE Dear Miss Blair R I am not a citizen of the United S States tes and I 1 am not of age My parents are arc away from this country country coun coun- try on a mission Will I have to have my parents' parents cons consent nt before I 1 can marry DUMBNESS Any boy or girl under legal age must have the consent of parent or legal guardian before a 1 marriage license Ii- Ii cense cease will be granted Parental consent con con- sent n in writing if confirmed is ac- ac r S SHYNESS YN INHIBITS HI ITS I Dear Miss Blair I have always been shy around c a the ThC boys Lately it Is much worse I 1 am in my second year high and I think I have havea a II very bad bid case of inferiority i complex I think it is my looks and my dress and the things I Iny Itay tay zay that make boys dislike me or at least e have av no interest in me mc Can you tell me what to do doto to have more friends Thank you TINY You need to stop thinking so much J about yourself Tiny And in order to do this his you must engage in a hobby bobby of some kind Are Arc you interested inter inter- sted ested in music or athletics in literature litera- litera lure ture or languages Join a club which has at heart the promotion o of 01 your our main interest If there is no aut such club organize one among girls Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- re- re quests for lor advice should be addressed addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKES LAKE K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in iD strict confidence and will not t appear in print Questions involving in in- advertising Information cannot annot be answered b and boys who haie have the the same same Interest at h heart art It is hard to get boys DaYs to join clubs so if you cant can't do so make the membership consist of girls only In others other having the same or similar Interests you ou will forget much of or your painful consciousness sell your thoughts will become more Impersonal Imper and soon yo you will learn that it was only because you foolish ideas concerning yourself that you imagined others were doing so |
