Show tO BETTY Q should be addressed to Miss Letters Lette anti and questions for fer the department one side Telegram write only on one Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt Lake name and ss but theSe or of the p paper per It IS necessary to append your Lost and found notices not be published f ue are held in confidence and will cannot be published in the column GOOD MANNE MANNERS S Dear Dur Miss Blair This is my first entrance to your cozy corner I hope I am welcome Please tell me how to accept an invitation to go anywhere wit with a aboy boy How shall I receive him bin at my home and what shall I sa say to conversation keep up an interesting What things should we talk ab about Tha Thank k you JUST ME manners are arc a e necessary adjunct to the tho kind of J would claim Just ro Mo And a ng with agree le manners which after hII are just the sauce one must have since which Is the rea real meat of the diSh ou would serve I Jc you OU are aro P In the thou thought asked to go that you OU have teen been ome place wIth a. a say sayDo 51 Do not be afraid to exPress real genuine pleasure both in be being asked and th the party or WI whatnot what what- not is over O Do not be effusive e A Id I'd love to gO mere Thank you 00 Is f sufficient and afterwards Had 1 iI grand tine time Id I'd like Uke you rou to come O io tho some time for an c eye eye- sting r It Is always the girls girl's place to invIte a a. young Oung man to caller call on I er at her home after he has sho ier consideration b by asking hero her to io o out That Is if fC sh wishes to continue the When he comes to the house aU ou have to do again Is to be aTee ble Sa Say Well ell Im I'm glad youve you como come Come right In Id I'd lIke to have you OU meet my mother and dai datI In making the introductions to yo yoi our i f mily say Mother this Is Di Dick Gr Griham ham and this is my father ath Ick The mother will vill say How H do OU do do DIck Its It's nice o of you to come and see us is Your father w will hands bands with DIck and pro probably ably say the weater er r it If nothing else eIse comes to his ml mind mindIn In time S Well what have you OU been del doing with yours yourself l lately This formu formula nay may lead Dick on to talk a hiti about himself But i if he should a say mere h Oli nothing just the ear earold same to sta start old thing Its It's pp to you ou another lead Talk about a recent movie you ou have seen the most i Interesting In- In events that have bave been broad ast latel lately the local curre current events e Perhaps Dad has been n to a abood good bood match and has so some remarks to make maie about the char cham- cham ion Tune In on the or p pon put on a new record JC If la lags Probe DIck with questions to fInd pt t what he really realy Is interested I In lie he is building a tube 2 rad radio Fet down In the and just ding to ten tell somebody abo about it perhaps be Is working or goir going to school and has his own problems I to meet every day FInd out the they are and let him talk to yo ou about them And you OU must lend a listenIng ear 1 If yo OU would be friends 1 To have Interesting topics of conversation conversation con con- for use oi otIe must have interests In a a. vat variety of f things These bits bite o of conversation conversa tion are mere makeshifts to lea leaone lead ont one on to more Interesting topics topic I If you OU do not have a real love Ic for something o Other er than people your you conversation will be mostly goad gossip about personalities Cultivate Cultivate- deep and abiding interests In creative creative crea crea- tive work of some kind in music musi art artS forms of o dancing an angot anet an got et your OUr friends Interested in uk forms o of culture These are th the that salvage alvage one from ones one el in times o of real mental an and 1 physical distress and that provida provide provid a common meting ground for topics topic of conversation with friends of Ilk Uke ambitions Happy that you ou came cam I Just ole ie S SNOW PUDDING This recipe from a Bride Brid herself comes In in- answer to Ne and in inexpensive fn- fn ride appeal for simple simple- expensive desserts box gelatin In h pint cold water for hour ilOur pint boiling bolling wat r added edde to gelatin at end of j hour Cool Coc add 2 ups sugar ani and whites 3 eggs Ff Flavor vor with al almon mon mond or vanilla Beat all together eg beater until very white whit and pour into molds serve with Ith sort soft custard Serves six Sot Soft custard Yolks of 3 eggs J teaspoon tea tea- spoon vanilla 1 pint milk cu cup Fugal Fugar Beat eggs ss and s sugar gar until thick and creamy cream add to hot milland mill milk and cook until thick Add vanilla strain and pour around puddIng just before serving ser i g. g LOCATION OF FRIEND Dear Miss Blair Could you please help me locate a very dear deal friend of ours of whom We have lost track His name i is and he is a nephew c of Brigham Yo Voting ng We lived out o othe of the city ci y for a few years and zinc since returning home have been unable t to locate him Thank you very mud much for fr a any y information you are able t to give give MAB 5 A famil the family the husbands husband's name th the same nm as that gIve resides East First South street ThenIs There Then Is is' is no t listed under that tha name You ou are Welcome 5 WASHING COTTONS Dear Miss Blair I S Do you know of f any method o of washing cotton goods prints per per- cales cales etc so that they re re- re that starchiness that comes come with them when new I have heard that there is a way of doing this thi and nd I thought perhaps you night might bi be beable able to tell me Thank you Ver very much muc INQUISITIVE As As with so many or of our household household house house- hold recipes we are indebted to tc toone one of our readers for this formula o of washing cotton materials for fo which ou ask Here it Is Wash all k dark or colored linens in flour made by mixing the flour with ith cold the then pouring boll bolI- ng water over it until it is trans trans- parent no strain more strain and cool Use no soap wh tl then n J S c t c In several cool clear chear waters D DIn Dry and mu muslinS muslinS' mus- mus In shade Dainty la hug linS' also are beautIfully washed In Inthe leavIng the a articles ar- ar the same manner tides after aCter Ironing like new gOod goods You are very welcome MARKETS FOR POEMS Dear Miss Blair Enclosed please find two poem poems Forgiveness Forgiveness Forgive Little Children and ad ness the latter of which I wro wrote in 1926 at the ago of 18 1 ha have many others along th lines of philosophy and life These writings writ writ- ings seem to come to me in in a flourish if you know what I mean mea and the name Bedana always at What magazine night might bu buthis buy this sort of stuff You may kee keethe keep the enclosed and do what you wis wish with them Shall watch the column colum reply Many thanks w. w WJ j. j E. E E Thank you ou for the gift gItt of th the poems gotten otten up In iii such artistic artisti st style le I wIsh that I might be abl to tell you OU offhand Oland of where yo you might sell them but that Is Ia a matter mat the pub pub- tel ter that no one except Usher whom they may happen t to pl ase could solve 1301 for you ou I It seems to rn me that they are boa best suited to religious magazines an and andI I L should try first one and then another an an- other of these a list ot of whIch I give you always alwa's remembering to en enclose en- en l addressed self envelope en en- lose close a stampe elOpe for tor their return should the they not be accepted This EMs sending about from ono one publisher to anther another an an- other ther after obtaining a a. general ide Idea o f the tho kind ot of materIal accepted bIach by bI each ach is the manner In whIch all ai writers seek and sometimes find the he desIred goal Most relIgIous magazines howver how how- ever ver pay lIttle for for- manuscripts many nany of which are of offered gratis or r paid for in a special way fox for by givIng one a subscription ion tion to the magazine for one year Here lere is n a lIst o of relIgIous publications ions that pay a small sum for tor accepted ac- ac verse erSe or pay in this special Era way ray Juvenile Instructor Young oung Womans Woman's Journal S SQ- SQ clety Magazine all In Salt Lake City ity Uplift Magazine 1740 Sacramento Sacra Sacra- mento street San FrancIsco Cat Cal DavId avid C. C Cook Coole PublishIng company Elgin ilgin Ill American Messenger Park ark avenue New York Christian Advocate 81 NashvIlle Tenn en Ye We advIse too that other than depending on tile the flourish that you ou study very assiduously such booles as may be had In your public pub pub- lic C library on the technique of o poetry writing On One must not depend de- de pend end on talent alone In this writing game tine one must add adl to It technique and ad man many hours of hard work worl We Wee are e wIshIng for the successful placing ing ig o of your poems MATTRESS COMPANIES Dear Miss Blair Could you give me the address of the company where rags may besent be besent sent and made into mattresses I think the company is in Prove Pre but am not sure Thanks very much MRS S. S The only mattress company lIsted in the Provo directory is the Utah County Mattress company West Second North street There are a number of mattress companIes In Salt Lake that make over mattresses mattresses mat mat- tresses to order You nay may get in touch with them by looking up Mattresses in the business directory directory di- di rectory o of the telephone book You are welcome MARRYING AFTER DIVORCE Dear Miss Blair I think you are very kind kid and heart consoling and that you show an understanding of people Will you kindly answer these questions for m mit How long log after a man gets a divorce from a woman woman can he marry again What is a cure for pimples pimples' and enlarged pores pores Wish big ing you health and happiness and thanking you very much SKINNY S A AIn In the the stat o Utah one erie may remarry remany re- re marry man after atter the first sIx months o of the Interlocutory decree dec have elapsed Please send stamped self self- addressed envelope for r aur printed material on the cure of blackheads l an pores Thank you l EXPERIENCE AN IMPERSONAL BUT GOOD TEACHER Among the cl chief e questions which harass the young oung mother are Ulse upon the subject o of how far she may go in allowIng natural Penalties penalties Penal penal- ties o of behavior to cr punish unish a child She knows that I if she can ean let the thela ian la which the tle child is breaking either social moral or physical administer administer ad- ad minister its own penalty the child will learn a valuable Jesson esson Most In conscientious households are ai- ai aitoo too protected against the results ot of their own misdoing They bave have o have bumps and bruises incident on learning how to walk and putting tIre them in contrivances contrivances ances that support them or eon con holding their hands and then making a great fuss fusa and to-do to ov over r them when the they do fall Is one very g good od way of preventing theIr learning learning learn learn- ing how to walk That is just an incident of course and not misbehavior When the begins to pull at things on the table it might be well for tile tho mother moth moth- er to prepare to table for just such sucha a pulling U If she Puts on a cloth that will not be harmed and a. a book boole that may tumble against the as he pulls it toward him baby will learn that there Is a real reason why le Ie should not pull things from the table He very shortly learns to get the about the natural obstacles in a a room because he has discovered that it hurts to run into them J If he puts his hand on on the hot he discovers discovers' that his finger is I burned These are all natural penalties penalties pen pen- involving th the nature o of physical cal things which the bab baby can learn without real injury to elf It If th mother after these mishaps says saS Fall 0 or Bump in the propel prop prep er el situatiOns ns the baby fits a mean mean- lug In to these hese words that accords With the experience he has just been through Later when mother says No bab baby fall or or Baby y burn himself the words arent aren't just meaningless sounds to him There is no or of encouragIng encouraging agIng a mother to let her child tall fall downstairs to discover that lie he will just as mother said Je he would Instead going up and down stairs has to be taught by protecting protectIng protect protect- Ing baby from them until he has learned how togo to go go up and down safely on h hands and knees or by tt down doron an SlIding from step U H I. I S SOne One small a finger finger fin fin- ger on the hot radiator or on the red lIght on f tl er cigar or a fall due to at a heavy chair 01 the bump from a misused book boole wilt will malte malce mothers mother's future negations have meaning It r Is better If the mother sits sits' back quietly and lets some coma fome of these natural things o long lone as they are only and temp i rIly than to constantly prot ct a baby from the con ot of misbehavior Ye We must protect a child f om real dangers and we cannot put the re- re I on baby and then blame hIm when he misbehaves I tOld him he shouldn't do Hi never excuses excuses ex- ex exi ex- i the mother b but t sonic some painful l penalties can be best by exPerIence and should let experience give th the lesson le son S FLUFFY SWEATERS I If you oU add a at t p on o of borax borax to the wate i which you rou both bothI wash and sweaters they willbe will I be fluffy a I |