Show BETTY Letters and questions for this depa department ment should be addressed to Miss Betty Blair Hearts Heart Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only rn in one sills of the paper peper It Is necessary to appen jur Ilour name and address but I ar held In confidence anti and will not bo be 6 Dear Cear Miss Bl Blair ir I hope you will help me as you have helped others Does a wife take a husbands husband's privilege and does he believe he is henpecked merely because she wishes him to spend his evenings with her Dont you think if the wife gives gives' her love to the husband and is content with him should be and deem It a duty to stay with her evenings My husband is a miner and he never stays in if there is no work for the next day And he never stays at home the days he doesn't work nor the Sundays he isn't working Also my my husband has a relative next door whom he visits most of his idle days yet he tells he he loves me but he isn't going to stay in with me any time unless he has to work the next clay am 1 am a young wife and am broken broken- l e Over his and I tell him so but he says it isn't neglect My husband has sm small ll children by by- bya a former marriage that I take care of I am good to ny my husband but I cant can't help reminding him of his neglect when he has remained away all day or during an evening Please tell me what would be best never to mention his neglect or to 7 leave Thanks for your column BROKENHEARTED 31 f. f not be fair but it see seeto to work out that way that as soon s you ou make mako affection or devotion matt matter r of duty it is s no longer Cant Can't you ou make your your- elf f elf and your our home so interesting d attractive that ur have no desire to spend his leisure time It vIlL not be do any good to mention his his neglect but do you think that leaving him will solve any or bring him back to you i uch a desperate and final st step p 4 necessary From what you tell us you are ale doing your share In giving your our love loveto tp to him in in caring for his children and In keeping up the and andon on on the surface of things he seems very ery selfish selCis But B. B 11 n 31 there are are many other things that go toward toward to- to ward happiness s and contentment the little subtle touches that hold the affection of a man and make him want to be with you ou at all times possible Have you rou studied your Do you ou now know what he likes and what interests hIm Ot Of course you can easily say But why should I do all this when I am am giving more than he is is anyway t Why shouldn't he be stud studying ing rue mt ruei i and finding out what I I. I like and how to keep me happy That is perfectly perfectly- true but it happens that I lie heis is not worrying about you ou and you ou are about him so you must be bethe the one to alter conditions bY analyzing anal an- an al zing them from froni every an angle le and ind searching for the solution All the talking about staying at I y I home in the world will not make him want vant to do it in fact it will only intensify hi d desire sire to get away a so your problem Is to make him want to stay and you OU need not seem so very desirous to haye him We might suggest s' that ou in inist that he give you ou snore more money to have someone come in and andI help y ou with work worl and 1 In caring caring car car- ing or the children so that y You u will iii I have bave more time to develop yo i o own personality to study to make attractive at attractive at- at things to wear and for he house and so on Stop talking to him about his neglect dont don't give gl him an opportunity to tor neglect YoU rou Let him do a little wondering and wishing Find Find other interests hd soon you ou will swill find that he will be be curious to find out u uso uso so happy when he is not there If you will wili only think it all out and NOT SAY ONE WORD you OU wm will soon have your our husband plaYing into your loUr hand Dear Miss Blair I I would like to know if a per per- son son who failed to take his examinations n nations for city mail carrier on the date set set by mistake would have another r chance to get the job or has no chance whatever later Thanking you MRS V. V This information Is given in detail on the application blank Mrs V. V If f he has good and sufficient suf- suf reason for missing the examination ex- ex on the date set set- sethe he a a second application and tal take e the tho examinations when they again are are given but he cannot qUalify br the posItion without passing the the examinations first then appointments are made according according ac ac- cording to rating l Dear Betty Im I'm serious this time as there is something I really want to know I Iam Iam am just 5 feet tall and weigh po pounds How would I look in an suit navy blue or black with a tiny pin stripe white vestee white gardenia etc I could have asked my friends friends- but f ends wont won't always tell what they really think Im I'm not fat see just reasonably plump Shall I suit Betty or go on a hunger strike first Many thanks and best wishes t you ole Top RR R.-R- Youre You're welcome n ITt R. R serious or facetious and thanks f r the good wishes Wed We'd suggest that you both hoth get the suit and go on the hun hunger er strike within reason You can get a lot lotOf Of f wear out ot the suit before you lost so m ny pounds that it would have to be fitted over again and by ran fal you ou can have an any slight alterations alterations altera- altera made that are necessary ou shouldn't lose more than two pounds pound a week weel so that have a great deal of effect on the fit of your suit Your weight should he be approximately pounds lOunds so youJI you'll be happier and healthier If you ou get down nearer your weight even though the excess pounds are not noticeable now nots' creep up upon on you year rear b by y year ar and youre you're I not vel tall so watch them In choosing our suit see that the pin stripes rUn up and do down that the vestee is long and nd narrow 1 and that the lines lipes ar are straight ht and slim and watch the proportion in length of skirt from tIle ground to the bernand hem bern I and from the hem to tho bottom of Ir the jacket so there that there will be no hint ot of stubbiness It If you those poi s that sort of a costume should be ver very becoming beca because se navy blue and black more than an any other colors help to make a person look slender Dear Betty Blair This is my mx first attempt in in en entering entering Hearts Heart's Haven I have wanted want want- ed to join your your cozy corner for a along along long time but have been afraid that my questions might not seem im- im im- im My girl friend and I have alwa s wanted to have a taste of tage life It h has s always been the dr dream am of our lives to go to some high class theatre and give a song and dance skit We can sing and dance and we know most of the popular songs and feel as if we are as talented as many many others who have had the chance We haven't stage fright as we have been in many musical I comedies given by different wards I and clubs in the city Miss Blair we thank you for your trouble and interest that you have taken and would like you to give give your opinion on the subject We Weare are both 15 years of age and blond I |