Show School for Grandmas Is the Latest Teaches em New Tricks I SI I 1 1 4 A l I I Q 1 0 r ii 5 I JI I 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 TH IDI ID- ID i I By VIRGINIA SWAIN N NEA EA Service Writer NEW Jan Grandma 21 m mind nd you get your school work wort now The brooms ot of science sweep clean HavIng brushed the old old- fashioned mother Into discard in favor of the scientific now directed toward the st style old le grandmother S The gingham cooky sneaking band bruise bandaging old saInts saInt's lays days are The Child Study Association of America Is opening a. a gr class desIgned to make ers a blessing Instead of a e to the modern mother ALL HAVE LOTS OF The grandmothers or of New York bring to the class all their problems ot of tangled allegiance In the home warranted and unwarranted Inter Inter- ference etc The class Is a pioneer project It will be followed by similar ones In all cities Soon It is planned every broad d gr grandm ther In the country will be her stuff tinder und tin un- d der r the auspices of the alert asso- asso elation Everybody dY h has s a grandmother it seems Letters received by Mrs from many places IndIcate a wide interest In this really urgent problem of old fashioned grandmother grand grand- mother versus modern mother And t tie e women who attend the meetings here belong to both t types pes of the grandmother white haired black group and the heeled French clan They are le learning about their grandchildren dren what there was was was' no one to teach them ab ut theIr own children ANSWER NOT IN BOOKS How can I be a part of my daughters daughter's family without intrudIng intruding Ing or Why does my my grandson resent my Interest In his school schoolwork schoolwork work or or- orIs Is it right for my daughter law to forbid my giving candy to the children they ask And nd Mrs answers not from books but from that store ot knowledge knowl- knowl edge which she has gained in her own family and from the confidences confidences dences of hundreds of other women whom she has met In her thirty years rears ot of work with the association The most Important question Is that ot of dIvided authority in a I house she B says ys MOTHERS RESENT INTRUSION Let the mother with rule the grandmothers grandmother's subsidiary advice e. e A Achild child Is like an animal It knows Its master and resents outside In- In The grandparent who argues against a mother before beCore her children chil chil- dren Is alienating them from herself her her- self for children idealize their parents par par- and are offended by her suggesting suggesting sug- sug gesting that their mOther Is not perfect Then too most mothers however how how- ever patient they may be toward older peopleS people resent an Intrusion on their maternal materna rIghts A goden rul rule for grandmothers is Never interfere In times of ot trouble Get In your good work when the seas are calm and neither child nor mother overwrought The Important all thing for any third party to a family quarrel Is the art of self effacement no matter matter mat mat- ter which side agrees with The second rule on Mrs l stone tablets Is Buy your our grand grand- childrens love with interest not gifts Children are intuitive enough to recognize any attempt to win them Over without genuine interest and affection Ot Of course children love presents but they dont don't love the giver who doesn't give himself too SHOULD TAKE AN INTEREST Grandmothers have ha an excellent chance to build up companionship with their grandchildren by taking an interest in their activities The older woman who does not bear the burden ot of a a. household ought to be a sympathetic to toa toa a child willing to give him the attention attention at- at which his mother cannot give The child fed by rote and test test- tube sadly needs a grandmother oIls Mrs believes I I dont don't recommend rec- rec Indiscriminate feeding of course But mothers should settle with grandmothers what sweets may be given a child and when The youngster whO never got a cooky from his grandmother has missed a lot I think Scientific diet like hing ery els else may be over over- done MODERNS ARE FADDISTS The danger nowadays s 's Is that modern mothers will becOme faddists fadi fad fad- I i in their zeal for the latest methods ToO many children develop develop de- de Into repressed selfish blase adults because natural human at- at was subordInated to somebody's somebody's some some- body's book on child Grandmothers should set their wits against these fads But to select thc good and discard the bad they must study The old fashioned fanatic Is as bad as the new lash fanatic The business of being a grandmother grand grand- mother Involves all the tact and understanding ot of a woman who has lived a long rich Ute life Mrs declares Rem Remember that the young mother is pettish sometimes because be be- cause she Isn't sure ot of her ground and is confused by the advice ot of others Poised and tranquil age should make allowance for tor the tho un- un of youth MOTHERS OWE RESPECT Mothers too have their dutIes toward grandmothers says And the first of these Is to show respect for age If only for an example to their own children The second i Is not to shUt shift the burden ot of theIr children upon the grandmother and not to let her dominate the home And the chief rule of all for everybody concerned with children Is Remember r that nobody Is RIGHT and nobody WRONG in- in |