Salt Lake Telegram | 1951-02-03 | Page 5 | Lonely War 'Widow' Advised to Seek Emotional Outlets

Your Marriage Lonely War Widow Advised To Seek Emotional Outlets By nr Samuel G G. G and Esther Ether B. B HUng Kling r Q What That should a war var bride I Ido do when she finds herself attracted attract attract- ed to another man A. A This question was put to tous tous us recently by a girl in her early twenties whose husband is now in inactive inactive active e service overseas This girl whom well we'll call Clara had met an attractive young man manat manat manat at a party given by her sister and they had enjoyed each others other's company company immensely Undisturbed by the fact that Clara was married Harry had telephoned practically every night requesting a date but though Clara had admitted admitted admitted ad ad- her liking for the young man she had thus far refused to see him again Emotional Conflict When hen we wc saw Clara it was obvious obvious obvious ob ob- ob- ob that she was emotionally I II disturbed There was a conflict between her loyalty and duty to toI I her husband who was fighting in I Korea and her own tremendous feeling of loneliness Ve We could cold also detect a conflict between her 1 love lo for her husband which could not be satisfied for obvious ious reasons reasons rea- rea I sons and her strong craving for i affection which she identified with I Harry I What hat should she do If she saw sa Harry she was afraid that sooner or later she might mig succumb to temptation If she refused to see sec him she was fearful of becoming becoming becoming becom becom- ing even more isolated We e pointed out to Clara that her feelings were perfectly normal nor nor- mal mai considering considering- the circumstances circumstances circum circum- I stances and that she need not have a feeling of guilt about her husband But since she still loved him and wanted to preserve her hermana mana marriage c. c there were several things she could do without getting gettins petting pet get ting tins herself involved emotionally Since Clara obviously needed an object on which to focus her affection we suggested Bug that it might be a sound idea for her to buy a pet on whom she could could lavish sympathetic care I I Keep Busy I To occupy her time lime In the evenIngs evenIngs evenings even- even Ings s she was employed during the day we recommended that she take up sewing knitting or crocheting or offer to do volunteer volunteer volunteer volun volun- teer work with any anyone one of a dozen social agencies that would be glad to use her services on a time part-time basis What hat was important we pointed point point- ed etl out was that she drain off her excessive emotional energy She could do this too by taking long long- walks by bowling or participating ing ing- ingin in some other active sport 01 or by taking up a hobby Finally since she had no children children chil chil- dren of her own she might go in for baby sitting The important thing was as to keep busy so that she wouldn't have ha too much time to brood on her troubles It would help too we wc reminded her to remember that her case was as by no means un un- usual Thousands of war brides with husbands overseas were also lonely But the knowledge that their men are serving their country and that they too are lonely makes them bear up 1 bravely ely