Show YOUR BABY AND MINE I IP P Punishment Is Worst Method That Is Used in Training 1 n Ry By Myrtlo I Meyer I er Eldred What amazes me no end is the persistence with which mothers continue to pass on poor advice ice Experience alone ought to convince them that while they may wish the best results from their advice they dont don't get it it Mrs I I. I F R. R D D. writes I III have been reading leading your advice a long longtime longtime longtime time and now I have a problem My baby is 2 years old and he has not yet been trained for his bowel movement I have tried everything that is possible but the minute I put him on the toilet he starts to scream May I say that that is because of all the things you have ha done He talks well and in two- two word sentences Lots of people tell me I should spank him a n couple of times and then he will nill come and tell me I find now that he tells me after he has done it He is of su such h a tender age ge g-e that despite his use of words he probably does not know kno knothe the symptoms of his need beforehand beforehand beforehand before before- hand You will be lucky if he heis heis heis is trained by the time he is 3 years ears old Dont Don't Confuse Him himi The capacity to control the sphincters of bladder and bowels bowels bowels bow bow- els is the result of growth and development not of punishment You can in m fact influence the childs child's behavior adversely by punishment Then h he gets con con- fused and docs does not know what it is you want Ho Hr knows only that his behavior is disapproved ed and called naughty and so he makes mal an effort to inhibit t the movement or screams his dIstrust distrust distrust dis dIs- trust of the stool Eventually E nature gets the best of him but buthe buthe he hc gives g it no aid You can cnn influence his behavior favorably by telling him how grownups g act and since he is isan isan isan an observant child hell he'll note that all the other members of or orthe the family use the bathroom He will want to copy your behavior but only when he is able Praise Ilk His Success If day in and day out you youg g give gc c him the opportunity to go goo goto goto to the bathroom and choose those times at which he is most apt to be successful then if you praise his successes and ig ignore ignore ignore ig ig- nore his failures you will have done the best you can to make acting in this fashion both pleasant and comprehensible to the child Punishment has hRs no place Inthis in inthis inthis this training If you OU punish it makes him mad and resentful If he finds you understanding and patient he will want to please you And he lie will when time and growth have given him the capacity to do so Our leaflet No 65 Toilet Beha Behavior Behavior Be Be- ha havior may be had by sendina sending a stamped self-addressed self envelope envelope enve enve- lope with your request to Myrtle Meyer Meyr Eldred in care The Trib Trib- une-Telegram une Home Service Bu Bu- reau I |