| Show Your Marriage I Heres Here's s How to 6 I felp Your Child To Feel Emotionally ally Secure By Samuel G G. G and anil Esther B. B Kling Q How can we make youngsters I feel emotionally secure secure I IA A A. A A valuable pamphlet weve we've just received called How to Live I With Children by Edith G G. G Neis- Neis ser and the staff of Chicago's noted Association for Family Living directed by Dr Freda S. S Rehm Kehm supplies frank helpful answers that should be useful to parents and teachers alike First points out the author bu build ld up self-confidence self by letting the youngsters know you feel hes he's equal to the occasion whether occasion whether its it's going to school alone taking taking- care of household chores or attending I Ia a party parly i volve olve the cost of ot a trick South still would retain two diamond I tricks trick which is all he could have I Iwon won in any event I Now when the heart comes back the trick is tal taken en and the high clubs cashed The deuce of diamonds diamonds diamonds dia dia- monds then is led toward dummy and whether West Vest takes the jack or not is immaterial The three of ot diamonds will be the key that will open dummy's door to the good clubs This gives declarer the opportunity to take the tho spade finesse for an extra trick if fC he isso is isso so inclined But 10 tricks are there for the asking asking- Copyright 1950 C C. C H H. Goren Set Sc nd dont don't hesitate to let a achild achild child out his talent or ability If It he ants to paint or sing encourage encourage en en- courage him If she wants to try her hai hard d at preparing breakfast or maki making a dress dont don't pooh-pooh pooh I the idea Even if the results arent aren't I masterpieces ces the fact that youve you've I I d the youngster to try tryout tryout tryout out skills will will give him a feeling feeling- of al security that will stand him in fin good stead in later life Offer orter Praise Praie Third give givet the youngster plenty of ties opportunities for successful I achievement but dont don't set your standards too high Mrs Irs who has two c It of her own wisely observes observe observed that in our efforts efforts efforts ef ef- ef- ef forts to spur youngsters on to to greater efforts t we we often tend to set standards so 80 thigh I at home and school that the children are constantly constantly constantly con con- falling falling- s It is this feeling of never be ng able to make the grade that und undermines a sense of security On L toe e c other hand nothing nothing- so bolsters emotional motional well- well being as knowing you u have done well Fourth offer pra praise Se and encouragement encouragement encouragement en en- whenever r possible This doesn't mean say sayi the author that parents should pu puts a premium on mediocrity or prance praise e youngsters youngsters youngsters young young- indiscriminately Jilt tt merely I means that youngsters like adults respond agreeably to praise and I that its it's an effective incentive to further effort Even when a child fails in some task points out ut Mrs its it's easier for him to try again when hes he's rewarded with an encouraging pat on the back rather than with I knew you'd fa fall fail iH i Accept As The They Arc Are Fifth Firth accept your our children as they are Dont Don't try to raft graft raft on them the personalities and alleged virtues of the child across the street or make male unfavorable comparisons comparisons com com- bet between veen two youngsters in the sa sall household To tell Johnny If you were only as bright as your brother or Clara that the girl across the thc street has such lovely curly hair is to instill in both of ot them the germ of an in inferiority inferiority in- in complex Moreover such tactics give youngsters the Idea that they cant can't really please their parents and hence make them feel emotionally insecure And by all means dont don't ever I give a girl the idea that you wanted a daughter Make each I child feel that he or she was wanted wh whether ther hes he's the first or fifth youngster in the family Sixth allow youngsters certain I privileges And among them Is the right to privacy Every child wants wants' to feel that at a certain time on ona ona ona a certain day he can do pretty I much what he wants to If It you know that on Saturday morning for example he plays baseball dont don't embarrass him by making him run errands Plan your own activities so that they wont won't in interfere interfere interfere in- in too much with his |
