Show Children Are Bound to Quarrel By MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED Childrens Quarrels is the free leaflet that deals with some of these play situations To ob obtain obtain obtain ob- ob tain a copy of it send your re request request request re- re quest with a cent 3 stamped self-addressed self envelope to Mrs Eldred of the Your Baby and Mine department in care of The Salt Lake Telegram If we could only put our finger finger finger fin fin- ger on the underlying reasons why some children get into each others other's hair If the quarrelsome playmate happens to be a neighbor neighbor neighbor neigh neigh- bor we can send the child home We cannot use such tactics when the visitor is a relative Here is a year old who cannot cannot cannot can can- not play five minutes with a year old cousin without pestering pestering pestering pes pes- her pushing her out of the way refusing to let her go through a door anything which always leads to crying The fact that the child goes to preschool preschool preschool pre pre- school and plays very amiably with strange children makes this behavior the more glaring And while nothing has been said as yet between the sisters- sisters law in-law the situation cant can't go goon goon goon on and the two remain friends When the mother asks the child why she acts this way she says I r dont don't like her Just as we do not hit it off with every person we meet so children cannot always find agreeable and pleasant companionship companionship companionship compan compan- with all children even though these children happen to be relatives The real rub Is the animosity which develops between you two when your children bristle and scrap with each other It is q quite po possible sil le that the he older child is jealous of her cousin for reasons which you did not divulge No doubt you are extra nice to the child knowing what is in store for her You In a word fight the small cousins cousin's battles against your own child and she may rightly be resentful of this Also she Is doing what most children do trying to get et the attention of the other child She is using baby tactics but they work because she gets not only the childs child's but your attention as well Id I'd keep reiterating how visitors visitors visitors tors should be treated Id I'd get gether gether gether her nursery school teacher to cooperate with vou you to enforce the lessons Then when she begins to misbehave banish her herto herto herto to the upstairs or the outdoors telling her that the moment she wants to act as she should that she can come back to play |