Show Hearts Haven Lie ie Is Robber Robb r Who o Steals I Most From Liar By BETTY ETrY BLAIR Look jook carefully and you will see at atle atthe atthe the le bottom of many of our woes about bout which we we make the loudest i outcries outcries-a a lie There is nothing which so so- ea easily ily destroys the confidence of others or r which so so quickly vitiates s our I ability to face issues and nd fight them out ut on a reality basis as our desire to 0 hide or to escape behind a lie n It t is the liar who suffers most even even ven from the lie told with the intention intention in- in of hurting another Dear Miss Blair There is a girl who goes to school who ho has done everything in n her power to make life unhappy unhappy un- un happy lappy for me This has made me hate her so much it works on my mind until I dont don't get my lessons essons as well as I should First of all the girl told a alot alot lot ot of mean lies about me to my boy friend He He- believed her and quit going with me to go with her Now I dont don't speak to either of them I used to chum with this his girl but she moved away from our our neighborhood neighborhood rh d although she still goes to the same school Another girl whom we both know has told me of the lies this other girl has told Shall ShallI I 1 go to her and tell her I know what she has been saying and that hat I want her to tell everybody everybody every- every body jody it isn't true Shall I go goo goto goto to o the boy and tell him that all these hese things she has been saying saying say- say ing ng about me are lies My mother doesn't know why this boy and I quit going to together together together to- to gether and I dare not tell her about the lies the girl has told I know if I did she would go right I Ito to the girls girl's mother and have it out with them and I really dont don't want a fuss Only I do want the lies IBS stopped I will do whatever you tell me to do Thanks a million UPSET Its It's the things we do not the lies ies others tell about us that really hurt uirt us If the boy is the sort who ho could believe lies told about you ou after having known you then the le fault is in him not you The Therl girl rl who tells the lies is at fault and nd that fault carries with it its own wn punishment She will have to pay for it without your doing a single thing about it It works this way One who is capable of telling lies is capable of letting etting the fault become a habit Sooner or later people know about the he lies They are like boomerangs boomerangs boomer- boomer angs that come back to smite the teller eller Like murder they will out ut It takes a very good actor to o be a first-class first liar Most people peo- peo pIe e who lie he are only tenth grade actors People also have to have very ery good memories to be ibe good liars ars And the nice thing about it itis itis itis is that most people with good memories memories mem- mem ories ries haven't the inclination to want wanto to o lie he All you need to do about the situation sit- sit is to say when others repeat repeat re- re peat eat to you the untrue things that have lave been said about you by the theirl girl irl Im so sorry she has such a distorted mind But we shouldn't condemn her Lets Let's try to help her Instead Lets Let's think up a plan to help her see some way that t telling tell tell- ll- ll ing ng the truth about people would make her much happier If you suffer because of the lies told old about you what do you think thinks is s happening to her She has probably probably ably bly built up some sort of defense to o justify her telling lie but just the same there is an awful feeling of f disquiet tugging at her con- con science It is really she who hates you ou for those who attack others always hate them Sit down quietly and think this situation all out The lies cant can't really eally hurt you only your attitude about bout them can do evil to you The Thees lies es really hurt the teller because she he cant can't escape the consequences of f what departure from truth does to o ones one's character If the boy believed believed be- be the lies there was wa something lacking Jacking in him and so you didn't lose ose much when he went over to the he other ather girl So after all you should hould be happy neither angry nor norad sad ad except that she should be eo so foolish SPICED NUTS Dear Miss Blair Biair Will you please tell me how to prepare spiced nuts at home for serving at a bridge luncheon r Thank you MRS M. M Brown your blanched almonds and other nuts nuta in the usual man man- ner Lightly coat with fat or egg white and roast or by deep fat fal cooking looking After browning mix one- one halt half teaspoon each of f cinnamon cloves and allspice with three- three fourths teaspoon salt and sprinkle over one cup of browned nuts CREMONA IONA VIOLIN Music Lover Your Lover Your Cremona violin is without doubt one of ot many thousands faked with the name o of Cremona inscribed on them All ol of the he genuine are now inthe in inthe inthe the possession of collectors ORIGIN OF TOGS Dear Miss Blair Will you please tell me how we got our word togs Is it slang for tor clothes or is it a regularly accepted word Thank you DESIGNER The chief male garment of the Romans was called a toga We have corrupted its use into togs togs our our slang for clothes It is one of ot those words which threatens through usage to take its place as goo good English or at least accepted American |