| Show r. r THE ITHE QUINS' QUINS WORK IS NEVER DONE LABOR DAY IS NO Si ii VISITOR IS DISMAYED BY CHANGED IDEAS OF OFf f AMERICANIZED Al COUSINS c W lt t I By BETTY BLAIR c- c When in Rome it isn't so necessary to do as Rome Borne docs does so far faras as as the mere conventions are concerned as it is to assume that thai 4 2 Romes Rome's ways are arc as good as your own and that some good be it 1 ever ever so little may be gleaned from from them Dear rear Miss Blair 1 I am m young girl who has come cometo to your city from a foreign coun cowl try I 1 am established here with a family of my mothers mother's cousins who left the theold old country when my mother was a girl Tm rm sure my mother didn't realize how much everything has changed with her oJ cousins since they left They have become modern and Americanized in every way And though we we speak the some same tongue mother-tongue we cant can't be said to speak the same language People whose ideas differ In every way never speak the same language though all the words they use may be the same They ney think me me very dumb though at home I was considered to have a good educational back back- ground When I i mention some of the great ones who have written or painted or who were great musicians they look at me in avery a avery very disgusted man manner net and make Blighting remarks amo among g them them- selves But they know all the latest swing tunes unes Mother Iother Not Told I haven't told my mother in 1 my letters to her how desperately unhappy I am and what a misfit I am in this family of cousins She had such a high opinion of her cousin when she left England the she would never realize that now she bhe is married and has children everything e could be so different I know there isn't anything you youcan youcan youcan can do about it either cither but I know other people in trouble write to you and II I am trying to find re relief relief re- re 1 lief for my lonesome soul by doing doing do do- ing the same thing I think you will appreciate and understand my situation as you ou seem to have very wide vide understanding of all kinds of human troubles Somehow Somehow Somehow Some- Some how already I feel foci as if I had a friend so thank you for letting me me Inc come HOMESICK x Im I'm glad that writing to me helped to lift the malady of homesickness homesickness home home- sickness from your heart Homesickness Home Home- sickness you know is a fixation of ones one's emotions on on the home and surroundings of ones one's youth When our emotions have reach reached d the full adult stage we do not permit homesickness homesickness homesIckness home home- sickness to occur any more than we j permit ermit ourselves to have tantrums when we cant can't have our own way We learn the way by which adjustment adjust adjust- ment may be made There Is a way to adjust yourself to the family lof cousins with whom you live I believe if you injected a sense of humor into your point of view concerning yourself and them that the day would be saved You would all be laughing with each other instead of at each other for S the differences in your background Employ Sense Sensa of Humor S What I mean is this When you mention the classics to them concernIng concerning concerning con con- which they know nothing and c consequently care nothing about do so not to instruct them but merely to give vent to your own feelings occasionally as means of ot a safety valve Laugh at yourself yourself yourself your your- self for your own seriousness seriousness' as you do so by prefacing your remark with As my old friend and pal Bill Shakespeare says or As liAs Michelangelo once said to me No Noone Noone Noone one one can make sarcastic remarks when you are laughing at yourself No matter how deeply we may feel about things It is a mistake for lor us to take ourselves too serious serious- ly In a hundred years from now most of us will vilI be entirely forgotten forgotten forgotten forgot forgot- ten but the fact that we we may have learned to live with an inner joyousness joyousness joyousness joy- joy may have transmitted itself to t others and have been passed on Its It's the best kind of chain letter we can start going on its way C me meI I in and see seenie me if you can i. i WEDDING ENTERTAINMENT I Nr Dear Miss Blair Will you please suggest how to entertain at an informal home wedding in in inthe the ev evening ning There ThereS S will be no orchestra or dancing S I Thanking you very ery much 5 JUST ME Have you some friends who sing r well or who play instrumental music If It so Invite them to do so for your wedding entertainment If not after the tho guests have greeted the wedding party and been served they may just sit around or stand around and talk to each other before before be- be fore leaving There will b bp those f who will stay but the short time timeto timeto timeto to which the reception is limited others may stay atay the tho entire evening as suits their fancy Usually people prefer to talk at an informal reception reception recep recep- tion and even with music being played many of at them go right on t S doing so 80 I |
