Show GIRLS GIRL'S EMOTIONS CHANGE WITH NEW YEAR FACES r k I t f fk I rT By BETTY BLAIR r. r f Vast numbers of people are mentally full grown grow but on matt matr mat- mat r t rs that involve their emotions their intelligence and knowledge arc swamped Their judgments arc are therefore little wiser than those of or children This applies to many people of keen minds and wide knowledge Dear Miss Blair You have bave given so many people J good advice I am wondering If It you ou can help mc me My problem is rather peculiar and I dont don't know just how to state it without seeming seemIng seeming seem seem- ing to be terribly conceited You sec I cant can't stay in love with any any- one u The gang I go around with is 1 always kidding me inc about m my love affairs and predicting that some day I will really fall In love with withAl j Al j somebody I used to think so too but I am getting older and I am still falling in love two or three times a year and falling out of Cf love just as often oHen in LovoI Love Lovo 1 i 1 Temporarily I will wUl meet some fellow and fall faU for him the minutes I see him r r Then I proceed to tr try to interest 1 him At first they never take lake me meS S seriously though I reaU really am d tt seriously interested in them Then Theny v y when they start to fall a little I lead them on I dont don't want to really but I just cant can't help it d 3 because temporarily I am really oT o- o oin in love with them But when they arrive at the point where they will vIII U GO do anything for me mc and are arc proposIng proposing pro- pro r posing marriage all of a sudden I 6 cool off The Thc only way I can describe it Is to say they actually boro bore me I cant can't help it I have tried and tried to revive my interest in some t fellow who has fa fallen 11 em particularly hard bard and I just cant can't do it What is the matter with me Why cant can't I fall in love and stay that way I am a graduate ate and old enough to be married It x and settled down You may say I It t am emotionally adolescent but I honestly believe Im I'm not I would t appreciate it if you could help meM me M M. r. r S. S rou u ma may have a very keen mind mindE E and nd intelligence but certainly your youra our a lack the emotions stability give stability give condition any name you choose I II I judge so not because you arc unable unable un- un able ble to fall fail in love and sta stay at a aI I high point of ecstasy concerning any Prince Charming but because I you fall so often In other words l your emotions run away with your p better judgment I e The fact that you have repeated I the experience so 50 many times is isI I nothing in your our favor and lessens your our to whip your judgment I J M I into working or order er Isn't it possible for you to definitely make up your mind that love after all aU isn't an aner er r emotion that can stay ate at a high point of ecstasy No emotion can It is something requiring deeper 2 judgment and analysis something J that must take cognizance of theother the I J other p persons person's complete personality his background tastes disposition i a No Leading On Then while you hold your judgment judgment judgment judg- judg ment in abeyance until you are sure S you are right and it takes fakes time to tobe tobe be sure why not leave the role ofa of a leading on to the young man him- him p self The Thc rather flirtatious angle 1 you OU have developed isn't at all becoming beI bea be- be I a coming nor does docs it if bespeak maturIty maturity matur- matur ity it in emotional mal makeup eup d Consider your emotions in the light of a runaway horse get a 4 d tighter hold on the reins dont don't jerk at the bit and then let the reins i slacken en again learn that to pull pulli i steadily and ever er stronger is the theL I way to hold them in check And L S realize finally that emotional I can undo the finest traits of a a good mind and a high rate of inteli intel intel- i Read Growing Into Life j by Seabury a noted psychologist FAILS TO RETURN Dear Miss Blair t Late in the winter I fell in love with a bo boy who seemed to like I me as much as I did him We saw I each other almost every night Then in April he went away He Ho HoS S S promised to write but has only sent two cards and each one had a different postmark with no ree re rei return re- re i e turn address He Ho is the only boy I have really l cared for and it hurts so much to have him just walk off and not notA A care He pretended to care as much nuch as I did Do you think he has fallen in love with another girl that he has that or a a. job keeps him so busy he hc is too tired to write I ma may never see himI him I again and this thought makes me ver very unhappy Please advise me DIXIE Whatever the cause of the boys boy's ne neglect you know it is something large or or small more important to him than writing letters Out of sight out of mind is 15 true for a great many people especially for those who are in love with love and for whom any likely candidate will fill the bill bUl Look about for other friends of your own One has to learn to forget forget forget for for- get in this world as wen well as to re re- re member There is no better way to forget than to fill fUl your life with other Interests that occupy time and mind and that use use up energy so that w when en you go to bed you sleep instead of weep |