Show Some People Realize Love Only Only After After Desertion sLack s- s Lack Notice Of Instinct Until Denial j 1 By BETTT BETTY BLAIR There are some ome persons especially espe espe- women who only begin to love Jove when they are arc deserted With I uch ouch personalities the love of ol their own ego Is Js powerful They do not possess clarity of ot judgment nor enough detachment self to notice that it Is their Instinct to long only for that which is denied them thorn Dear Miss liS Blair I have b been n going with a girl for tor a year We havo have now stopped going steady but I would like Uke tobe tobe to tobe be friends with her to call calI on her occasionally and occasionally take her out But she says she doesn't I Want to ever eVe see me again agam I feel sure suree she doesn't want to gee ate me mc any more in in fact she shet t told ld me so when we talked things over and decided not to see so much of each other any more marc On the night we had our talk she ahe seemed to be quite cheerful about It all aU but since then she acts a ts asIf as asIf asif If I had bad done her a great injury It is 15 true I 1 have been taking other girls out and I 1 am at attracted attracted attracted at- at by y them but not more than I was by her when I first started at going golrig If It she has really found out that she does love me after all I feel very sorry es as I do not want anybody Please Pleas tell me what you think about this case and what you think I 1 should do do HEINE Perhaps like most girls the girl eori concerning whom you write finds it unbearably painful to admit t to herself herself hersell her her- self sell that she is no longer loved She i doubtless a girl wl with a strong ego go without the visible means of ol backing It up and such natures experience experience experience ex ex- a terrific feeling of wounded wound wound- ed vanity This they call ed love though it may not be love sit at ataU all aU If It the girl were to take some ome de decisive do- do delve ellive action to satisfy her hurt ego he ehe he would find this unrequited love theory vanishing into thin air Bui BuL the f fact ct that her vanity has re received received received re- re such a blow has also given her no doubt an inferiority com com- pl plex lex x Altogether she may be very low in iii her feelings Since you dont don't love her the thing for you to do is to make her see that the f fault is in you not in her and that better fish are in the sea ea than ever were caught After that stay lay away away- from her and give her varsity a chance to recover For the time being she has lost face but if f she ahe is as 5 smart a girl as u I X hope she he is she will quickly recover th that t absolutely necessary amount of of- self conceit th that t keeps people facing facing- the world wo ld In spite of difficulties he he will plunge into action into the making of new friends she will drive herself into work and Into recreation that that- will truly recreate I her whole morale orale And if she can cando cando cando do this tills she will have ve learned the J lesson on that no circumstance in life Ute maY be c counted as wholly disastrous te trous Not even the loss of ol you WANTS W ESSAY Dear Miss Blair I X have been trying to find an on Elbert esay essay on Initiative by H Hubbard I 1 w wonder if It you can help me X I I. I want to use it in a speech by bythe the middle of the week so ao o anything you can do me will be much appreciated A flA G. G G Since I have that little essay In I my ray flies files and since I 1 think it would do good to many of ot us UI to read it I 1 Iam Iam am going to publish it in iri th the column then I 1 will be sure you have it The world bestows Its big prizes both in money and honors for but butone butone one cne thing and that Is initiative What is initiative Ill I'll tell you It Is doing the ri right ht thing without being told But next to doing the right thing without being told is to todo todo do 0 if t when you are told once Next there are those who never neverda d da do a a. thing until thing until they are told twice Such get no honors and small pay Next there are those who do the i right thing only when Necessity kicks kicks' them from behind and these get indifference Instead of ot honors and d a 0 pittance for lor pay This kind spends spends' moat most of ot their time polishing a bench with a hard luck story Then still lower down In the aca scale e than this we Te have hav the fellow who will not do the right thing even when someone goes along to show him how bow and stays to see that he do does s it He is always out of a job and receives the contempt he ho de deserves deserves deserves de- de serves unless he happens to have havea a a. rich rieb pa P In which case Destiny patiently awaits around the corner corner with a stuffed club To which hleb class clan db d you you belong long You must remember In using this excerpt that Elbert Hubbard died during the World war and nd that was before the time when the employ employ- ables were out of work in such great numbers In distinction to the em em- there are those who couldn't or Wouldn't hold a job if It was handed to them those who are ALWAYS out of work |