Show JEALOUSY i OF THE LIVING V- V VOR OR DEAD IS NO 1 ENEMY 1 OF SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE MARRAGE I By BETTT BETTY BLAIR lIT J J Jealousy of the living or the dead is an indubitable sign that One ie e has never outgrown emotional childhood Judges and family relations committees place it first as a marriage ge wrecker Dear Miss Blair I X haver hav a er n never er written to your col tima lafore but have read read- it cols constantly for years and recently 1 with the tho o hope that I might see tho the solution f t tl tion 01 to a c certain problem answered through some some other I persons person's question 1 However Ive I've made mind to write up my this problem out in detail and you may 41 cut it as short as you need to for publication 4 I X am ant the mother of four children and my my- only daughter who married well was left a 8 widow with three children when ho eho ho was only 26 Since that time li has remarried She is very much In love with her second hus huz band Sho married d her first husband hus lius- b band rid to please the ambitions of her ier parents pare but buther her second husband husband hus lius- band was wholly her own choice He Be is also so very much in love with her but he ho j is ridiculously Jealous of her dead husband HeIs He Heis is ii also v very fond of the children 1 b cant can't bear to have havea a relative say aay that t o one o of them looks like the tho childs child's own father He doesn't even ven want her to make use usa of pf l 1 lovely iely ely silverware silverware- t that at was given her on he her firs first we wedding Ho O is her life ilfe so c mis miserable ble over th thee small things and himself so pp a. a as well that I am m afraid their their- marriage wH n not t hold bold to tod a er- er If ft something done to him the tho folly of his ways 1 Entirely Past Past My Y daughter has hu conn confided ed in jno io in in her desperation but sho she wouldn't have her husband know that I know v for anything in th the world My daughter docs does not take The Telegram m so I 1 feel safe afe in n I writing this problem to you and asking for your advice in iD tho the nu matter It will I not do for forme me to a tAke hand hanc in to him as ashe h he would only think Iw I was talking I for the memory of her dead hus hus- husi i band Is there there- anything she can cando cando cando do or say say- sayto to make him hint see that that part of her life her life is something entirely ii in the past MOTHER It Will it be possible for your daughter daughter daughter daugh daugh- ter in one one- of her most deliberate and dignified moods to say to her husband I III m married you because I loved y you u truly and deeply You knew when you you- asked me to join ay ray life with yours that I 1 had been married before You knew v there were children and a 8 home homo and all that go goes with tho the lives of married people Y You u- u uc ac accepted c ted jm me ine on that knowledge Now if ff If I 1 was able to forget my life ute and love for lor another man nian enough to love you with all my heart and soul enough to marry you to trust my future t to you dont don't it you think yoU should forget enough to to cooperate with me me- wholly In making our married life lifo a success suc suc- coos cess Pa Past t Present Linked She should tell him that it is as ag impossible S to amputate any part of ot otner liar her past life Ufe from the tho sum um total of her present life and experience without obliterating obliterating- memory nemory altogether altogether altogether alto alto- gether as it would bo ho for him hint to obliterate knowl knowledge dge and the effects of his own home bome life Ufe Have h her her- r say sayS to him hUn Suppose I were to take exception to the fact that you are arG the son on of your mother that she had reared you that you had beeny JY cJ close e to each other Suppose Suppose-I I were to ask you ou to eliminate nate ato your life all and every part part- of yo your memory of that t. t past life y you u would think me mo very child childish ish and amy And that's thata just that's just what her husband 1 Is is childish and Billy BIDy He should l learn t that With th these s children whom he lie h has basS 3 undertaken to father environment environment en en- plays a very very- large part partIn partin in their lives It is a close rival with heredity and som some psychologists psychologists give it more credit for fashioning fashioning fashion fashion- ing lag the lives of human beings beings' than th they a are ao o willing willing- willingto to accredit to heredity I A Avery very strong strong- picture should be drawn for this husband who has not up lip emotionally allY comparing the e futuro future that may be his with a devoted wife and interesting children chil chit children dren with him as an open open- minded open pe hearted emotional ad adult l lt or orith with ith him as a a. self seeking narrow minded emotional adolescent Perhaps Per Per- haps your daughter could leave about for him to read such books as s O Overstreet's Influencing Human Be Behavior and About Ourselves From these ho he should get a very true truo picture of ot himself and the havoc or peace ho he may make of ol his own and other human lives I HOUSEWIFE'S HOUSE HINT JUNT Dear Miss Blair I have just just- made a quilt which is finished d all around with pointed scallops The woman who quilted it for tor me me sa says s 's to overcast tho the edges others say to bind with bias tape Which is tho the best way Thanks for tor any information A Afew few lew years ago it was yas my privilege lege to act as as one of ot the judges judges' in ina ina a national quilt contest I 1 saw quilts with pointed edges both overcast over over- cast in strong thread and bound with bias tape Tho The bias tape tapo gave the neater finish and it it- itIs is my opinion opinion opinion ion it would h help preserve the edges longer than would tho the overcast stitching NOTE TO MILLY Will be pleased to send my circular circular circular cir cir- cir cir- cular on tho the treatment of dry and oily hair if yo you will send senda a stamped self addressed envelope with your request GREEN POWDER PO Dear Miss Blair I I 1 belong to toan an outdoor club and every every weekend vo wo we go go skiing or orr orl tobogganing I love this kind of sport and I have never had such g good od health and fino fine spirits as since I have been roughing it It- so much in in tho the open open Th There Ther r is one ono READERS ATTENTION Hearts Heart's Haven problems ms' ms aro lIro discussed in n drama form Mondays M at 6 p. p m. m and nd at 4 Wednesdays p p. p m m. m over ot Some Somo of these m may y be a yours so dont don't f fail il Jo to fo listen in I thing however that bothers me and that tl Is Js I 1 have hav such a red nose nos when out in the cold ld and I Iam a am subject for many wisecracks cracks from the tho rest of or the crowd I kno know an outdoor girl Is not suppose supposed supposed sup sup- pose posed to tobe be troubled dby by such small sterns and I probably wouldn't wouldn t if my nose weren't the butt for so many jokes Is there anything an outdoor girl can do to overcome this handicap Thank you you WINTER SPORTS A bit bit- bitof of l green powder will make malee a ared red nose look as white whito as the rest of your t fade face e. e And this this' should be good news vs to other women besides skiers rs' rs and skaters whose noses turn vivid pink the tho min to they step out into the cold Experiment with the I green ri powder a little to learn whether It it looks look best J immediately over your foundation cream cream or or dusted dusted dust dust- ed over your regular powder For a nose that gets so red that gr green en powder d es no good atall ataU a makeup film sl be used This is s a grease paint foundation which comes in all aU shades hades to match all al skins Tho The grease paint is to go on tho the nose in place of whatever foundation foun foun- dation lotion dation lotion you use Powder sticks to o it Remember to blend it well weli into nto the skin before applying the powder |