Show jJ PARENTS ARENTS ALOOF 1 t WHEN YOUNG MAN HOME HOMEt t By BETTY BLAIR I Small amenities in manners have been known wn to o c carry rry a per per- json fi n to h his his' s' s go goal l. l If they are truly the outward expression of the 1 J ner k kindliness of the heart hearL they double their effectiveness Sham Shamin f in manners is soon d detected detected- and whole-heartedness whole lacking man- man J rs is often rated as boorishness PARENTS OBJECT rear Dear ear Miss Blair X I wish you would tell ten me mo what Is s wrong with me There is a girl Ie Ire I X e re for a a. a lot but her parents have havea a gr grout at objection to tome p.- p. ff f t me I X can tell teU this S 'S whenever I X go there S At first everything t was Willi wasS Now wh when n nI S I go X t feel as u If ItI X were S stepping Into the e tomb or of Pharaoh Now I X dont don't know S what Ive I've done or s said ld S to cause cause- alt all this As 1 soon as U. U we get way away from the house the girl Kill becomes herself again and treats me S p swell awell But when Ive I've I tried to quiz her I about what S has happened to p put t me meon meOn On jon on the spot pot she always hedges S Im I'm a a. pretty good fellow Have no sin habits so 10 strong I X couldn't break th them If It necessary Im I'm not not one of goody these goody goody-goody boys but I neither drink nor smoke to excess I X imagine the little jl do may have something to todo do with the parents not WAnting wonting their daughter to ta go with me me But ButI I X have never yet otter offered d her a drink I nor hate havel I been high when In her company And Im I'm not even sure lure Its It's this they have against me If U you'd kindly give me rae the low low- flown down on what's wrone- wrone with me Id I'd d appreciate late it I forgot to tell you most of I I have lived In the sticks S my my life Ute but this winter am here I taking IL business budness course My but best I regards to you au SPUD 1 S Maybe Spud you have forgotten forgot forgot- t ten nor or have never learned some of the he bred well well bred things a young m man sian n doe does doe when hem he calls caUs on a girl and meets her family Do you always stand when the mother or daughter daugh daugh- ter are are standing Do you greet the head of the house with a a handshake hand hand- shake and call him Sir Arc Are you on your t toes when there are other small mall courtesies to tobe to-be be performed These may s seem em very small things to a young man who has come In butto butto but from the wide open spaces to people who have bave lived within the confines of good manners they are re Important things Take these same same people out to toS S the thc sucks sticks as s your guests where a R big warm heartedness is always apparent even tho though g the s small amenities be overlooked and they w would uld appreciate the fact that politeness politeness po po- Ilten ss has something to to- todo do with the feeling that comes comes from the heart as well as with outward man man- ners But if It your friends cant can't see this this' they are apt to overlook o it S r I may not slot have hit the nail on the head in your case cae Spud The fa fact t that you smoke and drink though within limitations may have something i e ing t to do with the parental coldness toward yo you You might ight ask this this- 18 question direct of the girl girland a arid and get a IL direct answer but it p would be more difficult for her tot to t tell l you o your manners manners needed Decided brushing up Its It's a good friend InS indeed indeed in in- S deed who ho h has the courage to tell you th that t and if Im I'm right you may feel teel free to call on me for far further h help elp WEDDING INVITATION D Dear ar Miss 1 Blair S I 1 have been en keeping steady compAnY company com corn I pany with a young man who has re re- an invitation to a wedding I reception He thinks the Invitation Is I. 11 supposed to Include me me sue as the family knows we go together Please tell me me whether mether a wedding tion to a young oun man also Includes his Jad lady friend Thank you IN SIN DOUBT A wedding Invitation is for the pers person J only to whom it is sent unless unless un un- un- un less leu otherwise designated It is the custom to send Bend invitations to teach individual bidden to to the the reception S Sometimes names of ot the members of f the same name family are re included in one one- invitation where there is a ash sh shortage of invitations But in your Ca case unless the young man sian has bas been definitely advised that his in invitation In in- n is to include his partner also he must not take it upon himself him him- self elf to suppose it does TRUE TO TYPE Dear Miss JIls Blair I know how bow good you have been to help others out of their troubles so 80 o oS S of I Xam am bringing mine to you too Two Two- p years ears ago I I X I became engaged to a avery 5 very veO nice man mn two years yean younger than I. I But he be seemed older as an beS he be S had bad traveled about a good deal and had had many experiences He Be also alan laid aid audI X I seemed much younger than he vand and that age didn't matter anyway However be he lost his lila job here hete and had to go to a a- neighboring state to find work We Wo wrote to each other regularly for three months month Since that time he jie doesn't s seem em very anxious ious bus to answer my say letters Also Abo his letters have grown colder A A- friend of one of my friends friend came down from the place where my young youn man works and told end told my any friend he was wu going KOmg with another girl She Is a READERS ATTENTION Hearts Heart's Haven Hayen problems are discussed in drama dram form Mondays and arid Wednesdays Wednesdays Wed Wod- at 4 oi P p. p m. m over Some of these those may maybe maybe maybe be yours so dont don't fail to listen liston in girl younger than he and very pretty This IbIs makes make me feel very ery bad Do you think I should should- wrIte writ him and Dond a tell him what I have heard to give Elve him a chance to explain Or shall hall I X write and mention mendon nothing nothing- about bOut It or or shall I stop atop writing altogether I X dont don't want to lose leae him hint If Jt X can I.-can can help It as u I 1 love him very dearly Please ANXIOUS help me While putting up a a. fight for the theman theman man mall whose fervor has grown cold may never never- bring him back to your side still I should think that t-at the th knowledge you had done don yo your r best besto to o keep him even cven though you failed tailed would be more of a sati satisfaction f cUon than the he thought that you had sat passively pas pan by and and- let another take him himoff himoff himoff off your hands Of c course course urse there isn't much you youcan youcan can do over long dIsta distance ce but youcan you youcan can at least make the effort to put new life lite and vitality into your let- let tern Dont Don't write as if you had been laid on the shelf since shelf since he went he-went went away Do interesting things and andell tell ell about them in your le letters Make lake the wish in your letter that he heis ic is is' also enjoying his leisure time There is nothing like good sportsmanship sportsmanship sports sports- manship to win and keep the respect respect re- re of He may also be led cd to indulge in m a few confidences himself Tell him you wish he hc were here lere to join in with the good times Show that your interest in him Is still sun alive This may quicken the thc dead interest in him in regard to sending you more and arid better letters New Interests And if you yu fall fail to o s stir ir up the dead ashes of the old romance set et abo about t tit it t to fill fitl your hours with new in in- in Books art arty music homemaking homemaking homemaking home home- making authorship handicraft of many kinds and then all the tile Interesting in- in resting people people- there are are yet to know enow So many stimulating things to do no no matter you where you are Just make sure you are arc not one of those people modern psychologists psychologists dub wishful thinkers The They aloe afe ire the on ones whoso whose anatomy and ac ac- ac s arc are motivated by by- a wishbone a-wishbone instead of a backbone They're the ones wh who b build ild castles in Spain yet who never lay lay- laythe the corner stone atone of ofa ofa a cottage of their own T They're eyre the ones who look at the romances other people have and do nothing about having a romance of their own People who want want want-to to enjoy life to o its fullest me measure ure must must be doers not wishers And its it's most surprising how much you can do once yo you have taken the first step Be as sure as you can be that this first advance is in the right direction direction tion ion so so zo you wont won't have to retrace your steps and snake make ake a fresh afresh start |