Show MARITAL MONOTONY i I BROKEN BY ANGRY I I ti RECURRING WORDS t l B By BETTY BLAIR 1 I j Quarreling and making uP up can never build the sound ps psychological psycho psycho- chol cho l logical al basis for b happiness in n marriage that true companionship is the latter h happy medium that has in it the true meaning is Ices oes It u. S f lasting alI n pear DIar r Miss Bl lf husband and I have been mar mar- M M O over 13 months and nl- nl l- l little mUe a hare baTe had some very nerl- nerl WC C reAdY ous mis quarrels So Jar far fart r. r i t we ha have e been en able to tomake I make Inake up and we are cry very happy right af at- at The real jill IL fillip trouble Is that wo we get hungry for br Just lust and andO V.- V. each others other's love iii fly into each ench others other's Q O arms without really settling a anything ii 11 Y t h I n a g. g iM Then the things we e L. L have said when hen hen wo were angry an keep cropping cropping crop- crop at the most ping up tip L unexpected time to tomake tomake tomake make more trouble I T h have ve talked to my mother about good quarrels tew thinks n a be e It ft and we aU all right providing are She too much male make up tip again monotonoUS and gets thunder thundershowers the both It takes that ers ers' and the sun to make perfect per per- hO showers thin think aho ahoa hO hOIs weather Do you Is a right that our bar lar to me so seems It good except ex- ex any haven't done I quarrels fact that we WC are very ery for the pt time after we for a short happy But u we ne zeVer er seem to make up the Insulting and cruel things target forget other when to each we have said 5 We sometimes some- some St Is 15 going on light the lo for two or three days times Shout go more than three without ayi saying the tenis ten- ten gords i to each eath other and awful Sometimes simply is lon ilon have n want wanted d to run out of or the when he be goes round around me and stay louse SS indifferent air trying to lo sith I that didn't care whether we if It he ct as friendly again or not ever nd tad e were each time It happens I really whether W we can ever eer er make yonder vender each quarrel sums up up ip Jp p or not RS as very bad thing that was said preciously pre pre- and adds acids a lot more pi Please ase tell me rae what we should do settle our troubles that flare up upi 0 usually with with- an torm usually i ik Ike an mt ut warning yarning TROUBLED Certainly if there is is' too much sweetness in your our marital the pendulum is bound swing just as far in the opposite edtion and the quarrels are in- in it ble But be sure neither exine ex- ex ine me is l laying ing the best foundation permanent happiness rh wife who has enough sweet who has a serve erve in her makeup and vital interests with lich ich to car cary the lovemaking is the pattern of her married firm and strong for her het hus- hus rid ad will seldom weary of seeking r favor Favors that are thrown his bis head ol often n pass clear over 1 d 1 are shattered And it is well to evel every young oung married couple that love has its opposite opposites es s 5 with as wide difference bee beep be- be its extremes e ep een n as has heat with 1 Hot t and cold tour our our mother is right in her theory L Lt it too much sweetness becomes y 7 monotonous but wrong in her herice ice vice that quarrels help the situa situa- on Extreme emotions of anger angerer They er make love stronger ve ye scars that m may y s seem em to heal the time being but each time i wounds are opened the chances iw w V less ess for or permanent recovery his Llis temporary feeling of elation jerl immediately after mak mak- up comes as a natural conse- conse nce nice of the release of the tenn tenD ten- ten D n but nothing has been gained 1 1 much lost fault of quarrel quarrel- ro q Q correct your why not make a firm mutual t that hereafter every quarrel 11 I be bo a person one-person affair That l ever Sever loses his head and starts f reworks will get ct no response m rn the other Each w will vill soon rn not to want to make himself i ul us by attempting to carry a one-man one quarrel t l Self Improvement lear ear Miss Blair I have had a fair lr education but ave never 1 in any anyone one line or have I ever worked Now I t am ama a the fact that I must work I Ilive live e. e two small children and have h nought that while working at small Job I could be preparing for a a. little beter bet- bet er Cr r. r I would like a a. broader ion I think I am aol going to start Ut as a a. clerk I would like to work i Ft an Sn office some someday day keeping books ut lut lutI I thought maybe you OU could tell ic some me library books to read now My explanation has has' bee done but I would appreciate ny suggestions you ou would give le te I read a book once that said cald My Uy explanation has been very f I led leel as f if b I am wasting In great eat deal of mine Thanks a lot j J. J ANN I wish you had given me some t of idea as to the sort of thing thin b I J Letters ques questions t. t IOns and requests for lor advice should hould be bo addressed addressed to to MISS SS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN THE TIlE TELEGRAM SALT LAKE LAliE CITY Write legibly upon only onlO one side of the paper It is necessary ar that you OU append I the right name and address but these will still bo he held in strict confidence confidence confidence dence and will not appear r in ill print Questions involvIng invoking advertising nd information cannot be answered 1 in which you ou ate are most Interested The public library has suggestions for enlarging ones one's interest in reading reading read read- ing tag worked out out under the caption Reading With a Purpose I 1 think you Ou would profit greatly by asking I at the library desk for the list of ot these books and then selecting those that seem best to fit your our particular particular particular par par- needs Here is a short list that I select at random hoping some of oC them themma ma may appeal to you rou The Human Worth of oC Rigorous Thinking by Keyser Education for Moral Growth by Neumann Story of Philosophy by Durant Conquest of Fear by King The Individual in the Making by Kirkpatrick Kirkpatrich American Pictures and Their Painters by Bryant How Music Grew b by Bauer and Peyser Sa Saving Sue Your lett letter r. r is of an nn advertising ad nature and lul ms may not he be used My I ly suggestion is that you OU make Inquiry inquiry in In- at an any bank Brothers Brother's Ol Opinion Dear ar Miss Blair My brother has told me mc I am not smart enough around boys oos and that thatIs Is why they dont don't ask me to go with them I am nm not looking bad-looking and I Idress Idress Idress dress well This summer I Went Invent out with a number of or boys bors but I wish you could tell me inc why they dont don't want to continue going goin with me I enjoy enJo your radio programs and andam andam andam am going to keep on listening to them DOT A girl must be interested in an any number of things in order to o be Interesting in interesting interesting In- In to others Perhaps your interests are too limited or too In- In Doto Dot Check up tip them to see what their number and va variety ya- ya is and then see how much you really reany know about each The girl who expects to hold a boys boy's attention attention attention at at- merely by her good looks and her nice clothes may expect to find him to be a pretty dumb sort of bo boy r T am glad you ou enjoy the thc radio programs Police Dog DoJ for Gift Call Hy Hr W V for information concerning this fine pet which must find a n good home with more outdoor space than that he be now has |