| Show LOST LOST- OPPORTUNITIES V J APPEAL TO V GIRL ASa AS i. i a SUCH AT ATLATE LATE HOUR fc o V V I By BETTY BLAIR V V Some people fancy themselves in love with another when that other becomes inaccessible Analyzed this emotion often lis Js is found sound to be love of love rather than love of any particular indi indi- vidual But since love must have an object on which to light it selects that which seems hardest of attainment Dear Miss Bla Blair Blar For three years up until a year ago I looked upon a certain boy boyas boys as s only a g good od friend At times he heI was as the only one II I V who wo really seemed III I r- r to understand me mer r i f and our friendship f UI F-UI M s 's 11 meant a lot to me mc I V J II Then he told me mc he heI I- I I cared a great deal IF ab about ut me and my I Ii tl Y reply was that there was someone else I cant can't ima Imagine in-e in I I what foolish notion entered our heads but we even ceased speaking peaking after alter that and I looked Upon him hin with scorn and disgust while he said mean things about me rae All for no good reason at all Three weeks ago realizing just how much I m missed d his cheery hello and sensible advice I decided decided decided ed to make amends I met him at ata a place here wed we'd had many good times together and apologized to him the way Id I'd acted We both tried all evening to get back that same friend friendly affection but only succeeded in getting farther away way from each other Now Ive I've found Im I'm In love with him something him something Ive I've suspected for fora forlong a long time Not knowing whether he still cares or not I should like to find out if Im I'm too late Should I just try to be a good pal to him or can you ou suggest something that would help me Thanking you in inI I- I J J- J Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to tf MISS l BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN THE TilE TELEGRAM I SALT LAKE LAI CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It U is necessary that hat you ou append the right name and md address addre 5 but bot r the will Hill be held In strict confidence confidence confidence dence and will not appear in print Questions Question involving advertising Information Information In tn I formation cannot be answered TI I advance for an any help you give j BRITTY A once lost Is never recap recap- You cant can't even cven revisit a beautiful beautiful beau beau- scene that stirred you with a particular emotion and have the emotion or the scene reenact them selves Nothing Is the same today that it was y yesterday nor ever will willbe willbe willbe be again You arc are not the same you were yesterday for you have had hadl thoughts activities or emotions that have added to your our sum total of ex cx When two people see sec each other every day or at least frequently the subtle changes that creep in are are not so noticeable but separated for a period of time and then meeting with the hope they ma may find the same person they left there is a sense of t something g lost or of f something something something some some- thing add added cd Without stopping to analyze the situation and to realize a change has occurred in them also they say M My friend has changed When you two people met you hoped loped to find each other as you were when you ou separated And you discovered discovered dis dis- dis covered to your our dismay that you ou couldn't get set back on the old happy genial plane It would have been far ar better had you met in a place neither of you had ever been together together together to to- gether before if there had been an entirely new set of interests and ex ex- there would not then have haven been n the disappointment of ot failing railing to a recapture an old sentiment that thatis 5 s washed up If you ou ever regain this boys boy's interest inter inter- est t it must be with a new set of in in- Interests First you must build up confidence in yourself as a trustworthy trust worthy friend If you ou could engage him in playing tennis or in some V other activity that had in It no thought of the love Iove element clement that thai played up your vital energies and made you forget the inner longings for awhile you ou would be on far surer footing than to make the attempt attempt at at- tempt to regain his confidence on the old s sentimental basis with mutual mutual mutual mu mu- love as the outcome In other words find this boys boy's Interests interests In in- outside the love element and andin andin andin in a field that you rou haven't expressed together before and help him to express express ex ex- press that interest If he ever comes to love you again it will be because he has regained faith in m your qualities qualities as a friend and real companion He doesn't love you now or be sure he would be trYing to find a way to express it TO DYE WHITE LACE Dear Miss Blair I have some ome lovely Irish point lace I would like to dye an ecru shade I have heard it can be done by dipping in coffee coHee Will you please tell me the necessary steps to take to have it turn out allright all allright allright right Thank you MRS C C. Make a pot of coffee rather weak Dip the lace in the coffee when cold and dry flat on a cotton pad with the points of ot the lace pinned In shape It is Ls a good plan to experiment ment meat with bits of lace in the coffee to determine the exact shade you ou wish BLACK KITTEN A kitten black as the ace of spades well trained Is seeking seeking- refuge in a anew anew anew new home See him at Douglas street or call Hyland R. It SIMILAR ULAR PROBLEM Dear ar Miss Blair I cant can't help sympathizing with Licked as I know just how she feels only she has stayed with it and I couldn't stand the uncertainty uncertain uncertain- ty of that kind of l life e so we separated sep cp with the arrangement that we were each to have the boy our ourson ourson ourson son for awhile That was five years ago Ive I've had him off and on during that time until two years jears ears ago Since then I haven't even seen him Ive I've written several everal times but my letters are ignored In th the meantime Ive I've been trying to arrange arrange arrange ar ar- ar- ar range things so I could have a ahome ahome ahome home for him and have partially succeeded The law in a western state decided that as long as I didn't even consider myself his wife and that according to his statement he couldn't find time to marry me it wouldn't be considered considered consid consid- ered a law common marriage Also he didn't intend to marry me or he would have done so in that length of time He took the boy to his folks and told them not to let me rae have him The o only ly word I have had from the man in that length of time is that I couldn't hurt him no matter what I did I would only su succeed eed in hurting the boy He also aIso said there wasn't anything I could do about It and not to make him laugh by trying tring That's how things are now except that Ive I've found a man who ho means eyer everything thing to me whose love is big enough for me mc and my ray boy and who would gladly take him as his own We were married a year ago but I dont don't know just what the law lawis is and I want to avoid publicity If H possible for my boys boy's sake What can I do about it Surely Sureh there must be some way of ot getting my boy It isn't right that I should be he only one made to suffer for the past He isn't so righteous that he should have the boy and I not even be bc permitted to see him or have him with me tell me what to do to end my worrying and sleepless nights HEARTBROKEN The boys boy's father Is acting on the assumption that might is right and possession the law After the evidence Is all In the judge Is the only person who could hand down a decision of your case And you never know what evidence true or untrue the defense may pile pileup pileup pileup up to try to prove you an unfit person per son to have the custody of ot your our child These are Indeed bitter and trying tring t times m s for you to have the man with 1 whom you lived as wife whether you i were or not take the child of ot the union and lay sole claim to him Your moth mother r love should and will of course analyze the situation for the best welfare of ot the bo boy You will vill tr try to eliminate your our own selfish desires in the matter But considerIng consider- consider Ing ng the fact that you believe yourself yourself your- your self elf to be as fit a guardian for the thc boy oy as his father you will leave no stone tone unturned to regain your son providing it is all for his b best t good And the only wa way of doing this is iso isto isto to o have the case tried in a court of law aw Perhaps your husband can help you ou The he assistance of an attorney vho who knows every inch of the law Jn in inthe the ic case will be nece necessary ary The heart ot of f every mother will vill be with you In Inic Inthe inthe the ic attempt to regain your son and establish for him the good life ife |
