Show HUNCH HUNCH GUIDES GIRL 1 IN DETERMINATION i 0 OF F FRI FRIENDLY EN D L Y OFFER i B By BETTY BLAIR With such miracles as radio tra transmission of intelligible conversations conversations con con- and music reaching us across miles of ocean and land with television promising to be a commercial success is it so hard to believe that something in one person speaks to an in intangible intangible in- in tangible something in another without one word being uttered Dear Miss Blair Some time lime ago someone wrote you a letter ask asking n you ou about hunches You replied to the he e effect that thal a recent questionnaire ques 11 I answered I i by scientists in every eQ II LL fie field I d of act action ion W showed a large Jarge perI percentage percentage per per- r I of ot them believing beN beW be be- I. I I lieving Heving in and following follow follow- fl ing hunches ii 11 f N I Now w without j tho u t tH U I knowing knowing why I have H taken a great dislike to a certain pcr person on I who has been en trying tring to be very nice to me rile I 1 have haye tried to analyze this feeling but cant can't do so with any The person seems outwardly very nice tries to lo be attentive attentive at- at at at- showers me with compliments compliments compliments ments asks me for dates I just take everything he says with a grain gram of ot salt nIt and have re refused used all aU offers for lor dates without knowing why I do so except that I am aill guid guided b by this hunch bunch Do you ou think I be entirely wrong rong and am making a great reat mistake in refusing this persons person's friendship WONDERING I II I frequently find myself wondering I IU tf U we have built up a great wall I between between be be- tween us and the natural senses that were given us for self protection in our mad race for or higher reaches of or civilization We all know that a dog knows an honest man from a thief thiet without looking looking looking look look- ing at him and any sensitive child can tell whether a casual caller caBer likes him or not nol We all sense identities that happen to walk into a room when we are present whether we see them or CL not And such things make us all wonder f if there are emanations from the spirit or personality or whatever whatever what what- ever you like to call it that reach out TJ Lett Letters rs questions and requests for tor advice should be addressed to MISS DETTY BETTI BLAIR LAIR HEARTS HEART'S II HAVE A V E N TELEGRAM SALT LAKE AKE CITY Write leg leg-bly upon only one 51 side de of the paper It is n necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the he right name and address but these will sIll be br held in n strict confidence confidence con con- and will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising adver I 1 Information cannot be anI an an- I I I v J 1 H m 1 like radio waves and find lind others who happen to be in tune One person may be all ri right ht for lor others others b but t when that mysterious something t tells you he is not all aU right for you J I think you jou ou should obe obey it it whether others think you ou a goose or not MAY BE JILTER Dear Miss Blair I am a girl of 10 16 years not bad looking and quite popular on a dance floor I have been going with boys bos ra ranging in in age from 16 to 23 years ears About two to months ago ao I met meta a boy of oC 23 years quite good looking looking look look- ing and arId the best dancer I have ever er known Not only do I think so but butr r nearly earl everybody el else e does docs including including m ing himself On the ni night ht I met him he asked to take me mc home from the dance but I refused him However I promised him a date We went together together together to to- gether a while but one ni night ht he ed a date with me This is one thing I wont won't stand from a bo boy He had no excuse so I have refused him two dates dales since Now he is angry because I wont won't give him a date and thinks he can get me back by k keeping ping other boys bos from coming to see me He has talked to other boys about me and told them I have been in terrible Before this boys had been used to coming comin a lot now they have ha stopped comin corning coming little b by l little This boy proposed to me in a sort soil of ot round the bush way but butI I called him silly I like him too much yet hate him When he is away I mourn for lor his care caresses cs and when I see him I shudder with ith an an- ger The other night he went out with one of or my best girl friends and told her to be sure to tell me I love to dance but every dance I go to he is there so I have stopped going When I have been there he has danced with me but he doesn't talk sensibly during the whole dance He is very conceited What can I do Please help me JUST JILTED It is hard to 10 determine from your our letter whether you are the jilter or orthe orthe orthe the jilted But j if there were any choice as aC to which role you may pla play I think you should by bv all means mean stick to the one ne of ot jitter jilter by refusing to accept appointments from him He Helas has las used small shabby habby means to attract at at- tract you jou ou and ami the same shabbiness has las been apparent in his consideration tion of ot the appointments he has had with you as well as in the method he now takes to try to stir your our jealousy jeal He seems to lo be a person guided by his own impulsive emotions rather rath rath- er than by an any reasoning qualities and in the same manner has aroused your emotional life e without action any logic by which you OU may maybe maybe be C guided This is usually the very thing that happens boy of or more mature years rears seeks the company of or an nn adolescent adolescent ado- ado girl His emotions his bio bio- logical maturity demand more by byway byway byway way of or caresses and attentions than an any year old girl should be tempted tempt tempt- ed to give gi Stay as young a as you ou are and as sweet as you are by refusing to be moved by this boys boy's efforts to 10 either win your attention in his favor or your jealousy for lor the favors he besto's bestows be stows sto's on others The dama damage e he has apparently done by using wing cheap talk agai against t you ou will reflect relied more against him in ins the long run than thana a against you ou Show your our time one-time friends by your frank attitude toward the role of ot friendship that your life We and actions are above reproach and that it will take more than a loose loose- hinged tongue to disturb you or Of your genuine love for your our friends Without Without Without With With- out being e either lher ugly or undignified in your our speech h and actions you ou can show your our friends that this boy means nothing in your young life HIe that life me holds rich promise of ot good clean adventure adventure adventure ad ad- venture for lor you and the sooner you rid your life lite of ot cluttering debris the themore themore themore more rapid will be your progress s stoward toward adventures that really mat mat- ter FUTILE MARTYRDOM Dear Miss Blair I could shake hake my married sister She has two children a daughter of oC 15 and a son On of or 12 whom she is rearm rearing to be absolutely selfish and to disregard any of ot her needs needE She sacrifices for lor them continually and they ate are never satisfied but are alwa always always al al- al- al wa ways s demanding something E more She wears wear her clothes until they arc are shabby in order that these children chit chil hil- hil dren may have new new things all the time when many many times limes they could manage with what they have and arid give her a chance to catch up with her in income ome and look respectable herself When I scold her she says saY Well if lf you ou had children of or your own you would see things differently Or Im only doing my duty my ray dear This kind of ot talk makes me sick I dont don't think it is the duty of or parents to make martyrs of or themselves themselves themselves them them- selves to 10 their children hildren I think j if children arc are taught to respect ct then their parents parents' n needs eds when they are little they will wm ill do 50 so always alays Please give me your opinion so I may show how it to her SINGLE SISTER II I i Certainly l unselfishness hn s is highly highl I commendable but martyrdom is an exceedingly futile state slate Too many parents fail tail to draw the line between unselfishness and martyrdom When parents parent submit to martyrdom they are defeating their own purposes for forthe or the reason that martyrs have gone out of ot date and merit nothing but a feeling of ot contempt from those who witness the spoilage Such parents should be lectured roundly and the children who make maize such unjust demands demands de de- mands deserve verbal or physical I spanking with a lesson on sharing and serving |