| Show CHIVALRY ALRY IS INACTIVE BUSINESS WOMAN ISA j SAYS YS IN PROFESSIONAL LIFE c Sweetheart t eart Suggests to Youth How Bad Habit May Be BeC r C Overcome Girl Resents Fact That Boy Offers A t. v t r i. i L. L Lies les f for or E Excuses i t I By BETTY BLAIR h Vi Women have assumed the very difficult role of competing with men in the business and professional world and at the same time of ot maintaining that old-fashioned old womanly reserve that calls caUs forth deference from the thc very men whom they have supplanted Dear Miss Blair Will you or some of ot your readers readers readers read read- ers please tell me what has happened happened happened hap hap- to men in the past few years to male make them n ii ii so A Afew Al l few years ago a woman any woman woman wo wo- wo- wo IL man could get on onI I the street car and II if there was no scat fiLI left the man by I I N whom she happened happened hap hap- II to be standing standing stand stand- Lu ing would rise tip tipI tipp I p 41 his hat and offer oHer his seat I was thinking the other night as I hung huns to a car strap with one hand while my other arm was filled with my ny purchases purchases purchases pur pur- chases that I hadn't seen such an act performed for a long time unless the man next to whom the woman stood happened to bea be bea a friend I am a a J woman salesman and andray my ray prof profession takes me into the offices of ot business men doctors lawyers merchants chiefs Mine linc lincis Is 13 a legitimate business that many m man n engage in but force of oC cIrcumstances circumstances circumstances cir cIr- cir cir- has driven me into it it too I can remember the dav dal that if it a woman entered a man s office he arose and if her errand errand er er- cr- cr rand took more than a minute he offered her a chair If It not he remained standing with her durIng during during dur dur- ing the short interval inter of her call Now I seldom meet with such courtesy from men whom I do donot donot donot not know I suppose the fact that women have gone one pell-mell pell into the professions professions professions pro pro- and the business world ha has haS' something to do with this attitude attitude attitude at at- of ot men toward them But frankly rankly I miss that fine deference deference deference defer defer- ence all men with any breeding whatever were in the habit of paying to my sex and I think those who use the excuse of ot women women women wo wo- men going into business are arc alibi seekers of oC the worst type I just had to write these few remarks as this has been growing rowing on on me mc for some time What do you think SALESWOMAN For quite some time there have been rumors and repeated evidence that chivalry was dead or at least dying Chivalry is that fine deference deference defer defer- ence that men pay or did pa pay to women But it is quite true that for forthe forthe forthe the past decade women wamen haven't had hadas as BS many worshipers at their shrine A us d formerly It Is not hard to understand the reason for this change In the first place chivalry came into being because because because be be- cause of the scarcity of ot women Men Ien were warlike creatures they wore adventurers and explorers and into these fields few women we went t. t Men had to bid high for their favor And thus chivalry came into being But now with women swarming through every profession like the locusts that once infested this land there seems to be little call caU for that fine Zinc deference Men arent aren't at heart deferential except through training traming or except through h the competitive need for being so any more than are arc women Men for a long on time offered of ol protection to women but now each cach nan wo vo ian with her knowledge knowledg of the world with her professional training must be beher her own right hand man It is this emancipation of ot women placing them on an equal footing with men in the professional and business world that has carried chivalry chiv airy alry to the gallows and hung him there And now we e s sec sc e him dangling dangling dangling dang dang- ling lifeless and weep that it a is so But we have no one to blame but ourselves And if we hate hanging to car straps with bundles in our arms we must forego the means that drove us to it But if you will keep your eyes open you will see sec that chivalry in inthe inthe inthe the younger generation is not dead That the figure hanging haning so stark is only in effigy for them For the of the younger generation till have a lady fair to win in GIRL OFFERS CRITICISM Dear Miss Blair Blair- I have been going goin with a very nice girL She is the finest girl Sir I have ever known and I know she thinks quite a lot of oC me too But I have a very bad habit that she dislikes and that she has spoken to me about In fact she he has told me that unless I overcome it she will no longer go 0 out with me I cant can't bear to think of 10 losing her and md yet I am so weak willed I cant can't seem to overcome temptation tion when it comes my way WL The habit to which I refer is that of drink Until I met this girl irl I never thought of such a thing as giving it up Now I would like to give ive it il up but I find it has the better of me My iy girl friend and I had quite a t Ion long talk about it one night and she suggested that I needed to do gymnasium work and strengthen up my muscles and nerves She said she had read that to have muscles and nerves well under control helped a person person person per per- son to strengthen his wilL Can yo you tell me whether or not this is true and if so so where I could find something more complete complete com corn to read about It Very grateful if you can n N N D D. D once wrote A man can surely do what he wills to do clo but he cannot determine what ha he h wills But since the time tim of ot Scho Scho- a great deal has been learned about the dependence of the will upon the muscles and nerves o othe of the body It n has been learned beyond beyond be be- yond ond a doubt that muscles that ar arc not used become flabby and nd s soft t and incapable of obeying the will promptly prompt prompt- ly and effectively ly A man canno cannot even think ener energetically unless I his nerve and muscles are in goo good 4 r OJ Letters qu questions and re requests requests re re- quests for advice ad should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM M SALT LAKE L A X Ii E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of oC the he paper It is necessary sary that you append append ap pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will wilt be held In strict confidence and will not appear l in print Questions In In- Advertising information tion cannot be answered J. J I working order Experts on the subject subject sub sub- emphasize the the fact that welt well trained muscles are the very basis of or ofa ora a strong Read late Dr Luther Gulick's book Efficient Life Lire and Rational Living b by Henry Churchill King Both men emphasize the point con con- earning the connection between muscles mus mus- cles des nerves and the will vili I BOY FRIEND I PREVARICATES Dear Miss Miss' Blair I have been going with a boy for some some time whom I like except ex ex- c pt for tor one one thing He cant can't seem to tell the truth about some thin things s. s He Ic has a number number number num num- ber of oC dates with me and the excuses excuses ex ex- he has offered I have found out afterward were lies Instead of keeping his dates with me he has gone out with a crowd of or his boy boyfriends friends He tells me his father has given iven him something something something some some- thing to do at the office or oJ T that he had to drive his mother somewhere somewhere somewhere some some- where but never the truth My My- My girl friend goes boes with one of the thebo's boys bos of ot his crowd and it always leaks out through her boy friend who tells her that my friend was with the crowd on such and such sucha a night Shall I let him know I know about his telling these untruths or wait and see sec how it works out HATE A A liar has to be a perfect Ananias not to get caught in his own trap and few are arc perfect liars Their memories do not s serve their tongues It is a hard thin thing to tell another person erson you know he is lying Our best cst friends are arc not those who t tell tail tellus ll us the truth about ourselves They arc e those who knowing our faults are are generous long suffering and forgiving for for- giving jiving You might ask the boy as a favor lavor not to make dates with you unless he heis heis hes is s sure he is going to keep them Then say if any emergency arises like ike that of wanting to go with the boys x ys instead of vf with me call me in plenty of ot time sa si I can make other arrangements too This will set him thinking and probably make him more careful in his speech |
