Show T I. MAY BE SENTIMENTAL BUT LI LIKES KES LIFE LI FE THAT s WAS SAYS MOTHER BETTY BLAIR IU I By S. S it Most certainly if wholesome dictums can be true one of the truest is that our life determine largely what we get out of or life Dear Miss Blair I presume it is Impossible to judge at all aU in this matter malter of or o whether there should be or should not be children If IC we all d decided e c i ide d e d Iti r against t the h e children chil chit It I dren what then If I-hR I as Father of None I Ill I'll says life liCe on this IJ I earth is a 1 veil of oC tears and we cannot can can- ill not under the present pros pres IvI ent cat plan of thin things s sask I ask permission of oft I- I II t the children t the them themselves h a m- m selves In the matter malter of 01 their entrance ce Into this darkness maybe we ought to help cut the drear dreary ex existence ex cx- short Who ho wants to decide de do- cide In the first place I am a woman weman woman wo wo- man and mother of oC eight girls sad ind nd boys I confess also that I 1 am sentimental I If fatherhood gush Is the sentimental mans man's alibi it probably follows that motherhood motherhood mother motherhood hood gush is the sentimental womans woman's alibi M My children do donot donot donot not behave as unhappy creatures in a a. veil of tears Father of or None You'd be surprised how thrilling life lie is to them Never have I 1 heard a su suggestion estion from rom roman an any of oc them that the they are sorry to have been born They are now growing rowing into young men and women women wo woo men and the they have felt the de do- Their present home is a good deal more humble than what life promised a few years ears ago Our older children sometimes echo the wish of all of us that the financial burden could lift but they spend little BlUe time lime bemoaning anything Our very oldest is al always at al ways was on the lookout for a job but he looks forward to it as a privilege e Tra Tragedy of or tho the Ages When two married people do not want children arent aren't sentimental the certainly on the subject they shouldn't sin against children by allowing them to be born The greatest tragedy of all aU ages is an nn unwanted child All AH lovers of oC children children chil chU dren know how real the suffering of or a child can be he A do dog knows when he isn't wanted anted A child just withers up mentally physically and spiritually when it isn't appreciated ap ap If It however there are thoughtful thought thought- ful people who enjoy children and whose children enjoy being alive is that so plain gushy and otherwise otherwise otherwise other other- wise unworthy Vh Why do people raise rais thoroughbred animals birds fish beautiful flowers and point to them with such pride and then consider the bringing up of lovly lovely lovely love love- ly children a task which requires no forethought no study little in intelligence in in- Ive I've taken my share of sympathy C because of the work worl I 1 must be put to every day a Man Many people say outright that children children chil chit dren arent aren't worth the price Welt Well it depends on the parents and the point of oC view dont don't you think If we ve insist upon it heaven begins be- be gins right here on earth tarth Each in individual individual individual in- in has hu the right to choose for himself the attitude h he lie wishes to cultivate ate concerning this life 1 If lC we choose to strive for heaven beaven nothing can make us dwell in a veil of tears Not that we can always be gay We Ve cant We ar are confident however that a few children more or less wont won't darken our existence Now I 1 suppose we weare weare weare are pitiably commonplace and I 1 know we are misfits in the general general general gen gen- eral modern idea How about that family of 12 brought up on the Mic prairies of Nebraska from Crom which came two eminent men of oC learning learn learn- ing lag They must also be he of these common people of the sentimental alibis Im I'm signing off at last The Tho ar argument argument argument ar- ar may now no nogo go on to the next fellow M My husband wouldn't bother his head bead about writing something like Ulce this If it would have ha carried more wei weight ht coining from a man for Cor the first time in my ray life I 1 wish ish I 1 were a man I 1 Ido Ido do pray pra God to lo help me keep my m children as ao the they should be in Letters questions and requests for tor advice should be addressed to MISS 1 BETTY ETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S II HAVE A V E N N. N TELEGRAM I SALT LAKE CITY CITI Write upon only one side of ot the paper It L Li Ic necessary that you ou append ap append pend the right name and address but these thee will be held In strict confidence confidence con con- and md will not appear appe r in print Questions Involving advertising adver adver- Information cannot be an SW C red 1 1 these trying times lIme but Im I'm Corthe for Cor forthe forthe the children MOTHER OF V WANTED ANTED CHILDREN Thank you for so completely complete co covering cov co ering the case of 01 the married couple who consider the role roJe of parenthood parent hood a privilege rather than an accident ac no- for which they must pa pay th the th-j price SWEETHEART VACATION Dear Miss iss Blair I I 1 have been going with a girl for Cor a year I have taken her to the best shows best entertainments entertain entertain- ments meats and the most high class g places I have always s 's treated her herthe herthe herthe the best wa way say an any girl could wish to be treated I think more of jr h-jr than of anyone or anything else Recently she told me that she shedid shedid shedid did not care to see me any ny more for at least three months I asked for Cor a reason but she would not give any She has told many n of our friends she likes me ma better than anyone she has ever gone go e with or ever hopes to go with I am at a loss to know mow what to todo todo todo do about the situation I would certainly appreciate your viewpoint viewpoint view view- point on it J M. M I know leno what the trouble Is The beloved one has been reading Hearts Heart's Haven and has decided that t the sweetheart vacation therein prescribed for those whose minds arent aren't quite made up will give gi her herthe herthe herthe the proper perspective Dont Don't worry about it Take a vacation va a cation yourself with all the gusto 1 you YOLI Ou can muster Rush other girls Take Talce them to the nice places lo to which you have taken talen this girl Such a n vacation such a change If Ie not of oC heart at least of personality personam contacts will be an excellent nt thing for Cor both bath of oC you The experience you g gain ln thereby wi will ill strengthen your our regard for each other and it will broaden your outlook to include others others others oth oth- ers within the friendship circle Perhaps you have been taking the theirl girl irl too much for granted ranted and without without with with- out losing any of her re regard ard for Cor you she has Imposed a disciplinary measure which she hopes will be goo good for both bolh Go ahead and make mace the he most of your our vacation MOTHER IOTHER DISLIKES BOY Dear Miss Blair I have been going with a boy whom my mother dislikes very much Last night she told him to togo togo togo go home and never to come bauk back again He Is a nice bo boy who doesn't drink or smoke and doesn't want me to although all the rest of oC our crowd does docs His parents are very nice to me mp The They will sit and converse with wit us wh when n I go there unlike my parents who go off in a room by themselves and dont don't try to get et acquainted Now he wants to keep ke p going with me but for me to see him in his home instead of oC mine Shall I do so and go back to our crowd who drink and smoke or give h him up He is 16 and I am 15 years old LEFTY Have you found out exactly what it t is your mother dislikes so much I in n this boy Have you talked with I her about the fine things you know knovS about him Have flave you OU asked her S which she would prefer to have you I see this boy in his home or in your own Have you OU suggested to her that hat none of oC the crowd with whom L I you OU o are arc this thi boys boy's cali caliber her so o far farM faras as M your our own and her ideals are arc concerned concerned concerned con con- 1 Since it is i your mother molher who gives the commands it i is she whom you ou must convert if you OU would have h her hersee hersee r see as you do Perhaps you Oll can do this by lining lining- up tho the points for your side of the defense and laying them all an before her DOG FOR GIFT An Ideal dog dog- for tor children part- part shepherd is available a as a gilt gift Ut to anyone anone offering a good home Call Hyland M. |