Show MOTHER HIGHLIGHTS SCENE WHEN FRIEND 1 i- i OF DAUGHTER COMES j t i By BETTY BLAIR If a mother eclipses an adolescent daughter In the daughters daughter's own realm it is a tragic state of affairs that needs tactful handling A out fade for mother that isn't too I obvious Is recommended in order that daughter shall enjoy her own big moments Dear Miss Blair I have a most unusual problem for you ou to untangle I married when hen very young oung in fact when just the age my daughter daugh daugh- tee ter Is now 17 and andI I I it really seems to AL 1 most people I am I like Uke my daughters daughter's I f 1 II sister rather than I her mother I have I PILl kept my looks and Iii II I my figure and am amI I still the gay sort of or 0 person I was when a girl irl But my I daughter has hns none of this gaiety galet When to see sec her hershe the young oung people come she she she-is is usually to be fecund faund looking out a a window or sitting by herself looking on The young oung people just take her for jar granted and md go on laughing and chatting chattin by them them- selves As M a matter of fact f my daughters daughters daughter's daughters daughter's daugh daugh- ter's frien friends is chatter to me mc more more than they do to her I make them feel feel at home I bring them good things t to cat eat and I enter Into all aU their plans and jokes I feel young v. v with th them but my daughter seems i to feel older than her friends I do wish she would snap out of it and be gay and young oung herself I am sure sur if it weren't for me making them welcome and always ke keeping ping open house for them her friends would stop coming I don dont don't twant t twant want them to do that as m my daughter daughter daugh daugh- ter needs them I have tried to talk her into being one of them but she insists Insist she is being herself and wants to be left alone She likes all these young people but even ven the bo boy who comes to take her out talks to me more than he docs does to her And nd one evening when he be came and I 1 was out he cut his visit very short M My dau daughter seems to coldly resent re- re sent lent the fact that her friends all make so much more fuss over me than they do over her but I can cant can't t help that I know the they wouldn't come at all if it it weren't for me Can you advise me roe on this problem probe lem MOTHER I am w wondering how a daughter would have reacted toward her hr friends from the very beginning of ot other her making friendship i if she hadn't had so o brilliant and nd gay a mother to always take the lead Youve You've always done that for her haven't you Mother Youve You've always alwa's in a wa way maneuvered things so ro the right boys and girls came to the home and then youve you've kept them there by playing up up to their moods and sen sense e of or humor and liking for good thin things s to caLIn cat caL catIn In other words as a for your daughter you ou have stolen the whole show and helped to develop develop de p in her a negative attitude toward friends and friendly attitudes S I wonder even now flOw what daughter would do i if 11 she were sent away from you ou to another school where she had to rely on her own resources to make friends I think you rou might be surprised surprised sur yourself I have an idea that without your cleverness to compete against she might suddenly develop the courage and humor and friendly resourcefulness that has been lying latent In her all aU the he time But if you cant can't send her awa away why not give ive daughter a break by fading from the picture entirely for awhile while I mean so 50 far as leaving her herto herto herto to entertain her own friends is con con- I think its it's a lo el lovely thing for a mother to keep herself herselt young and andJa Ja gay and able to see seethe the point of view of ot the younger generation but I think it rather pathetic that a mother should hould eclipse her own daughter with that daughters daughter's friends Your daughters daughters daughter's daughters daughter's daugh daugh- ter's cold resentment shows very plainly how she feels about the mat mat- J I 1 Letters questions and requests re ic- quests for lor advice should be I addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR BLAin HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM I SALT LA LAKE K E CITY Write legibly leg upon only one side of the tho paper It Is necessary that you yon OU append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and address ad dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear In print Questions Involving In In- ol ln advertising Information Information Information tion cannot be answered I tee ler but her good breeding has made it impossible to tell teU you ou just why she feels this way You can still help her with kindness kind ness and forethought by giving her heran heran heran an opportunity to develop her own friendship qualities TALKS ABOUT FREE LIFE Dear Miss Blair I have a married friend who Is always talking about the free life liCe She wants color and life me and ad ad- venture Sh She say says shed she'd like to go roaming over the world looking for love and life and change In other words to hear her talk you'd oud think life for her would have to be a wild delirium of romance The funn funny thing about it Is that her husband just laughs at her When she talks about going to India some day and falling failing in love love with an Indian prince he thinks thinks' she is being very cute My husband on the other hand doesn't think she is a safe per person on for me to pal around w with th He says sas she he will ilI be breaking loose one of these days and doing some of the cr crazy zy things she talks about She is a wonderful housekeeper and cook and no better mother ever lived Jived than she is to her little son But all aU the time she is working she is thinking about this dream dreamworld dreamworld dreamworld world of ot hers and the bi big romance she will some day find I laugh at ather ather ather her too and I think my husband is mistaken about his estimate ather of at her but I would like your opinion MRS K KS I should think this little woman who says sas things right out but never does them would u be a relief from most of the people we all meet every everyday everyday da day who think things but keep them all aU bottled up inside What woman doesn't long for travel and romance and adventure Your friend is having hers with her hands in the dishpan and her knees on the kitchen lino linoleum leum For my part I think she's a pretty safe afe person to pal around with because be be- cau cause e you know just hats what's on her mind most of the time She will wilf never ne become sordid or moody mood since she has so much capacity for enjoying the free life just talking about it LOVE TALKS Dear Miss Blair I love a girl ver very much but I dont don't know how to tell her about it I think love like money talks So I think she already knows how I feel toward her Do- Do you Do-you you think it itis itis itis is therefore necessary I should tell her I love her or just let her believe be lieve it through my actions HERB Unless you ou use Ue words to express your our love for the girl irl there will al aI always always al- al ways be doubts In m her mind that you ou really do love her Of cour course e you ou must tell her that is if you are really sure you love her Every girl irl likes to hear it tt said over and over again providing she is in love with the one who says sas it SISTERLY RIVALS Dear Miss Blair We are two sisters in love with the same boy There are only 13 months difference in our ages The boy seems to like us both and we cant can't tell teU which he likes the better Will you please tell us a way to find out Thank you oU I JEAN AND JOAN I ITry Try alternately absenting yourselves your your- selves from irom home when the young youn man calls and be strictly honest with leach each other when you recount to each other his disappointment over not seeing each Perhaps you can tell teU by t that t which he likes to be with the better and that will wm offer a clue as asto asto asto to which direction the balance tips tip when you ou are arc each weighed in the balance of the young mans man's affections I II I |