| Show HUSBAND SUPPLANTED I f. f IN IN F FAMILY AMILY DECISIONS j BY LAW IN i Girl i l Should Hide Serious Quality ous Quality of Love When Boy She Loves Cant Can't Be Taken Seriously Invitations to Silver V Wedding By BETTY BLAIR One has gone far toward conquering unpleasant situations situations situations sit sit- when one has conquered the tile pettiness in ones one's self sell that gives rise to violence nce of emotion Reason and emotions emo emo- ti ns are seldom on J speaking terms c D Dear ar Miss Blair My wife and I have been marred married married mar mar- ried red a year and in that time a problem has arisen with which I dont don't exactly I know how ho hoto to Pi- Pi cope Three I I months after II we were marr married mar mar- UrMI II r ned ried i e d her III I brother who ho hois I is two years I older than she Ii and my own age lost his job and came cameto cameto I to live with us I I was very glad at the time to give him a ah h home me I give him credit for really trying to get work but he hc has succeeded in Jn finding jobs only at intervals He ha has been en very conscientious con- con us about turning the mone money he earned over to us except ex cx- what he has absolutely needed for bare necessities I Ido Ido do not now be begrudge him a home so BO far tar as the finances of the matter mat mat- ter are arc concerned but I feel that he Is Js supplanting me as master in my own home My wife wile goes to her brother Instead of me mc with every problem problem lem that arises The They decide things between them and run the home according to their t tastes and decisions Of course his being there in the house with her more than I am has given them an opportunity opportunity op op- to do this but still I think they should take me more Into their confidence When I come home from work I find them them talking and laughing and enjo enjoying ing things together in which they dont don't include me When I say Why dont don't you let me in on the joke too they usually say Oh this Is something something some some- thing you wouldn't understand or Oh this is something you dont don't know anything about I suppose they mean it is about that happened before I Imet Imet met my Wife vUe but it t certainly makes es me feel like an outsider in my myown own home Recently when my wife wIte and I had a decision to make about a a. financial inand l matter and were discussing discussing discus discus- sing it she said Lets ask Jack about it His judgment Is Js goody good This made me hot under the collar as it seems there should be some business matters between husband and w wife e that I they could decide for themselves I told her her to to ahead go-ahead and ask him and leave mo me out of ot it altogether as she considered his ju judgment in all matters better than mine This led to a quarrel and she accused accused accused ac ac- ac- ac me inc of being jeal jealous us of her brother and of making his st stay ly with us very unpleasant My Iy wife and I h haven't vent felt the same toward each other since and andI I am getting so I cant can't tolerate the brother Do you think we I ought to go on living this way Or Ordo Ordo do you think I ought to curb my nay feelings more than I do do doand and put up with it awhile longer at least until he gets a permanent job IRATE I think compromises should be be made on both sides Irate and I think its up to you ou to tak take the Initiative in talking the matter over with your wife You opened your home with the thc best of ot intentions to y your ur brother in law and both he and your wife have infringed on your hospitality in having hay hat ing their little enjoyments together from which they have excluded you Politeness demands that when a i third person is present he be taker taken Into the conversation of the other If it is something very private from which the third person should be excluded ex cx excluded eluded then the thc subject should b be changed until another time or thc they should ask to be excused and hold parley by themselves But this latter state of ot affairs could hardly happen In your case s since nce matters that con concern cern your our wife should also concern you ou And I can think of ot nothing more insulting to a persons person's ego thatto than that to be told You wouldn't under stand It would have been polite for yow you wife or law brother to have taker taken the trouble to tell you all the circumstances cir connected with the subject sub that interested them so much sc so you could have joined in with lith theli enjoyment of it and it was was decidedly rude of them to exclude you ou as the they did You can assert your right to you wife wile in a n dignified manner to ente entel into all aU the decisions that are to occur oc occur occur cur in your home that affect the hornor horn homi or the two of you With an understanding of ot this kin kine made you jou can command and arid generosity toward your our brother in inlaw The higher the plane o or which you operate the higher you OUI associates in the family hav to climb to meet it Keep a stiff up upper upper per er lip Up and conquer any you ou may have concerning the situa tion Your victory over o it will wUl b ba be J great asset to your character for fu lu ture turc crises Dear Miss Blair I come to your corner as a newcomer It is about a boy I love who cant can't take me n-ic zen seri He Hc is very good looking and is 15 of ot the mediocre type financially He is a dresser and I II I love him H Hi is 17 and md I am am 16 and ande we e both go 0 to high school We have a lot between us and f I want him to take me seriously as I think It is only right after alter all How shall hall I do it H I dont don't let on that I love lo him This last Christmas ni night ht I could hardly hold myself V The first thing any girl apt to fall fal all In love should learn to do is to disc ber l to the point where sh she t t Letters Letter questions and requests requests requests re re quests for tor a advice vice should bo be addressed to MISS 1 BETTY BErry BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN YEN TELEGRAM I. SALT L LA LAKE A K E CITY CITI Write upon only one side of the he the paper It is necessary that you yon 00 append append ap ap- ap pend he right name and address addres address ad ad- dress dres but these will wUl be bo held In strict confidence and will not riot appear In In print Questions Involving In In- advertising Information informs informs- tion Uon cannot be answered f j jUon h has as absolute control of her emotions I If It f she doesn't she is going to wish more grief on herself herscH than with her e emotionally unstable nature she willbe willbe will willbe be able to manage manag If the boy in question cant can't take you seriously it is because he hims him- him s elf ll is is' not serious And anything you ou may do or say will not make makeim makeim h him im so so The quality of being serious seri seri- o ous us is something that must come of i itself when the right circumstances c calling ailing it forth occur You would be making a great reat mistake mis mise t take Ikc to even let this boy suspect that you ou love him Life Lite after alter all is a game a and nd you had just as well begin to learn l earn to play it to take tricks rather t han than to throw them away by poor playing laying Pretend to be as gay and lacking Jacking i in n the the serious serious quality toward him as ashe asic he ic is tow toward rd you rAnd And above all t things lings keep your head You'll be f arther ahead in th the game in the end a and nd what small losses you may have hae t to o take will not cost you OU much iner inner in- in iner n ner er grief griel SILVER WEDDING Dear ar Miss Blair I will be assisting in plans for fora a silver wedding anniversary soon Will you ou please tell me meho how ho the invitations should be worded so the guests will not nol feel they were expected to bring gifts Thanking you ou MRS E. E There is no wa way I know v of that would be in good taste to request t that lat hat guests do not bring gifts gits The b best est cst plan is to send the form of ot invitation L tation you wish and let it be optional with the guests whether or not they b ring brIng presents pres If IC the celebration is to be informal t telephone calls caUs to the relatives and f friends of ot your parents or notes written by a member of the family tor f or the anniversary couple may be besent s ent sent by way of invitation |
