Show S POSTPONEMENT OF PLAN FOR WEDDING URGED BY BYI MOTHER OF BRIDE TO TO-BE TO I Theater Dinner Arrangements Arrangement for Party Quite Correct of Sister Threaten to Disrupt i Suspicions J Own Romance Kitten for Gift l BETTY BLAIR By c J. r Important decisions are often otten delayed for want of stamina stamina stam stam- ina ma ina to make th them ni ln Some people arc are exceedingly weak in L making decisions though they may be strong in carrying r them out ut when once made Dear De-ar Miss Blair Althou Although h the plans for my wedding weddin have all been arranged between rn m my fiance and myself my mother i 1 is bound we shan shall put pul our marriage o off un until p I FP f til lii spring pring f ae We e eo would o I I like to be married d I r K shortly after the Nc New Ne' t ji I Year but she can cant can't I Isee L n i d sec see it that wa way I I have been gom going 4 with this thi boy for two twe t l I Nf years and though W we S I I l have both been working work If ing we postponed our financial ml 1 mar marriage for for reasons until no now Ibave I have bave been very saving in spite of the fact I have given so much every week to help hep my family amil and have bc been n able to get together a anke nice trousseau of bed and table linens ns kitchen towels house dresses and aprons and numerous numerous numer numer- ous Otis other small things For awhile I Ishall Ishall shall continue working until we buy the furn furniture we need My fiance hates to h have ve me mc work after we are arc married but I really want to do so then we can get furniture furniture furni ture and save on our rent He Ire really wants to be married now he has waited waited waited wait wait- ed so long but mother keeps on insisting in we wait until spring Of or course she hates to give up the funds I bring into the famil family They do help helpa a lot but still the f family mily could manage man age ige to get along and they had just aswell as asWell aswell well get used to it now as ever 1 I figure we have our own lives to I live and the thc sooner we get started atit at atit it 11 the better of off we will be We cant can't bear the thought of waiting any longer and mother cant can't bear the thought of having us marry now We would not go to the expense of havIng hav hav- S Log Ing a wedding would have only the immediate members of our two fam families lies with the ceremony performed in our own living iving room What do you think about it Miss Bl Blair Dont Don't you think now that we have the day all chosen and everything every every- thing we should go ahead with our plans Please advise us M M. M Although I sympathize deeply with your mother mother-in in having to give up her daughter still stillI I cant can't see that the giving ing will ivill be any easier in the spring than it il is now and I think it isn't a good idea to change your marriage plans Somehow with a postponement of an event so important the secondS second S attempt seems to lose some of its or or- S glow Disappointments can breed dissatIsfactions dissat dissat- S and so much much- can happen even evenin in a f few w months time that has been entirely unforeseen For these reasons and the reason mainly that you are ready and prepared now for S marriage after having waited so long I think you should go ahead with your plans It is quite true that your mother will miss y your ur financial aid ad to the family but she she vill will also miss it in the sp spring ing Adjustments will have to be he made at any time you ou choose to be married and they had just as well be made now And while the family i is learning to get along without you youl the money you would be spending on or them can go far toward equipping I your tour our new home The choice I suggest may be tinged I with ith selfishness but s a certain amount amoun t of tf selfishness is necessary in every I decision we make in life lite It is quite n as ns S Important that at people learn to make mak definite dec decisions ions and stop riding on or I the wind hoping something will wil 1 come corne along to shove them into a de vision as that they work for anc and I abide by their decisions after the they f are ire made THEATER DINNER PARTY 5 Dear Mi Miss s Blair 5 would I-would like very much to have havea a dinner theater dinner heater party but I need some ome advice I am planning on x j. having dinner at a restaurant for about si six couples and afterward S to go to a movie mo After the show would it if be e necessary to take the party to ones one's own home After Alter the theater is 5 it understood the party uty is is over and th the guests may depart The dinner is to be at wS 7 and the hour would be at least ast 11 p. p m. m after the sh show w. w S v Also may I when giving the invitation suggest that the perdo person pert per- per t son Ion do not see the show chosen for tor that night in advance so no one cne Will wm h have ve to see it twice WYOMING Your plans for the theater dinner-theater Party Varty sound very nice When you in in- vi trite vite c your guests guests' explain the nature of ot the party parly and say you will have dinner at also give the name of the pe restaurant ant and that you will go to a a. a certain movie afterward When no ro 0 i invitation is given for tor going to the Home after the movie the guests do not Jot expect to do so Invite them far enough nough in advance and name the J movie vie you are arc to see so O they will not eo go o to to tha that particular theater before t lion tion that of if Add the they do not see it U twice if it you OU wish ish CHRISTMAS BIRTHDAY Dear Dear Miss Blair My birthday is on Christmas and I am planning to toS S give her a surprise party Her boy poy frie friend d knows about my ray plans and has offered to help me but 4 I when my ray sister saw us tw two with our cour heads together planning I something so secretly she bec became be be- c came e angry with me We didn't want her het to see us but she came in when we weren't expecting her her anc and there we both were on 1 the sofa talking very interest together S Of Ot course we had to change the subject immediately and she could see we both lo looked ed fussed S 'S We all tried to pass it Off dl at the time but after he had bad gone she S accused me of trying trIng to make a at j t r hit with wit him When I I deny this his she he nc wn wants to know then what it is 13 s S ab about t and andI I cant can't tell her She Z r S i st S. S A j r r M- M 0 f C Ld t U F Letters questions question and re requests requests requests re- re quests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE L A K E L CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper I It Is necessary that you ou append append ap ap- I pend the right name nimr and address ad dress but these will cIll bo bee held In strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving in In- advertising Information information information tion cannot be an answered r I says H H- H acts strange toward her too and denies that he is trying to get me to like him Now she is threatening to go out with another boy I dont don't 4 know what t to do It would be just too bad if sh she did start going with this thi other boy as ns H H- H wouldn't s stand and for that and it would break them up Do you think think- we had better give up the idea of the party part r altogether altogether alto alto- gether and tell her what it is all about or orlet let her go ahead In her angry mood and have a date with her boy friends friend's rival while we wego wego wego go on with plans for tor the party JULIA JULU If your sister allows her mood to put her plans into execution H H- H H would give up plans for the par party ty altogether Since she Is making it so I difficult to have the party why r no not cot give it up Go ahead and tell teU her al all all about it It may teach her a lesson in checking up on her suspicious auspicious nir mind id It is your sister who has taken t the he heart and soul out of ot the party a and nd what is a a party without these vi vital tal organs KITTEN FOR GIFT GIFTA A very cute little kitten one onet that mt will make a nice pet for any chi child Id ma may be had with the offer olter of a food ad l home at 6 1 Redondo a avenue I Another An other tIer tray ray kitten kuten I is at 1115 E East ast Second South street 1 Jt y |