Show DETERMINED TO FINISH COLLEGE YET UNABLE TO I DENY LOVES LOVE'S DEMANDS S J. J 4 a Frie Friend d Eludes Attempts of Girl t to Be Friendly I r Lasses Who Vho Try to Win Boys Win Xin Their Disfavor 5 B By BETTY BLAIR It Is impossible for parents to live Jive their childrens children's livest lives t for far r them T There 1 re will be costs to pay whether children de demand demand de- de mand to learn by experience ot or not With the experience goes the scars of the emotional battle and its reactions Dear Miss Blair I will eliminate all preliminary ideas and give you OU facts at once I X have been en keeping company with an exceptional exception Il al young man for 11 I P I more than a year earr ear AU f He is 20 and I am S 1 18 8 Al Although U Ough 2 20 0 r I 1111 y years C car a r s old 0 one fl C II I would easily judge ii him three or four 0 u l' l l' l ii years older He is isI JS I I lu f I I I extremely consid considerate crate erate and see seems seem's m's ms Ill I to fit in any occasion occa occa- sion He is a favorite favorite fa a- a with both girls sirls' and boys We are both going to to college he for lor two more years and I Ivill will vill have three more years Weare We Wc Weare are b both th satisfied we WO love e each ch other and want t to w go so steady stead but mt he knows mother objects to this We think it would be a relie relief re- re relie re- re lie lief if it we did go st steady ady as we would be bel more satisfied about each other My parents are arc extremely extremely ex- ex fond of or him and seem to be very happy that we are going together and are so so- fond of ot each other still they object to our going steady Do no you OU think we could give our studies attention and concentrate concentrate concentrate con con- more effectively i if we were wre not constantly worrying about each other which is humanly humanly humanly hu hu- hu- hu manly natural when one I. I is deeply deep deep- ly lr 1 in love Both of us JS are determined determined determined deter deter- mined to finish college and going going go go- ing lag steady would not induce us its to abandon this goal All my parents' parents offer oHer as an excuse excuse ex ex- ec- ec cuse Is that we are too young to know our own mi minds ds They seem to think we can go together yet accept other dates and associate with different people and still let no one else creep in between us pUs I think this gives us very usa a very excellent excellent ex- ex opportunity to hurt one another and nd possibly create a feeling of ot mistrust or an independence independence inde inde- that might lead to a greater misunderstanding Wh Why when we have such a beautiful love without a shadow o ot of even the slightest doubt in each other put it up to be made over tampered with by others I uninterested only for a possible fill in for one or late in hi procuring a date Neither of ot us has gone out with others for many months consequently consequently conse conse we are entirely out of place when apart You can see 4 5 how ho awkward it it would be for i either i of otuS' otuS us to sp sp d WIth any one else eLs We will wilt all appreciate your unbiased unbiased unbiased un un- un- un biased opinion on this matter Thanks and success WE TWO Since neither of ot your are as ye yet cl S tee from morn the fluctuating ravages of ol cence you OU are more apt to learn that what you OU now consider to tobe tobe tobe be the 10 love of life is big your Our something something something some some- thing else ese again if you go steady than it you stay apart except for occasional oc oc- appointments The reason is this With love In I Letters questions and re requests requests requests re- re quests for advice should be addressed sed to MISS 1155 BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA LAKE A K E CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you yon append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the rl right ht name and address ad dress but these thc will be held In strict confidence and will not Appear in print Questions I involving in In- advertising In information information forma tion on cannot be answered bloom satisfied through being wIlh vILl L each other and Including no noone one else into the halo of your Our emotions you are more apt pt to begin to study each cad I other and to pick out possible flaws in each others other's makeup And again agair I in the natural order of things you L are very apt to pall on each others other's emotions On the other hand the fact that thai L your natural desire to see e and be bc with each other is not satisfied each cad I of you OU builds up a reaction principally principally pally mental against things as the they are and a complex is very apt to be b formed This bo boy though you ma may lose him altogether either wa way r through lack of a more steady stead arrangement arrangement ar ar- now may become a mental men tal fixture with you th that il may be a t handicap to your our emotional expression expression sion non for one even more fitted to b be your life companion I have seen it hap happen n time zinc and again that two who thou thought ht themselves themselves them them- selves eternally in iri love with each cad 1 others found through limiting themselves themselves them them- selves to each others other's company the they r had made a big mistake The emotional emotional emotional emo emo- reaction from this discovery discover is rather severe but a lesson well wel I learned While two who were kept apart from each other developed d a strong mental attachment that lasted for years The adolescent mind is In a state stat of constant fluctuation and two at at your age are more apt to change chang their minds mind than they are arc to remain 1 I constant providing they are permitted permit permit- I ted to satisfy the natural urge to see sei much of ot each other Nature seiS has ha S strange ways of demanding compensation compensation for lor or inter interference with her plans We can greatly assist nature through learning and practicing control control con of our emotional lives But nature na nature nature na na- ture will not be thwarted of ot her most devoutly avowed purposes without with with- without out aut demanding the toll It is my opinion that you two should limit your jour appointments in hi to Interfere with your college college col col- col lege careers yet et that you sho should ld restrict re restrict ie- ie re- re strict them to going out with each other You may think now that S th the reaction reaction tion lion could never never arrive that you would not wa want t lo o s see e each each- other constantly Time alone can answer this question for you VACATION FRIEND Dear Miss Blair This summer I met a avery very nice boy on my vacation of whom I think a lot He wrote me a letter letter letter let let- ter when hen I came came home which I answered I ked him in my let letter ter tet to write me sue again but this he didn't do When he came home homeI I called him up and invited him to my home for that afternoon He accepted my invitation but he didn't come I am am just 14 and do not think I of love but I would like this boy for one my friends I am having havinga a party next month Shall ShallI I Invite him to it Th Thanks ANXIOUSLY WAITING I r think perhaps you have ave been taking tak ink ing lag too much of ot the initiative in your wish our wish to jb ibe b friends and have given the boy boy- boythe the idea you that were running after him Your calling him up when he arrived home your invitation to tol him to your home that probably did not also include others would rake make ake it appear to him that you had him Win especially sel selected as the target for your affections A party part however has an entirely different atmosphere from your other attempts attempt to be friendly It has none of ot the particularly personal flavor Invite him with nth no rio reference t to o what has tone gone before and just as you would invite any of ot your other f friends He would probably be happier hap hap- happier pier if he knew some of of- the others who are coming to the party part or if you awakened his interest in other guests by describing some of ot them t to o him so he would be sure he wasn't going to be bored BREAKS DATE Dear Miss Bla Blair r Just three weeks ago alo I met a nice pice boy 00 at a dance He seemed to be very much in love with me and took me out nearly every night for tor a week One night he heS S broke his date and hasn't been to see sec me since My girl friends have nave told they have seen him at parties and dances with other girls Will you rou ou please tell teU me rae how how I I can win win him bim back PEGGY G. G Boys dont don't like to be won von back Peggy In fact they absolutely refuse re ye- fuse to be so ro ther there a s 's nothing you can do about abott it but to let this boy go on about his own sweet way and find nd yourself another mother boy friend The main mam reason why why- they refuse to be won is because they like to toc do the c winning themselves and steer clear of or you youa a mile if ou are trying to hook them You'll be happier happier- to forget forSet him PUPPY FOR GIFT A well mannered white while and tan an puppy will wIIt make some child a nice pet It t may be had at 90 N street SAVE SPINACH STOCK The stock left from from cooked cooked spinach should be saved and used in ble soup It contains valuable food properties |