Show f i PRIVILEGES GRANTED r. r BOYS CAUSE FOR IRE IREIN IN HEART OF GIRL t JJ i Wife Ma Maintains Husbands Husband's Christmas Gift to Her Sh Should ld i Satisfy Her Taste Not Th That t of Husband J t I Lonely New Years Year's sEve Eve Eves Eves' I a. a i s' s By BETTY BLAIR BLAm That That women omen and girls are more unhappy since the bars barsi i have been let down and the effort to equality with I. I e emen men has largely been realized Is believed to be true by some experts It Is our belief that what women may have lost In f V placid contentment has been far outbalanced by what they have gained In the satisfaction of ot being able to use their own Intelligence T Dear Miss Blair I Th There re must be something wrong with m me t or I wouldn't f feel l the wa- wa way I 1 do about boys It wed used to always s 's m make moke ke I I me angry when I Iwas IL Ib L' L was wasa a child because I 11 t C m- m my bro brothers hers were verc i Jr I allowed to do things things'S S 'S L q I couldn't do Ale Alc Although Al Al- e c oO D though there was little difference ference i in ine our ages one ages one Fl VC e 11 brother older one one a 4 1 you younger younger they n g e r they could stay out late 4 o could go skiing skating dancing r long before I 1 could 1 Now that I I am 19 they have still got it all over me so have oil cli the boys I knew as a kid I Iam am repressed from morning till night M- M My brothers and their friends could stay out cut all night nighton on New Years I had to be in ini in inh i h shortly after alter the old year went vent out I had to leave the party just When the fun was was was- beginning This makes me hate all boys who can always have their own way about everything I 1 even hate the boy I lik like best because N after he brought m me home according accord accord- t ing ng to rules rule he lie went back to the party parly and stayed for breakfast i L with the others Now I dont don't want to see him again or speak to him Please tell me inc what to do MILLY i I 1 I Y You u are not alone atone in yo your r feeling I of af resentment toward th the opposite sex who are granted so many privileges l leges to girls Because of this difference in treatment many girls go a astep step further than you and I resent the fact that they are not boys The psychology of women who don male attire aUire has been quite thoroughly studied and the reason for their doing I i 1 so attributed to their desire to overcome overcome over come a mistaken sense of ot being inferior in In- leelor to men by y running the bluff of 01 male attire aUire 1 But my dear at 19 you oU should begin begin begin be be- gin to o launch forth with a determination tion to accomplish something for forr yourself A job a career a profession I r sion zion marriage should offer you OU opportunity opportunity opportunity op op- op- op j for self expression that you have never yet sensed Dont Don't spend I your energies in being angry with the boys who seem to be getting i somewhere while you sit idly twirling twirl twirl- ing ingi your thumbs If you have ve an average amount of intelligence and plenty o of perseverance you should be beable able to express your ambitions in a truly womanly wa way There have been beena n a good many women who have blazed I the trail tran for you Perhaps some biographical studies of their methods of ot achievement would help you to toi top p i stand on your own o feet and end point the L L wa way you are arc to traveL We feel sure that as soon as as' as you begin to accomplish accorn- accorn pUsh something for yourself this resentment re reo will vIll have been displaced by bya a with the opposIte opposite site sex for each needs the other in every very w walk lk of life me And And dont don't be too hard on the boy boys s who didn't go home to bed just because because because be- be cause you had to He granted himself him him- J ae self a very normal wish It CAUSE FOR STRIFE y f Dear pear Miss Blair fl j I think my husband and I ore are as us happily married as the aver- aver j ij age but there is one thing that 4 comes up between us to cause an explosion every now and and then I 1 r. r am so sure sure that my taste te in m house V. V furnishings and decorations in inV V i. i fact in i clothes and most everything everything everything every- every thing is for far better than his yet he insists on having just what he likes lUtes in the house and honestly some pf f the things he brings in inne ne nearly drive me crazy Here is just one example For Christmas I wanted a spinet desk U Letters questions and requests requests requests re re- re- re quests for advice should be addressed ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E. E Write legibly upon only one one side of the paper It is necessary that you ou append ap ap- ap pend pond the right name and addres address ad dress dres but these will be held in strict confidence and will nut not appear in print Questions Involving involving in In- advertising information cannot be answered H He knew very well the kind I liked because on numerous occasions occasions occasions occa occa- when we have bave gone to furniture stores we have looked at them arid and I have expressed myself He has always been silent about them but I have thought it was because he was taking mental mental mental men men- tal note o e of what I 1 liked But it was nothing of the sort sorL He was wasU U saying to himself Those plain little ugly things I wouldn't have one of them in my house As a consequence I have a d desk k for my Christmas Christinas present that thaL- thaLis is simply atrocious I am heartsick When I tell him I want wont to exchange exchange exchange ex ex- ex- ex change it he will raise Cain and there will be an awful scene Please tell me what I can do to get tet rid of this desk without havIng having haying hav hay ing to go through an emotional scene that thal will make me mc ill for a week THE MRS You might ask asic yourself the ques ques- ion Is the desk worth the thc ion that will Vm take bike place in my al and nd mental makeup and that of n ny fly husband were I 1 to make the ex ex- hange for a desk I like On th the of ot the answer to that question mist you proceed to act If you think the daily agony of seeing see- see ng ing an atrocity in your home could riot lot be endured then go to your our hus hus- and and say You wanted me to be pleased with the gift you gave me you As a generous hearted nan you didn't want your gin gilt to me meo 0 o express your taste when it was opposed op op- op i posed to mine but my taste that I might enjoy it Now lets let's not have my ny fuss about this but exchange the desk for one I 1 like Perhaps we can rind lind one we VC will both like It U may help your cause a little to let leL your husband know that he is not the only man in the world with taste inferior to that thaL of a woman The world may have gone test craz- craz crazy but we ve think it significant nevertheless that among college students student where the McAdory MeMory art judgment test was given liven the men scored an average of roughly and nd the women The conclusion is that on the average it itis is far Car better for lh the wife wile to select the husbands husband's clothes and decorate the house than the other way about providing pro- pro viding it IL can be done without causing causIng causing caus caus- ing an emotional jag jeg NEW YEARS YEAR'S BLUES Dear Miss Blair I am so blue I dont don't know what to do with myself There is a aboy aboy aboy boy I 1 like very much at ot high hight school He always talks to meaL meat meat me me- at aL school I had one date with him during the holidays I wasas was was' wasas as nice to him as I 1 knew how tobe to tobe tobe be and talked about everything I thought he would be interested in but he didn't ask me for a date for New Years Year's eve eye All my girl friends had dates and end I had to stay slay home I have heard from another g girl rl that this boy took another girl out during I the holidays and also had a 0 date with her for New Years Year's eve made me feel so bad I just wont won't know how to treat this boy when I 1 go back to school Can you tell me rue what to do Thanks very much BECKY Make an effort to treat the boy as you have haie always done Boys do not I get et th their their- lr emotions so much involved ved in m their friendships for br girls as girls do for boys They like a good pal until the time Ume comes that they actually actually ac ac- ac do fall tall in love Do not center your thoughts and affections on any one ne boy hereafter but buL make the attempt to be friendly with a number Then when one ne fans falls you there may be another to fill the need for friendly appointments |