| Show HABIT BIT OF QUARRELING BRINGS BRINGS' UNHAPPINESS FOR STEADY LOVERS I Married arrie Woman Bo Bottles Up Troubles When Telling Would Provide Needed Safety Valve f I Girl Fears Boys By BETTY BLAIR Nothing can bemore disintegrating to ones one's self respect than the habit of quarreling It Is a habit that can be forestalled forestalled forestalled fore fore- stalled by calm determination to substitute silence or a aple pleasant ant remark In place of finding fault a or the retort sar- sar castle Dear Miss Blair I have been going with the lame same boy nearly neary a year car At first we got along wonderfully together together to to- gether but lately we have been quarreling a good deal We seem to have got on each others other's nerves At first when we quarreled we had the Joy oy of making up Now we dont don't even have bave that He just stays tays away and sulks until he gets ets over it then calls up and asks me to go somewhere I have tried to reason about this and have about decided that it Is 15 because we have a feeling that we own each other and that nobody nobody nobody no no- body could come between us It isn't real jealousy that makes us dig at each other Its It's just the fact that we think we should order order order or or- der each others other's lives It is the hardest habit to cure Ive I've ever had And the quarrels arise over such trivial things So Sc trivial that hat after they're over for a while I cant can't even remember remember ber her what they've been about For example if U he should pass a complimentary complimentary com com- remark about another girl I 1 would take it up and make a mountain out of it and pretend I thought he was in love with this girL Or Or if it the tha same boy dance with me twice or three times Umes in an n evening he would act peeved about it and md anday ny Lay ay I was just trying to show the crowd how little I 1 thought of him Neither of us end with one remark remark re re- re- re mark but we can manage to keep the retorts going until one of us has really said something to be sorry for I know this Is childish b but t it has come to be a really serious thing between us and threatens to break us tL up entirely This would be a tr tragedy gedy as there isn't anybody else we care so much about as we do of each other In your kit of remedies have you one for our particular malady UNJUSTIFIED I X have an old standby that has proved successful in a number of cases sort cases sort sort of a patent medicine remedy you know the kind that cures all aU It is 15 the vacation plan Just to prove that you do not own each other why not adopt the vacation plan of not seeing each other for or a 8 whole month Go out with other yo young ng people Learn through these contacts that pettiness does not exist ex cx- 1st except between people who think they have a corner on each others other's thoughts and actions The habit of quarreling can cm be corrected corrected cor cor- by a change of point of view and will power Freedom from restraint re re- re st nt in your wholesome friendships rIen with other young people should change your our point of view and develop develop de de- de- de more snore tolerance Substitution of a pleasantry minus a sting for the usual sarcasm or biting remark can be c made by sheer will power Dont Don't make a New Years Year's resolution resolution tion to correct this ugly habit just let act about doing so ao Too often people get their satisfaction in making reso reso- The keeping of them is see sec After the vacation introduce new I interests and activities in your association asso asso- elation with wUn each other Dont Don't go goback goback goback back to the old way of drifting With plans for regular reading for the development development de de- of creative interests for athletic pursuits you can develop a community of interests that will not admit of bickering Bowling is a 8 wonderful sport that can be carried on all aU winter Indoor trapshooting could be made a very ery popular sport Photography clubs sketching clubs music appreciation clu clubs the possibilities pos pos- are limitless for interesting things to do BOTTLES UP VP WOES Dear Miss Blair My married life has been an any any- thing fog but a happy one but I have always always' been too proud to tell teU my any troubles to anyone Sometimes I think if there were just some some- one cne to talk to who would understand understand un un- un- un whether she gave me rae advice or not I would be re relieved re re- Just jurt by the telling Yet knowing that you receive all an kinds of confessions I am loath to write out my woes Please tell ten me honestly Miss Blair whether or not you think I should unburden myself If so so would you let me roe come and talk to you instead of writing It would be bevery bevery bevery very difficult for Of me to explain paper TROUBLED It Itis is one of the best things in the world to talk over over your troubles with another even though you feel sure she he he cannot advise you than to continuously continuously con con- fight them through your yourself self jell with no outlet Dr Eleanor B B. Saunders poSy poSy- py- py points point out that many women wo woo men believe mistakenly that it is 15 heroic to bottle up their troubles inside in in- side aide She explains explain how this often leads to physical and mental breakdown breakdown break break- down whereas talking it out occa occa- atonally with some friend or or with a detached person person- even though no advice advice ad ad- vice worth orth while may be given given pro pro- vIdea an emotional outlet and drains oU off emotional tension This 15 explains Dr Saunders develops develops devel devel- ops CPI the habit babi of placing your troubles trou trou- bles blea outside y yourself and looking at a them more snore calmly Of course to b be bc always talking of your troubles is bad Le Letters tie rs questions and requests requests requests re re- re- re quests for advice should be addressed ad dressed to MISS B BET BETTY E T T Y 1 BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA LAKE A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append ap ap- ap pend the thc right name and address address ad ad- dress but th these e will be held in strict confidence and will n m mt t appear in print Questions involving in in- advertising information annot be answered but ut as Dr Saunders points out To develop a talking basis of confidence and nd frankness is a great factor in the release elease of the emotions We shall mall be very happy to have you come In and arid unload oad your burden on n us We do not flatter ourselves that hat we can offer yo you the least bit of helpful advice but we make a first- first receptacle Dear M Miss ss Blair I know you will think mine a silly Lilly problem and for that reason I have hesitated a long time about asking it I have bave talked with a number of ot girls who say if jf you dont don't let a boy kiss you goodnight he wont won't ask to take you any place again I dont don't want boys kissing me rae goodnight and I discourage the boys who would be friendly with me rae just because of this idea the other girls have put in my mind Am I right or wrong BABS The question you ask asic is not silly but ut I ink this a a avery very fool Ish fear that the Hie girls have put in your mind Every girl has the right to bo be herself hersel You are doubtless missing some very very fine fine friendships on an entirely en en- irely wholesome b basis Is by believing this his nonsense I 1 am not riot saying you ou may not find this Idea existing in the minds of some Jome boys but there are plenty with fine ine breeding and natural natural natural nat nat- ural instincts instincts' who would not be so 80 cheap as to exact a kiss from a girl because he h had d provided an evenings evening's entertainment A great many boys boy feel that they are well paid by bynn an Interesting In In- Cresting girls girl company campany and that tha kisses belong to lovers lovera only an and then in mo moderation I |
