| Show HUSBAND BREAKS VOWS BUT BEGS FOR ANOTHER CHANCE TO MAKE MAIE GOOD 9 Gossip ossip Interferes to Break Up Friendship of Long Standing Standing Stand Stand- ing ins Girl Bases Hopes of Happiness on Too Narrow Plane By BETTY BLAIR Sometimes it takes a failure to form the basis of sue successful success success- cess cess- fiji ful living Failures have a way of bringing one face to face with realities as nothing else could do Those who fall faU should be given an opportunity to profit by that failure in the at attempt at- at tempt to live up to what the best in them demands and others expect Dear Miss Blair M My Husband has been stepping out for almost a year with a married mar mar- ried sled woman who has a very bad name Sh She Shwas was was a aI I in mar married a r r i e d woman oman with three children 1 A I 1 and my husband U liR d and I have four I IH IM M H f I fy YU 1 have been suspect- suspect I II I I iiiI f Ing him for a Jong Jone I I M time and at last Jast I IN I f decided to find out outI I I N U for myself and I IH H did I I IIII Now he is begging beg beg- II ging me to give h him n another chance He claims he has never loved the theother theother theother other woman but that she had him hypnotized by her attractions attractions lc- lc and that now he hates her herand herand and will never have another thing to do with her er Her own husband left her because because because be be- cause he found out she was Untrue untrue untrue un un- true to him long before my husband husband husband hus hus- band met her It seems to me something something- should be done with women like this who make it a point to wreck peoples people's lives and break up homes Do you think I should give m my ray husband another chance There are a good many things I shall expect expect ex ex- of him if U I l' let him come comeback comeback comeback back that he has been very ery lax in doing for the last two years He has developed the habit of coming coming corning com corn ing home hom from work and putting his nose in a book or newspaper and shouting at the children if they iney disturb him I think he should be more o of a companion to his children and play w with th them theta sometimes as as' if they were human beings that needed a fathers father's fathers father's fathey's fa fa- fa- fa ther's theys care and attention instead of ot little dogs to be kicked out ut of the wa way Then I think too that he should take more of an interest interest interest inter inter- est in keeping up the place and seeing that the porch is painted and the yard looks attractive For the last few years he hasn't doen a thing about helping to keep things looking right Dont Don't you think I should talk all these things over with him before I let him come back if I decide to let him hint come back Please advise me rae DISGUSTED Yes I think everybody should be given a chance to make good after failures s. s Often their failures teach them more than anything else in the world could about what life and the institutions built up by civilization expects expects ex ex- of themI them I think two of the reasons you can safely give your husband for your willingness to let him make go good d his failures as a husband and father are that you need a husband whom you youcan youcan youcan can look up to and the children need needa a father who can be a pal and companion com corn panion to them and not merely a traffic traffic traffic fic officer to tell them when and where to go Tell him you both have to make a struggle to make good as parents and andas andas as companions for each other but that unless he is willing to make more of a struggle in the future than he hasin hasin has has' hasin in he past you can see no point in his his his' coming back Dont Don't rub it in too hard about what you think his fail fail- have ures-have been A plain statement of the existing facts will be sufficient in his present low Jow state of mind You dont don't want to lower his morale beyond beyond beyond be be- yond the point of the stage Perhaps ps there have been some faults of which you also have been guilty Not of course that of delity But I sometimes think there are faults one can acquire that do more actual damage to the personality personality personality person person- of another than the breaking break break- ing lag of fidelity vows can do The hurt hurtis is against oneself when one is swept off oU his feet teet s so far as to be unfaithful unfaithful unfaith unfaith- ful to a mate But there are arc such Letters questions n a n a d requests requests re rc quests quest for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E. E Write legibly leibly upon enl only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will DC ne held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions Questions' involving involving involving in in- advertising information t tion on cannot be a answered I faults as nagging fault finding loudly loudly loudly loud loud- ly calling a attention to unimportant details carelessness In personal appearance ap ap- ap and so on that can wear wearon wearon wearon on another and often drive him to todo todo todo do things he would otherwise never have thought o of doing Make this desire to do the right thing from now on a mutual consid consid- Wipe the slate clean and begin begin begin be be- gin all over again Your children are area a goodly stock in trade which shall enrich you ou and whose lives you oU will enrich by giving them a background for which they will thank you OU in their adulthood The minor details o of reform can be worked in more casually in the attempt attempt at at- tempt to make life all over on an entirely entirely en en- new basis GOSSIP CAUSES TROU TROUBLE LE LEDear Dear Miss Blair I am a girl of 17 and the boy with whom I have been going for fora or ora a year is 19 Recently he was away for about a month and when he came back my best friend told him I had been Untrue untrue untrue un un- true to him He believed h her herand herand r rand and didn't even call me up or come to see me I felt so hurt and blue I called his best friend up and asked him if he knew what was the matter and he told me I did not go a single place with any b by y while my boy friend was away and my girl friend has made milde her ber story all up from the fact that one evening when I was at her place a crowd of boys and girls came and we all fooled around together listening to the radio for fora a while and then all left her house together The whole crowd walked home with me first and then took the other girls home Shall I go to my girl friend and ask her to make things right richt and tell my swe sweetheart theart that she lied to him or shall I tell him so myself Please Pleas tell m ma what to do RED Arrange to have havethe the matt matter r cleared up in the presence of four people Your girl fri friend nd the boy who told you you youl the story your sweetheart and your your- self Then whatever explanations explanation there are to be made can be attended to with all concerned there to make them and with each one there ther to face tace the responsibility that is his or hers hersto to face The whole thing may be based on a misunderstanding o of motives mo mo- tives MISSES GIRL FRIEND Dear Miss Mis Blair My girl friend and I ha have e been very chummy for nearl nearly a year We are both 15 and now that school is out she has started keeping keeping keep keep- ing company with a boy who has come here to spend the summer Now nearly every time I want to togo togo togo go some place with her she is going with this boy This makes me feel very blue and lonesome Sometimes I go goto goto goto to my room and cry for hours Can you suggest anything that will help me Thank you UNHAPPY If It you have had but one girl friend and that a il close chum for a whole year it is time something happened to make you realize that you were narrowing your existence down to a dangerous extreme When any two people become so engrossed in each other that their whole hopes of happiness happiness happi happl ness are based on each other an earthquake or something equally as violent should occur to separate them Come out of the gloom of your solitary solitary soli soIl tary room and find yourself other girl friends Not one only but a num nurn ber Get acquainted with some nice i boys of or your own age and work up some tennis matches It is a very dangerous dangerous dan dan- thing to tie tic yourself to one friend only or to creep off oil into the solitude of your own room to brood you are laying the foundation for much misery in your future life when you do this Be an active friend to many and accept their friendship in return if you want to l know now what real happiness is |
