| Show JEALOUS OF HUSBAND WIFE SUSPECTS LACK H OF HEALTH AS CAUSE t t iI 3 y I. I Would rould Sec Beneath Quiet Demeanor of Girl 1 He J i t. t Likes Best Maid at Fault on Question of Hospitable Treatment i I BETTY BLAIRS BLAIR By S Marriage puts to the test the moral and ethical fiber of people more searchingly than perhaps any association It is something that must be worked at t through sickness and in health through hard times and good Whenever one lets up on the job the seeds for failure arc sown Jealousy Jealousy Jealousy Jeal Jeal- is a seed that sprouts continual discord I Dear Miss Blair My husband and I have been married five live years cars We have two children a bo boy and a girl aged 4 and 1 I r ly years ar For respective respective- the last t year or more I II Iu I 1 fAR u have been terri tern f bly jealous of my f husband It has ill affected me mc so 1111 f much that my life HIe has been a 1 misery I I I Il in II I do not think h nr I I l have a any real eIther cither grounds but if I keep on nagging him about it Ill I'll surely drive him to todo todo todo do something I stay home all the time linac and work so hard looking after my home and children that I have got in a rundown condition and andI I think that has something to do with the way I feel about my husband If I were in a good condition of health I think I wouldn't get so morbid about things thinS Please tell me mc what to do to get over this terrible feeling which haunts me day and night It makes me inc so miserable and and him too Are Arc there an any books books' one c can n read to make a more hopeful condition of mind Thank you WAITING One of ot the m most st certain things about marriage is this That it will fail fall if it there is nothing to hold the mates' mates together except their per personal onal attractions Married people no matter matter mat mat- ter how devoted cannot feed on n each other indefinitely Their love must must be fed from sources outside them them- themselves them them- selves elves If it Is to last and grow And nothing is more certain than for two so intimately connected personal attractions will at times fall to low ebb with each other Then ThenIs Is the time to bring to the fore mutual mutual mutual mu mu- interests that each may enjoy It It-Is It is these thee that cement two lives to- to gether You my myde dear r need a change You may not be able to take a vacation in reality away from your family and and home yet you can take one in your own mind and after alter all it is is in our minds that we all live Arrange Arrange Ar Ar- range while your our children are taking their daB daily naps to take one too This brief rest in An the middle of the day will relax you and help to recuperate re re- rc- rc your strength Add to the caloric calorie value of ot your foods b by taking cream in your milk eating more fresh fruits and vegetables You should go to the clinic and have a thorough examination tion and follow the doctors doctor's prescriptions to the letter With your health built up I feel eel sure your mind will resu resume c its more normal tenure Read Modern Youth and Marriage by Neumann It is isto to be had at the public library The problem of jealousy is adequately U handled as are the many problems confronting married people Get out into the fresh air as much as pos pos- sible Have a small garden Now is isa isa isa a good time to plant perennials There is nothing n like digging in the soil and tending and watching young plants to restore one to health and normalcy Your children can have their own little plot to work in with shovels and spades of their own and the warm sun and earth will be good goodlor for lor them Your fears about driving your husband husband hus bus band to do the thing of which he is accused may be realized If you do donot donot donot not change your our tactics Make up your mind to stop speaking of it Instead In stead talk of new interests you may acquire through books magazines outside contacts with other people You can get into a dreadful rut stayIng stay stay- ing home and working hard all the time You must have some time for relaxation and recreation You must learn leam tp ch choose ose between values and to put into your life a variety of interests in in- that will best help to keep you ou happy and well If you cant can't get all of your work done choose between what must bedone be bedone bedone done and what can be held over orn or n not t done at all and md put in its place f something to add joy and new life That That will be he the secret of the f firs step toward happiness and a better understanding between you ou and your husband NOTE TO READERS No answers to letters letter will be given riven unless the letters may mOlY also be pub Watch column for lor type of letter WOULD PROBE GIRLS GIRL'S MIND 1 Dear Miss Blair How can you find what i is is goIng goIng go- go Ing lag on in the mind of a girl if it you ou like her a whole lot and she is quiet and doesn't let you know whether she likes you the same way or not This girl I go with always accepts my invitations and is pleasant but she never seems to get excited about anything any nn- thing or shows an any enthusiasm over me She is polite and al always al al- ways says in a very quiet way that she has enjoyed the eve eve- ning But hang it it I want her herto herto herto to more than enjoy it because of r the fact that I am part of it il r c How can I upset her equilibrium t enough to make her spill spillover spillover over just a little bit in her emotions emo emo- tons Thanks for the hem helo BIG BEN i. i Have you tried making love to the I girl Perhaps she Is waiting as properly prop prop- I erly enly she should to know to-know know where you stand on the question Make love to her herman man She can do no worse than l to reject eject you or to say say that she will willI I J i f V Letters questions p. p n d requests re rc re- re quests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you OU append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will DC oe held in strict confidence and will not appear In print Questions In jn Involving Involving advertising information information tion cannot be answered have to be given time to Know her own mind Show a little warmth yourself The potential flame may maybe maybe maybe be there and all it lacks is the kindling kindling kin kin- dung and lighting Supply these and you may be surprised at what hat you OU will vill find in the heart of this quiet girl You know the old adage abol aboU still waters running deep GIRL AT FAULT Dear Miss Blair I have ha been going with a boy whom w we wc shall call A for some time But I have many other boy My friends who frequently call at m my home to to see me through they do not ask me to go places with them as asam they understand 1 am going stead steady One night last week while Awas A Awas was calling on me three other boys B C and D came along and we were all listening to the radio B said Oh we dont don't want to listen to this preachy stuff and we got up and went out on the porch A did not come with us and md when I saw he wasn't there I did not call caU him He remained remained re re- re inside with my father and they listened to the speech But before it was ended we who were on the porch had w wOndered wandered into the garden where we stayed for la a little while lau laughing hIng and talking When we came back to the house A Avas vas was gone He had not said good night even cven to my fa a- a ther My father had told him he thought we were in the garden garden gar gar- I den but Instead of joining us he had gone home M My father thinks I owe him an apology but I think not If he ho wants to get et peeved over a little thing like that he can just stay peeved I think he owes me an apology for lor going away like that without saying good night What do you think Miss Blair NETTLED That you are entirely In the wrong Nettled You did not consider As A's wishes in the first place and you could at least have gone back into the living room and quietly have said Were going into the garden I Will wm you join us when the speech is over To leave him as you did with no consideration whatever would lead leac him to think you qu took him tco much for or granted or that it was immaterial immaterial rial to you whether he went or stayed You failed in your OUI part as the perfect hostess and if it you wish to o be friends again must surely offer the apology |
