Show DIVORCED REMARRIED AND STILL FRIENDLY iVi i TOWARD OW ARp FIRST SPOUSE Jn J. J I Ci Order of Receiving Line at it Wedding Reception May J Vary Young Man Stranger in T Town wn Seeks t New Friendships r fr i i By BETTY BLAIR When a woman Is divorced it is expected that her former r reason rason aso for living and cooking and darning socks should be beabout beabout about as welcome as a drouth in May It is human nature that the man or woman who wilo has filled another's place as Castar costar co- co star should feel a threat menacing threat in the fact that the form former for for- m mer mr r star co-star Is i to have small Darts carts in the Dear Miss Blair I am nm facing a very peculiar sitUation situation situation sit sit- and one I have never seen discussed in your column Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps you ou can help I am a divorced woman woman wo wo- sortI so man who has re re- re- re 4 U married My former former for for- forI U I mer husband and IF I f F IV 1 IIII still retained a IlkI lik Ilk likU liking I- I I ing ine for tor each other 1 RI at the time we were itI divorced tho though ugh I W I MI we did not love loveI I each other and we I 1 tI had had found i it impossible H l sible to live together to to- gether without on onor one or both sacrificing ou our But we have never hated each other and as a matter of fact we have always been interested interested interested in- in in each others other's welfare and have from time to time seen each cach other and discussed finances and asked about each others other's in in- This was before I 1 re re- re- re married I Now all this is changed since I remarried My present husband husband husband hus hus- band absolutely has put his foot down on my even having a conversation conversation con con- with my former former- hus bus band hand He argues if It we can still be friends we should never have been divorced and that if it we westill westill westill still like to see each other and inquire into each others other's lives that more than friendship must roust exist between us 1 T must put my former husband completely out of my life lite or have a break with my present husband whom I truly love N Now ow of course it all sounds perfectly ridiculous to me If It my former husband and I could have remained married to each other we would have done so If II we could have had the least desire Letters questions n a n d requests requests re re- re- re quests for advice Ice should be addressed sed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It is necessary that you ou append ap apt pend the right name and address ad dress but these will DC oe held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving involving in in- involving advertising information information information tion cannot be answered for or marital relations with each other we would have gone sone back to each other arid have been remarried remarried re re- married in the three years we were divorced before I remar remar- ried ned All that was ended between us when we were divorced Dont Don't you think my present husband is being a little unfair It seems so perfectly stupid to tome tome tome me that I can have a friendly feeling a sort of a well wishing feeling toward my former husband husband hus hus- band that from now on I must never express I must act in the future as i if he simply did not exist My former husband will wilp not care He can live without my little nod and friendly questioning question question- ing log when I meet him on the street or at an occasional party but he will laugh up his sleeve at mo me for tor being tyrannized over in this matter He will know it isn't like me roe What to do SHE WHO LAUGHS LAST We insist that we are arc modern We argue that we are broad minded We assert that if a woman has had five husbands and wants to invite them all to dinner it is her privilege to do so But after all when we say those things it is of ot the other person of whom hom wc we are arc thinking There Is a ac c catch i in the situation For it is a fact that two people who like each other other and and who once loved lo each other and lived the intimacy of or married mar mar- ned ried lives usually lives usually continue to live together or they do completely put each cach other out of or their theil lives Most men do not want the former loves of their wives around Most women would never submit to their husbands husband's visiting former wives Th The very fact that the they have once lived such intimate lives together demands demand in the heart of each that they tack No uNo Trespassing signs on the front fron door when their former mates did not jot prove to be the answer to their prayer Yet it does seem a bit stringent that having Ing once lived as husband huband and wife they may not when they meet inquire after aUer each others other's he health talk over their investments or discuss the pennant prospects of or the Cardinals and md the Giants without the present m mate scenting a liaison After all many will argue 1 e if iC people pee peo- pie want to be friendly why shouldn't they Men and women are arc nice lice to their former n fiances their ex ex- business partners people who have touched their lives closel closely and whom they hey do not subsequently hate why shouldn't former husbands and wives act as though each were a part of the human luman scheme of or things But uness un tin- less ess you can convert your husband to o this way of thinking you must be prepared to be laughed at by your former husband You must not even wink vink your eye to show you see the thc minor humor humor of ot the situation too for to toone toone toone one of the trio it is no laughing mat mat- Iter ter Your husband may later on come to know you ou better and nd to trust trus II your friendly feeling toward your former husband husban RECEIVING LINE Dear Miss Blair I am to be married soon and there are to be a bridesmaid and m matron of ot honor with me inc at the reception after the ceremony in inthe inthe the temple M My father and mother and my fiances fiance's father and mother also will be there Please tell me me mein in what order we stand in line to receive the guests Thank you MIGNON Your own mother the grooms groom's mother and the grooms groom's father may receIve at the entrance and direct the guests to the bride and groom who usually stand by a flower bedecked arch The brides bride's father may either I I receive at the door with them or circulate circulate cir- cir among the guests in the room oom If however young girl friends of the he bride receive at the door the re- re line will consist of the brides bride's mother father bride groom matron of h honor nor maid of honor mother of the he groom father of ot groom in the order in which they are named |