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H HEARTS HEART'S f fy y Come Comet t to to- to R HAVEN y y A VEN w With Betty Blair Affairs Astr o of ot the hem heart an antS and kindred problem ONLY will b be In Sn this department Lett Letters questions find and nd for tor advice should bo be addressed to BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT Write Writ legibly upon only oDly one ODe side of at tho pA paper r. r It It'll i U necessary that you append tho the right name nAm and address but these will be held In strict confidence and arni will wUl by no means appear In th print Letters rs personal reply must b bo be accompanied by tamped stamped addre Addressed ed envelopes Ed WANTS ANOTHER CHANCE Dear Miss Blair Here is a problem that Is Li very perplexing per to to me My uncle In the southern part of the state offered me job and rind I wrote him that I would take it Then before belore I left I had a telegram me n not t to come for another week I t told my girl that I Iwas Iwas Iwu was wu oinK and nd had d a last date with her ber Then when I didn't go 0 she he thought I had been kidding her and nd that I had never been offered a job The queer thin thine about it was that after fler I had shown her the telegram she believed me all tl right Then when I J told her C goodbye the second time she he thought everything was wu O. O K I went to fo my uncles uncle's and was gone rone a week eek A telegram had passed me on the way telling me inc not to come at all M as unexpected events eventa had happened and there was no job My uncle gave rave me enough work to pay my fare rare down and back After Alter I X returned home bome I X felt so 10 glum clum I didn't even call my girl up She bhe thought all nil the the- time that thit I was wasen wason wason on en the job I had promised to write to her heras as soon as I arrived there but didn't like to write with the turn of events X I like this girl a lot laL If I X call her herslow slow now after having been in town for fora rora a whole week and not calling catlin or writing she will certainly be hot at me She will be sure now to 0 think I have been deceiving her all along and that even the telegram was faked raked How can un I make her believe In me and understand that I love her and give me another chance AL I cant can't imagine what there is is' so difficult about your friend believing in you Does Docs she have a a naturally suspicious mind or have you deceived her in the past to make her suspect you r Theres many a slip twixt the cup end and the lip and jobs arc are the least secure of anything in the world today Dont Don't try so hard bard to prove your innocence innocence innocence inno inno- cence from fraud in this matter Why should you If It your friend cannot believe your simple statement then the reflection is cast upon her not you so long as you are arc a victim of at circumstances and not of a deceptive mind Call your friend certainly Tell TeU her the truth of the matter that you felt your disappointment so keenly you didn't want to see see anybody or talk to anybody She should be able to understand that the human mind sometimes does dOe recoil from other human human human hu hu- hu- hu man contacts during times times' of duress Dont Don't hesitate or act apologetic Why should you ou It It is this as much as ns anything that leads her to think you ou are arc guilty of wanting to deceive her It is your thinking that your friend believes you capable of deceiving her that makes you act in a guilty manner manner man man- ner ncr toward her Children will act actina in ina a guilty manner even though inn innocent mao inno cent it if they know they are arc suspected of being guilty and ups grown-ups are arc children in this this' regard So dont don't make your explanations as if it they were alibis Tell your friend that you are enough recovered from your disappointment that you could now enjoy human companionship com corn and you'd like ike a little of hers if she feels the same way about you WEDDING LIST Dear Dur Miss Blair Will you yon please tell me bow how the wedding list for a large wedding Is made up Thank you ELISE Wedding invitation lists are arc made up from four sources The bride and the groom make a n list each elch from their own friends the friends of the brides bride's family and those of the bridegrooms bridegroom's family are arc added and given over to the brides bride's mother or to someone delegated by her to take charge of sending out the invitations DECORA DECORATIVE TIVE ART Dear Miss lilies Blair I am going to have my living rooms repapered and would like to indulge In a a. riot of or color colors but my better conscience and my husband say Nay nay my Do you think I would be going far tar astray to have a green gren gold rold and brown wallpaper the colors of which are ne well blended when my rugs are all neutral Thank you CONTRARY MARY The gay autumn colorings as compared compared com corn pared to the gray months which follow follow fol fol- low shou should d convince anyon anyone on the desirability of color and d design sIgn instead in in- stead ste. of neutral backgrounds Even winter tries to compensate for a gray landscape with bright r red berries white snow golden sunsets and tho the sharp accents of black tree branches So take heart from the gorgeous this faIland fall faIl falland falland I scene scene outside your window and indulge yourself in color in your house furnishings Red green gold and brown arc are all seen in the new wallpapers this season Borders arc are arcin arcin in style again Flowered carpets are back People who have old what nots in the attic are are arc bringing them down Lamps Lampi are fussier scrolls are seen once more and pianos have searls again INVITATION TO BOYS Dear Miss l Blair Is it all aH right for tor a girl to ask a aboy aboy boy to take her to a party The party pady is being belne given riven by a girls girls' club and each girl is supposed to bring her partner Many of these girls go with boys boys' and for them to ask uk the boys boy seems all aU rI right ht but It Is very hard bard for tor me who know so few rew boys to ask k one to take me There Isn't Isn anyone anyone any any- one I know V very well veIl except as class class- mates advise me PEARL Since I I suppose the club is also a school activity ask the boy In one of your classes whom you know best Explain the purpose of the club if it ithe he isn isn't t already familiar with it name some of the people whom he knows who will also be there and and- tell teIl him you would like to have him go as your partner and that you will guarantee guarantee guarantee guar guar- antee he will have a good time Dont Don't make your invitation sound formal Young people are never formal with each other and that is just as u it should be NOTE TO HAZY Our circular Treatment of Blackheads Blackheads Blackheads Black Black- heads and Pimples will serve you Send a stamped tamped self self-ad addressed self dressed envelope enI en- en I for it |