| Show H EART'S Come CRTS to- to T a HA M VEN YEN With Betty Blair Attain of the heart and kindred problem ONLY M be dl cu d dIn In 10 this tola department Letters questions question and requests for advice should b addressed to BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only OD one tide side of or the pa paper r. r 5 I It n la necessary that you vou append the tight name atm and address out but these will wUl be held beld in strict confidence and aDd will by no means mean app appear ar arIn In print Letters requiring personal noDal reply must be U. accompanied by tamped stamped envelopes Ed Ed I PUBLIC DEMONSTRATIONS Dear Miss 1155 Blair I I have bave been going with a boy whom 1 i like very ver- much but there Is II on one thine he does which annoys annoys me s io so much It makes me miserable When we are In the show or any other place where we have hive to sit alt to watch th the e he likes to put his hi ari arm around me I could never stand to see ace other young people youn-people people perform Ilk this his in public and though I want hino hin to o show affection for me I dont don't wan want him to do so before other people When he puts his arm around m me meI I 1 Imagine everybody Is looking at u us usand usand and making remarks Once 1 I said I to him ilin Please dont don't and he thought though I was angry with him about some some- something thing Once 1 just took his hanaway hand han away from my shoulder without sa saying say say- I ing Ine- ng any anything thine- thine at all and he acted he-acted acted hurt hur the he whole evening lie He said he didn't care how many people saw him o or knew th that thai t he loved me I II I don't dont know what to do to let lei him know that I want him to love me but that hat I think loves love's demonstrations demonstrations' should b be given riven In ones one's home pr privately vat ely and not in public Somehow It t seems to cheapen It U to have everybody every ery everybody body looking on Can you help m me with this problem Many 1 thanks SELF You are right in thinking that nothing noth- noth ing ng so cheapens love as to have i its demonstrations made in public I If your our friend wants to show the world how low much he cares for for- you he ca cado can cando cando do so by exhibiting a fine courtesy courtes toward oward you and a consideration fo for your sensitiveness in this particular He is subjecting you OU to the ridicule of the public when he fails tails to take tak into nto consideration that they feel nothing noth noth- ing ng of oC his real emotion toward yo you and can judge only by an outward vulgar display at which they laugh But for all of at this it is better that tha you discuss the matter quite frankly rather ather than give hints or make motions mo mo- Ions toward correction which h halls he tails falls utterly to understand You need not offend him in the telling His Hi seems to be a naive demonstration o of affection utterly lacking in self con rather than the grosser display of passion and all he needs needs need is s a complete understanding of your you feelings in m the matter and of what wha the tic conventions demand to induce indue him lim to conform You have told your you point joint of view to me very very well Se See what you can do about getting i it across cross to him BEAM BEAl IN YOUR EYE Dear Miss lIss Blair A crowd of us girls got rot together tog am and decided we would make a list of al allie all the lie faults we saw In each other In Inthis Inthis this his way we hoped t to Improve ou our wa ways s so 50 we would become more tar lar ar and have better times There Ther were six of us In the crowd and each girl Irl was to criticise another but th thame the same ame two were not to do so for tor each other ther We thought in this way w we couldn't get et mad at each other The girl Irl about whom I had to make mak the he list of faults has not been In ou our crowd very long so 1 I didn't know many of her faults but she had on one that hat was ver very noticeable When any of f us were talking she would think o of something to say and Interrupt u us without even showing showing- that she knew anybody had been speaking I thought though this his was a very bad habit as the other othe person seldom ever was allowed to finish h what she was saying It was wat hard for me to know how to tell ell this girl Irl her fault so I made upa up upa a verse about It just a fun funny y verse versi that hat I thought would make her laugh laug as well as the others But she didn't augh She blushed and acted very strangely ely as if she were quite angry I When we we ve were were- ready to go 10 home she he waited alted to walk out with me am and when we were on our way she he stopped topped and said she wasn't going any farther arther that she Just just came came that far to tell me she considered my verse a direct Insult to her and th that t I ha had picked out the mote In her eye ee but bu had bad forgotten the beam In my own I 1 told her it want wasn't my place thereto there ther to find the beam in my own eye that tha somebody else had done It for me But Bu since that was the understanding I Iwas Iwas was glad clad my friend had told old me m my fault and naturally I thought sh she would feel the same way She denied that she ever did that sort of thin thing She said her training had been sup supe- supe nor to that of an any other girl Irl In hi th the crowd as far as manners mannen were concerned con on and that I had Just tried 1 to humiliate her I told her if it she felt that way about abon it to just try and forget forlet It but thain that tha i in reality If I had known her as we well as I now did I would have another fault to add and that was Wal her failure fallar to to-be to be a ac rood good sport She wu was furious furlou with me and after laying some ver very mean things she he left me 1 Now she has hu gone cone to all aU the and aneS told them them she will not be in th the crowd if It I am left in She has a nice home and clothes and everything an anIt and andIs andis Is It popular so the girls hate t to lose her from the crowd but the they have said aid they would rather uther give Elve he heup her herup herup up than me I hive have told them I would woul drop out and not interfere with he heat heat heat at all aU but they wont won't listen to tha that They have tried to patch up things thing between us and I am perfectly wil wilIng will wUl lag Ing to be friends but she has hu tol told them she wont won't even speak to me What do you think I ought to do doI I love all these other girls and would hate hat to be separated from them but this girl is III new and doesn't know an another any other girls and it w would uld be harder fo for her to make new friends than It would for me In fact th there r are several severa crowds I go 10 with all the time It a all seems so silly sUly and ridiculous to me fo for her Mr to behave in inthis this manner but I really dont don't feel responsible for th the way she is acting since I did merel merely as all the others did according to ou our bargain Please advise me meTHE meTHE me THE BEAM I I It is my opinion that the newcomer has las a very great superiority complex comple and needs to b be taught a a lesson I Ithe In Inthe Inthe the first place she broke the rules of ot the agreement by showing her fee feelings feel feel- ings in the matter bf hi her correction and in the second place she is ver very undemocratic in refusing to belong t the to the he club if you are arc not ousted In n neither case should her attitude be jc tolerated The other girls should tell her straight out that she owes owe you an apology and that under no cir will they permit you to leave cave the crowd Let them tell he her that if she considered herself perfect she should not have enter entered d into th the agreement to have her faults told They may tell her also that they lik like her her- herfor for her fine qualities but the they think she has made a mistake in no not accepting the correction in the same sam spirit in which all the others did anc and according to the agreement Under no circumstances should yo you give her this triumph over you in he her utterly false assumption and wron wrong cause You are arc not In any sense try lag Ing ng to triumph over her and you should stand for the rightness of ot th the principle involved in the argument The girls girl's training may have been far ar superior to that of any other girn girl gir girlin girlin in n the club but her disposition her shows show the he need of all she may have had and more that you should give her in as kind but effective a way as you can administer it now S BR BRIDAL AL PARTY PHOTOGRAPHS I Dear Miss 1 Blair My ly sister sister- Is to be married soon There are so 10 many little details we y have hav tave to work out most of which thanks hanks to you OU have been attendee attended to o. o There Is just one more question I should hould like to ask Is the bride or orthe the room croom supposed to pay pay for for the photo photo- Thank graphs e of ot the wedding party party- you SISTER Unless the photographs are asked for or by a newspaper in which even event the he newspaper itself stands the expense ex cx- pense of the thc photo photographs it is lh the place lace of the brides bride's family to pay for tor forthe the he photographs EIGHTH ANNIVERSARY Dear Miss 1 Blair Blah Will you please tell teli me what whit the eighth wedding anniversary Is Thanks MEG IE 1 The eighth wedding anniversary requires the giving of rubber gifts Sounds but when you begin to look about you will find a variety ot of f gifts from froni rubber rubber aprons aprons or gloves to Ita a rubber plant I |
