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I Conic COlne fo to- to AVEN V E N HA H T S EART'S EAR With Betty Blair Blaire e Affairs of ot the heart and kindred problems ONLY will be bc discussed In this department Letters questions and requests for advice hoUld bo addressed ed to MISS BETTY BLAIR BLAIn HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN YEN TELEGRAM AM SALT LAKE 4 Write legibly upon only one side of or the Uie paper t tIt It IL Is Ls necessary ry that you jou 1 append the right name and address but these will wUl be held In strict confidence and nd will by no means appear J In print Letters Lotters requiring personal reply must be bc accompanied by stamped addressed sell envelopes elop Ed I FAMILY QUARRELS De Dear Miss BI Blair lr S If U there Is b one word under the sun sunI I hate It is he the word quarrel It to me mc as I look back bark on it that m my whole life has hac been one long IanI rel rd I determined that If IC I ever had a ahome ahome home of oC my own there would be no quarreling and now here I am coming corning com corn ing to you ou to io find out how to keep Jeep with husband from Crom quarreling my m- He Ife grew up in a a quarrelsome family fam fam- II ily too and it seems to o be a habit with him We have hare a n year old son eon fion and clOd I surely do hate to have c him grow up In the atmosphere of oC discord that surrounded my mr childhood Most of our quarrels come on Saturday Saturday Saturday Sat Sat- evenings We belong belon to a club of married people and we wc either cither go goto goto goto to one of their homes or they come cometo cometo cometo to ours Saturday is an especially heavy da day dan anyway n way and I have to get Kd Sonn Sonny to bed and there are arc a million things to be done before I can get ready I am nearly always tired and it makes me sue so cross to be prodded along and yowled at when hen I am doing doin the best I can un to get ready and Dd leave Sonn Sonny as he should be left leU My Ir sister sister sis sis- sis sis- ter comes In to stay slay with him but she shei i is too loo young oun to do all the things thins that need to be done for Cor him ilease help me out of oC my difficulty so that we wc wont won't quarrel and feel hateful toward each cacti other for Cor days afterward lie He even en acts w when hen we wc getto get getto getto to the party as if It he likes someone else better belter than he does docs me me yet d I know it Is just his upset feelings that makes him do this I should like to know what experience others have hwe had In conquering their quarrelsome habits TROUBLED It always takes at least two to tomake make a quarrel The man or woman who has a quarrel with himself alone is la usually checking up on himself and that kind of quarreling is good for the rc reform orm movement But quarreling between two people is the most harrowing thing in the world A sided one-sided quarrel isn't so good as a one-man one quarrel because two people arc e involved even though one of them may mar say nothing but itis it itis itis is better than a two-sided two quarrel When husband yowls bite your our tongue and say nothing And if he quarrels with th you for or saying sayin nothing say y nothing to that However isn't there a way of arranging arranging ar aI ar- ar ranging your work so that the necessity necessity sity for the quarrels will not arise Do most of your Saturdays Saturday's work on Friday Rest on on Saturday a afternoons so you will be fresh for the party Have a simple meal oh on Saturday evening and get your our face and your our hair hall all aU ready for the party carl early so when it is time to put Sonny to bed there is but little left to do to get yourself read ready Most quarrels could be avoided with a Q little forethought and a little littlemore littlemore littlemore more consideration for tor each cach others other's rights and feelings Sonny should grow up in an nn atmosphere of ot love and consideration rather than one of bickerIng bickering bickering bick bick- ering and misunderstanding and It is also true that men and women work better under conditions of happiness BOYS BOY'S ARGUMENT I near Dear Miss Blair I have hare been going golis with a n boy for Cor a little more than three months I have fallen Callen in love with itis ith him but he wants to pet more than thai I think young O people should who ho arc are not sure the they are go goIng goIng going go- go ing to marry marr- each ch other Ills His argument argument ment Is that it Is natural for tor young people to pet He lie doesn't really want to lo do anything wrong but he thinks one can cm spend a whole evening just petting without harm hams coming coming- from front it Please tell me how to overcome his argument that It is natural Thank you ou ARMA AR Natural does docs not mean excellent The Thc cave man was natural but he certainly was not riot free He was chained down by ignorance and su superstition superstition superstition su- su and fears He was chained by the idea that mi might ht was as right and that brute strength th should conquer the thc weaker Civilization has been a process of liberating him from these fetters of his cave life To say that we do things because it Is natural places us no higher than the brute kingdom Beasts cannot cannot cannot can can- not evaluate their acts humans can cnn Man Ian can hold his desires up to the light place them sec see them in relation relation rela rein tion to one another and to a whole scheme o of worthwhile thin things and S1 say This desire is preferable this other must be kept in place It is a fact 1 we wc learn early in childhood that not all our desires can be satisfied We We may have a desire to sneeze violently or to spit but we cannot do so and and still gratify our desire to remain in indecent indecent indecent decent society We cannot live naturally and at atthe atthe atthe the same time expect to be bc like civilized civilized civil civil- beings The latter are arc those who are arc able to control their natural desires desires de do- sires b by good common sense A MATTER IATTER or OF DRESS Dear Drar Miss Blair I am Invited to an informal banquet banquet ban ban- banI I and dance some time this comIn coming cornIng com corn In ing week Would an organdy dress ill ha-ill having no sleeves be too formal to wear I have ha the thc shoes to match and the neck is semiformal cut Thanking you rOUt DOUBTFUL An or organdy andy dress with an 10 informal neck line can very well be worn for informal l and semiformal dinner dances Or Organdy andy itself Is a material that may lend itself to formal afternoon afternoon after alter noon wear and for or bridal parties but butis is lS seldom seen in strictly formal ormal evening evening evening even even- ing apparel CAREFREE BROWS Dear Miss 1 Blair I have hare the most awful habit of scowling over my work My I eyes are not at fault as I have havo recently had them tested Please tell me mc what to todo todo todo do to erase crase these wrinkles and to keep from Crom getting more MONKEY F ACE When you sit to read or write or think or sew i if you will first tie a n I bandeau of some soft material snugly across your forehead it will serve as a reminder against needless frowning scowling and puckering In general If you are doing close office oHice work where the bandeau would be a hindrance hindrance hin hin- drance rather than a help coat your forehead with the white of an egg before leaving home and this will take the place of an invisible wrinkle plaster holding the skin taut and making scowling difficult At night before going to bed bcd iron out the wrinkles with a l. l good cold cream and the use of the finger inger tips Do not rub the skin but tap with the inn fit finger tips and press against the theline theline theline line o of wrinkles without moving the finger ringer tips except by lifting Jilting them to another position CORRECT NUMBER OF or CARDS Dear Miss Mis Blair l I My husband and I are going to re return return return re- re turn A call on which occasion cards were left Idt on u us u There is only the husband and wife wiCe How man many cards shall we leave Ica Man Many thanks thanks PLAIN PL JANE One never leaves more than three c cards lr s for any occasion Your husband will vill leave two of his one for or the man and one for the lady of the house You will vill leave one of yours for the wife wiCe SPRINGS SPRING'S CURTAIN CALL Curtains take on a n new importance in the spring If It you can possibly afford af at ford ord new ones do get some i If not see sec that the old ones are carefully laundered and the worn ed edges es trimmed and md While youre you're dressing up UI the curtains take a look at the sha es J If they are worn and stained from an accumulation of oC winters winter's soot an and dust remove them from rom the roller turn them upside down tack lack the worn end on the top hem the l lower edge and presto you ou have c new shades to complement your fresh curtains AN OPEN AIR SNACK Pineapple cream cheese c and lettuce let let- tuce between Boston brown bread make an interesting sandwich for foran foran foran an outdoor snack As an accompanying accompany accompany- ing beverage serve an ice cold glass lass of ginger inger beer with a dash of lime juice in it When papers stick to the top of oC the I kitchen table rub with a little oil and I the paper will wm loosen |