Show IE cOl TO TO- HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN YEN i S S S S I SS SS S Ie With BETTY BLAIR ot of Ul the burt and kindred problems ONLY will b be b. discussed department tD ta thi thU Letters question and for advice should b t. t addressed to o I BEI BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write JS legibly upon only one sido aido of or the paper It I Is necessary that you append the right June ume and anet address but these eja be bit held in strict confidence and by no means appear apper In Zd M Ed VS ANTAGONIZES ANTAGONIZE Blair S J- J i to tell you my hard Inc Ince luck lack t and 1 hope e yOU yon will help me inc to ide e a very Y Important qU Question J I Jl 1 ll l' llad and ad have been married nearl nearly Vest ren bat but n K seems ems that my ma mai mar j i b 11 oln on the rocks ur make very sm sma small M iT Igel barely enough for tor us to get jet b by pd ni ye yet d he be h Is alwa always Alwa's giving hi hiEn his En 1 money whenever they ask fo for tor husbands husband's younger brother brothe Caei tS es to 0 oar cur home any time whether are at t b home me or not and helps help ri It to my flY husbands husband's clothes II lit them m U as long as he e pleases an anthem and krus them or not as he likes VM time during waking hours hour lit is jay tty l husband Is at home is just Jest justa a ough for him to eat and even en sir after alter I have ha prepared meal be he will wUl come In tn and arid tell me mei mep i p hu U jolt jit finished a a. grand meal at ati i mothers mother beo be he Is I m he always aIwas wants wanta me mei meto i n to 1 for lor W his mother the first thing kt he knows S w what t. t to do for lor me me Is 15 kit Mt he be always says All AU this hur hurts bl I al have carefully and id nd prepared meals Person IT I law am neat Beat and clean and always ti p my house that way toC too Judging ing dg-ing t m lIS his bit actions I think he wants and t to 0 b be h back with his family I irked nd n nd made my own 11 living be belt be be- lt I flUrried curried and I can do so again tut aie e me what to do FAY j Here bere are what may be called AN AN- in almost every mar mar- l life lUe 6 Some one import it t of irritation may be ere ere- 2 conflict in what otherwise might I i serenely happy home The inference in in- ference ence of laws in-laws and other rela rela- M PM is 1 according to Mr Eddy who ifs n adequately with problems of ol gge e in his book called Sex and one of the most serious of ol e. e Th There re should be active in the theof of ot both husband and wife the theto Ere Ite to remove every condition that ht t hamper or thwart the other Co the expression of his and her imal tell tell- The Tho constant irritation coercion the repressive measures ced by one upon the other rough h the gratification of his or her herr selfish r desires in which the other uno 10 part can create the most dis dis- as nervous disorders upon the Ue partner 1 Joint family purposes should betted be beted ted within the new family u dIc- dIc ted tel by either partner They should eek areas mas of agreement This means out what each really wants wants' i distinguished from what they say s mew means the giving up of selfish de de- tei and sad the establishing of as many of h harmony y as possible touchy about ones one's dignity being fearful lest one is not getting gottin the proper deference from others i is fatal to proper harmony People d do donot donot not have to demand dignified treat treat- treat treat- ment They get exactly what own actions call for Your rights in the home are arc your husbands husband's rights and vice versa verta Your You husband is violating your rights when he permits his brother to enter your you home and arid take property from i it whether it be yours or his He is viol yb- lating your oUr rights when he leaves leave you to prepare his meals and takes take dinner with his mother She is 15 violating vio yb- lating bating your our rights to permit him to todo todo do so His mother should make an occasion to invite both of you together to dinner and playfully to drive he her herson herson son to his own home when he consid consic himself an uninvited guest in hers Dont Don't give up Fay Pay Get the boo book mentioned at the beginning of or this thi letter etter You and your husband react read it t together and see how much it will wil help you to solve your problem STEPMOTHER TRIALS Dear Miss Blair I have havo been married twice and a al together have ha reared 22 children I tad had a a. large family of my own am amny and my ny second husband also has a large e family amily My 1 own children are arc al all all married but my husband has a boy of Qt 16 at home now who Is la giving me great grief grid When I ask him to do anything he just jest sits and takes no notice of me He lie talks to me as If U I 1 were the maid under him and he Interrupts his father and me when we weare arc are talking In the most offensive manner I do everything for him keep his clothes lothes clean for lor him to go to school but ut he ho surely sorely treats me awful His Ills other father Is a wonderful man and theother the theother other ther children are all nice to me I Iam Im am m of ot a mild mUd disposition and his ac 1 tons surely make me cry sometimes sometime The ho other children say I am too good goodo to o him Please tell me what to do Ip PAULA AULA Your being too good to your stepon stepson step step- son on is perhaps the reason why he hEL takes advantage a of you You must musi L acquire the ability to temper your kindness with firmness Let him I I know now that if he wont won't work for you OU I you ou will not labor for him to keep keer I I his clothes clean and do the hundred I I and nd one other little things for him I I that hat add to his comfort and happiness Sixteen is a most difficult age among mong all boys They are beginning to o feel the authority that age bestows upon pon them they think at this age that they hey know more than anybody else elsen In n the world Nagging them hurting their heir manly pride making them feel eel like worms isn't going to help the le cause any But punishment that fits ts the crime should be administered in order that they learn respect for other ther peoples people's rights When they learn earn that their errors bring denials of f their own privileges they are apt to o think twice before carrying out their own programs of disrespect MAKEUP PROBLEM Dear Miss Blair 1 Please tell me what shade of ot rouge route I should nse use I 1 have medium brown hair brown eyes long lone black lashes and nd black eyebrows and a medium complexion with a a. few freckles tf Thank hank ank you JOY I Natural powder raspberry rouge and nd light lipstick should be used for makeup The new shades of henna rust and red will be becoming to you YO Also the neutral shades of or gray sand sandl mauve and tan Yellow or maize may maybe maybe maye be e worn for evening or the pastel paste shades hades of green gree beige and apricot I SEES MOTE 1 IN OWN EYE I IDear Dear Miss Blair Ono One of my greatest f faults Is seeing the he fault of or others and telling them I about It 1 I go with a a. very nice boy but ut I am always slipping In some lito Uttie lit lit- tie o remark about some fault or other ot of f his I know this Is wrong and yet I have havo formed a habit that Is la hard to o break I have as ns many faults as asle he le but he never speaks of them Please lease help me sac get rid of this fault JANE You made your our first corrective step Jane Jane when you saw saw the mote in your our own eye Now whenever youg you youg g g get t that feeling of or wanting to say s sa something in a finding fault manner I ss a about bout your friend say something in in- s stead ead tead about his good qualities Make y your our tongue do the thing your mind d reels directs Soon you ou will have the habit o ot f seeing the good continuously in in- s stead ead tead of the bad Every girl should endeavor to make t the he le boy for whom she has set her ca cap eel teel f el with her that he is at his bes best Any nv illusion he may hold about him him- s elf self should be made to appear as an u unquestionable reality This feeling will vIlI ill as much as anything else spur h him im m on to accomplish these realities The same rule applies to women as well weil ell They are ore most easily made to eel feel f a tender emotion toward the peron peron per per- s on son who makes them feel a little more witty itty a little more beautiful and a l ittle little more charming than they ordinarily do do or really are |