| Show COME c 0 1 IE u T TO Ta t. t I HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN YEN 1 With BETTY BETTl BLAIR Affairs of ot the heart and kindred d problems ONLY will be bo discussed la In this department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should bo be addressed to MISS DEITY BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE LASE Write legibly upon only ono lido of ot tho the p pAper per It Is necessary that you Ou append the right name and address butIn but these win will bo be held In strict confidence and will by no means menns appear In n print prim Ed OFFICE WIVES Dear Miss Blair There is a young woman in my husbands husbands husband's hus bus bands band's office of whom I am terribly jealous My ly Husband denies that he heb hein heis in is interested in her but m my instinct tells me better I know that he is anxious to lo go co to lo the office in the mornings and at noon I know that hat his grouchiness when he comes home at night has lias something to do with leav leaving ing her W When en I have spoken to him about this girl it has hM been in a Do Joking way wa and ho he has tried to disarm me by jol joling joky Jok In log ing back and saying saving I was wai having ln a pipe dream What wife wile knows just Jus Just how friendly her husband becomes become with his stenographer What wife can compete with the office wife wire I Iam Iam am losing faith In my husband I dont don't think he is actual actually untrue to me buI but bu butI I resent the fact that he is carrying arr on an a a. clandestine flirtation with any an another other woman or girl If H I stay home and keep his house properly and prepare appetizing appetizing- meals and fill the bill as a a. housewife and remain absolutely true to him I figure figuro that he should be able able- to do dohis dohis dohis his work and remain true to me inc The only places I go to without him are women's wo woo women's mens men's club affairs and I do not neglect my home for these To my mya a way of thinking a man who thinks disloyalty disloyally I ito to his wife in these little silly affairs jhc fhe feeds his ego with is b as aI bad as theman the theman theman man who actually has an affair with another woman What do you ou think I about it Miss lIss Blair lair SUSPICIOUS The office wife wile prepares herself hersel for her work She is efficient on th the job she is always well groomed sh she greets her employer with a smile anc and no matter how wrong things s turn during during during dur dur- ing the day she never nags at him nor expects more of or him than he can do She never ne involves her employer in emotional turmoil turmoil turmoil-if if she attends strictly to business and doesn't allow allo herself hersel to fall Into the sex sex trap rap Do you ou wonder yond that her em cm- m r thinks nice girl or of her when he ic greets her in the morning all permanently permanently per per- waved and freshly manicured mani cured and trim trimly I tailored and alert and intelligent The trouble with most housewives whose husbands follow the lead of theoffice the theoffice theoffice office wi wife e is that they do not tr try to compete with the sort of thin thing thine that makes its appeal to hubby In appearance appearance ap- ap in courtesy and ond kindness in n efficiency most wives fall tall short of or the standard set by the steno It is true that the intimate lives of f the wedded involve problems of o such uch a nature that difficulties arise in n the solution of which th the difference or of f personality itself plays a big part parl It t is these there personality differences that require the most intelligent handling between husband and wife It is in these problems that the office girl seldom becomes involved If Il she does docs oes as a rule she proves her lack o of fitness iness for or her job As a rule she knows nothing about the technique required to solve personality differ differ- until she annexes a husband o of her own If Il you radiate enough h sunshine around round your own establishment you ou need eed not worry about your husbands husband's putting utting in extra time appreciating the theay ray ay of ot sunshine that emanates his way wa from rom the office orfice girl You wouldn't have him trying to work under a thunder thun thun- der er cloud all day Most office help helpas has as to attend strictly to business Why worry vorry if business is carried on in an atmosphere o of amiability This does does' not pt mean an atmosphere of oC infidelity either in thought or action Does the plumber or the milkman or the delivery boy make love to you he comes to your home to att attend attend at at- t tend nd to business No more does docs your husband make love to his secretary If IC there are exceptions to this rule the he fault is in the individual and not in n the system FRIENDS FALL OUT Dear Miss Blair There is 15 a girl who has been my best est chum for two years ear Now how how- vcr ever she has started going with another anther an an- other ther girl who told her lies about me This makes me feel very badly as there isn't another girl Irl I can feel fer friendly with in the same way that we were friends Another girl told me about the lie I this girl told m my chum Shall I go JO to I my friend and tell her that the other girl lied just to get her away from me Or shall shaUl I go to the other girl and tell her I know about the lie and ask her herto herto herto to make it right ht I worry so much about losing my friend I cant can't think of anything else I am 15 years ears old andin and andIn andin in junior high My ly mother says us I should just forget torget about it and find another chum What do you OU think Miss Blair PEGGY I think exactly as your mother does Peggy that you need to enlarge the circle of your friendships If you make the effort you will find the most likable qualities in other girls It isn't a good thing for you ou to tie tic yourself up to one friend Your experience experience ex ex- in having only one chum becomes becomes be be- comes too narrow Begin to show a decided interest in other girls several of them Dont Don't bother about the lie the girl told It cant can't really hurt you Let your friend find ind it out as she undoubtedly will and seek your our friendship again She will appreciate you all the more for having been mistaken I Invite other girls to your home homeI Play and md work together Have wholesome whole whole- wholesome some interests together that will keep you busy outside your school life You must learn while young oun not to base your hopes o of happiness on the things other people do and say DOWAGERS DOWAGER'S HUMP Dear Miss Blair I There Is an ungainly little mound of fat growing just below the nape of m my neck When I wear an evening gown own this hump looks look awful Isn't there something I can do to get tet rid of it I am 40 and am gaining in weight generally but this obtrusion is not to be tolerated Please tell me what hat to do Thanking your you DOWAGER Dowagers hump which in reality reality real real- ity is incorrectly named occurs either cither when one is gaining in weight generally generally generally gen gen- or as a result of faulty posture And therein you ou have a hint regard regard- regarding regarding ing preventive or corrective treatment treatment treat treat- ment Learn to carry yourself beautifully beautifully beau beau- erect Do not thrust the shoulders shoulders shoulders ders back after the manner of a ar rookie r okie but hold the chest high and I Ithe the head high an and the shoulders will r both automatically and gracefully take care of ot themselves This will make the neck bump flatten out con con- Here is a leveling exercise for then the purpose purpose- Raise Raie the shoulders as high as possible then thrust them backward back back- ward as as far as possible Now lower them as far as you OU can then push them as far lar forward as possible Finally raise them 3 again With practice practice I tice you will be able to coordinate these movements until you describe I a circular motion with the shoulders While in the performance of oC the daily dally bath you can hasten the process I of removal b by applying towels wrung put out ut ot of hot Epsom salt water to the dowager hump NOTE TO LA FILLE Your explanation concerning your proposed visit with your father convinces con con- convinces vinces us more than ever that it will willbe willbe willbe be the best thing for you to go 0 Youcan You Youcan Youcan can be the dutiful daughter to father fa fay ther for a a. while and after your mothers mother's honeymoon if fr she still wants you yon on to return to her her wen well there willbe willbe will willbe be time enough then and more experience experience ex ex- too o for tor having lived JIved In your fathers father's home to help you yon to decide that problem CAT FOR GIFT GIFTA A pretty gray ray cat needs a good good home Interested people may call Hy fly W. w. w Such a nice cit city New York F Five FC I hours in it i is not vel very much much- Josette C Laval daughter daught r ot of of Laval of ot France FIance |
