Show j m cOl TO I HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN YEN I J 1 With BETTY BLAIR BLAIR Affairs of or the heart and nd kindred problems ONLY will b be discussed cd in this department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should bo ho addressed to MISS BETTY BErry BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM L SALT LAKE Write Write- rite legibly upon only one aldo of the paper It Is Ia necessary that you ou append tho right lame amo and address but these will be held In strict confidence end and will mil by no DO means meana appear In Iti print Ed E l THREE MAIDS AND A MAN Dear Miss Blair Will yon you please advise me inc on m mj my problem I have tried to find a a. way out of It myself but so far have cometo cometo come corni to no DO conclusion Three girls A B n Band Band nancI and ancI C are in love with the same ame man A is the sort of girl who is always folio win jr him around She Shen n necks and chases around a lot She acts as It if she owned him She Is always asking him personal questions like Where have you ou been What did you ou do B n is ls the type of girl who takes c cv to heart She has very cry dell deli cate feelings and is easily hurt She is very good looking C Is fairly good looking and seems to be his type He lie does not like AHe A A. He lie would not like B if she did not come ome to him almost in tears and a. a ask k khim him to come back to her lie He used to togo togo togo go steady with her lie He seems to like C but if she goes with him A and B will be off oU her for life Ufe Sometimes he acts as though be he liked B quite a bit There seems to tobe tobe tobe be a lot of competition I J Am om C. C What shall I do Shall Shah I continue to try to win him Thanks for any advice ad vice you yon may give WORRIED I The keener the competition the safer the man is for the girl who will happen along and march merck him off to the altar He isn't in love with any of oC you For the present the much sought after young oung man merely wants good company You w will ll continue to tobe tobe tobe be In his favor only so long as you youcan youcan ou can supply entertainment When his interest lags in your personalities he will look elsewhere for good com pany It Is my opinion that B has the real stand in of the three competitors He feels her need of him He knows the sensitive c nature of her affection I Ifor for him She is the clinging vine type and such always alwa's have their appeal if they pIa play upon the masculinity of the male Your own popularity with other boys bos your our nonchalance toward this p particular boys boy's inability to make up his mind as to which girl he likes best above all this cleverness clever yet reL your our ness in putting across the idea that you retain a great interest in him will be three feathers in your cap Keep your friendship with the other two girls Let them scrap it out between be tween tweet themselves if the they must Their inability to involve you ou in the melee will give j you ou vantage ground Only one can walk away with the spoils It is is' the bird that flies high above the scene that gets the clear vision of the trophy and makes the first fell swoop oJ on the prey DIFFERENCE IN AGE Dear Miss Blair Although I am a n. const constant nt reader of Hearts Heart's Haven I do not remember having seen m my problem discussed I am in love lore with a man 15 years cars older than I. I My I parents arc very cry much opposed to my mr marrying Ing him The They tell me man many things why should not marr marry with age This man has been married before and his first died lIe He has no children He lie H Is 35 and I am 20 I know he loves me Miss Blair and andI I I am sure of my love for him My aunt married a man older than she and had a n very cry unhappy married life I know that is tho the reason wh why by m mj my parents bate hate to see ce me mc marry this man but I t tell them that one reason why hy m my aunt WAS so unhappy was because her husband was a widower with ith children who made her life mis erable I have told my parents that we nc have hac as good gooda a chance to be happy hap Ii py together as have bave young people who arc are the same age abc but they wont won't listen lis Its ten to inc me I realize that I am old enough to get married w without heir consent but bat I love m my parents and hate to do this What Is your our opinion I J hope you ou can cm cansay cansay say something something- that bat will make us all feel better Many thanks TRO TROUBLED It is true that where d differences ex ex- 1st st in m chronological ages there are apt to o be differences also in biological and mental ages of people When hen you are 35 your husband will be 50 Along about this time of life arly will age differences be felt felL If you prepare for them you may be able to o forestall the calamity that biological cal urges particularly at this time arc apt to sweep you into If however you have many tastes in n common if it he has no other ties tics such as children to make constant demand demand de de- dc- dc mand on your personal feelings and cause grief by making you rou feel that after all you OU only married into his Ius famil family amily if you OU can keep your our interests tied up tip together there will grow up a marital affection that is vastly different differ ent from the romantic love that drew you ou together in the first place and yet et that will hold you ou together Marriage between two people of an any age requires diligent effort and compromise to maintain a certain level evel of happiness It rests with the individuals themselves whether or not they can overcome the obstacles that lie across the pathway to happi happi- ness Where one holds the upper hand land over the other and makes constant con can stant irritating demands demand that finally harden larden one to the others other's finer qualities ties ies marriage ceases to have the sem blance of a true union If It you can guard against these disturbances your marriage may be as happy as one can expect from i 1 union of any two peo pIe S FLAPPER MOTHERS Dear Miss 1 Blair I realize that the age of flapper mothers has pass passed d and that once again It Is easy to distinguish between mother and dau daughter when they go shopping for clothes The abe of reason rea rca son is again upon us and I for one am glad that tho the usually ridiculous attempts of women past 45 or 50 to look like t the e woman of 25 or 30 10 are areno areno areno no longer In evidence But for tor the woman past 40 to subdue sub due her makeup and still not look 60 Is quite a problem Please give glye me mea a a. little advice lre on this problem and also whether bobbed hair for matrons Is still stilt in good style RACHEL In the case of rouge colors the necessity necessity ne ne- ne for careful selection was neer never nev nev- er cr more important The first rule in applying the rouge by the woman in middle age is that it be applied very lightly Peach petunia medium rachel rachel ra ra- chel and apricot are soft shades usually usually ally most effective If the skin happens happens hap hap- pens to be exceptionally sallow slightly brighter colors may be u used ed With the return of shorter skirts which has already been started in Paris it is predicted that more bobbed hair will be seen on the th streets But here again there willbe will be a difference between mother and laughter daughter the bob for Cor the time being reserved for the daughter WEDDING APPAREL Dear Miss Blair I am to be married soon and ancI my wedding Is to be a very informal af fair I am to wear a semiformal dress s peach colored Will Wili It be proper prop er for m my fiance to wear a navy blue double breasted suit What kind of oftie oftie oftie tie should he wear with this suit Thank you ou LU LULU If your own dress is not strictly formal the bridegroom need not appear appear ap ap- ap pear in the suit required for the particular particular par par- time of day at which the wedding wedding wedding wed wed- ding is given The double-breasted double blue suit will be correct to accompany accompany pany your jour own semiformal dress What the bridegroom wears always depends upon what the bride wears With the business suit he wears the same kind of tie tic that he would wear for Cor church or at any other time A Adark dark blue of black tie tic in m plain colors would v be preferable erable NOTE TO IRIS Blonde monde hair may be given a bright bright- i rinse that will wili give gho it life and color Send a stamped self addressed envelope for our circular Blonde londe Rinse I DOG FOR COUNTRY Will someone in the country wanting want want- ing lag a pure-bred pure Alaskan Spitz 0 I months old call for him at East First South or telephone for particulars lars at Hyland |