Show ih COME TO TOI TOi TO i HEARTS HEART'S Q O HA HA IT A VEN V. V t m m With BETTY BETY BLAIR BLAIR- Affairs of ot the heart beart and ansi kindred problems ONLY will wi be dl In la this department Letters questions and requests request for tor advice should Mould be bo addressed to MISS BETTY DE BLAIR BLAm BLAI HEARTS HEART'S HERTS HERT'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT Write legibly upon only one side aide of at the paper It I Is 18 uy that you append the right name 1000 and address but these will wi be bo held In strict confidence and wilt will wl by no means appear in print E. Ed THINKS HUSBAND TO BLAME Dear Miss Blair I have hac been married mare five years year and ind UI up until one year car ago thought I nothing could ever come between m my husband and roc me to o mar mar our per pcr- feet tee love lo He le received just Jut a small smal salary when we wc were first married marred and by my thrift and pushing pushing- him ahead and going without things so solie s lie hc ic could go to night school chool he lie got ahead and is now earning three times the salary he was wa in the be be- be ginning We have two lovely childen childen chiden chi chi- chil chil- den en but gradually during the pa past t year ear he has lost Interest Interest in tho the home I the he children and me When his work Is done he puts put on his hat after dinner and goes goe without a word I have rne asked aked him hima a time or two where he be was Wa going but he Ito gives me to t understand that I should not even ask Ho doesn't come in sometimes until one and ad t two o o'clock in the mornings moring The thing that hurts hut me inc Is I that he le scarcely notices the children any anymore more They dont don't know what to t make of or it J. J When they run r up to t him and put their little his h legs leg and call cal him hint Daddy addy In i their ther glad little ittle voices he Just pUh pushes them aside and says Dont bother me medow dow Daddy is busy buy I Jut just cant can't bear ber to have t this s coldness coldness coldness cold cold- ness antI and ad heartlessness take posses posses- 51 ion slon on of our family life Ufe in this way And things arent aren't getting better beter but but worse wor day dy after ater day Can you help me HEARTSICK I. I Iwonder wonder how many may of or us are ae apt to turn back into int our own o consciousness conscious- conscious ness and ask ak ourselves wherein we weare weare weare are accountable for seeming failures in n our married maried lives Isn't Int it a very common frailty friy for people in i such sch instances instance to try tr to keep their own ow self esteem by putting the blame for their heir failures upon the other person Too To often ofen one expects marriage marIage to t bring ring happiness without the necessary necessary sary exertion to help bring that happiness happiness hap hap- to the copartner Too To often one no makes no attempt t to see se the theother's theother's others other's point of view We Ve hear one oner or r the other saying This Thi husband or r this thi wife wie does dos not appreciate me Far better would it be b to t search ones one's self sel honestly to learn lea Just where one ne had fallen falen short of the requirements requirements requirements require require- ments that make for a n. happy married maried life ife Where each takes this thi mental Inventory and then courageously shoulders boulders his hi part of the blame for forthe forthe the he mistakes made marriage mariage may again gain resume rese that peaceful state where happiness may dwell But so soong long ong as a one blames blaes the other entirely for or the failure there is never any ay hope hop ope for peace Marriage MarIage has ha a refining civilizing Influence on human beings bings who earnestly try to see each others other's point of view vew where they practice fair air fai play and loyalty But where the he burden has ha to be carried entirely entire entire- ly y by one there is i a disintegrating influence for both parents parent and children children chil chil- dren cen that is tragic Check up on yourself Heartsick Take an inventory of oC the elements element that hat make up your our disposition Nagging Nag- Nag jing ging gig fault finding a n. tendency to let et down dow in i your own ow activities tc t create reate new interests in the home personal pernal appearance appearance all all or any anyone one of f these thee may be the little leak that lets ets let the air ah out of your own tire tie and creates reates rough traveling We Ve can al always always always al- al ways see the wobbly wheel on the theother theother other ther fellows fellow's car when we e travel behind him but are we se e aware or of f our ou own ow Talk matters maters over with wih your our husband and make the attempt together to get gt a fresh start PARENTS PARENS FORBADE DANCING Dear Der Miss Blair Bair Although I am 18 years old I have haye danced lanced but twice in my ray life le because be- be cause ause caus my parents forbade me to do doso so o. o But now that I have o ha started stared w to o go to dances I find I am er very tiff stiff sur and clumsy I also find it difficult dif dif- dl to follow Can you ou give me meome some ome exercises that will wl limber me mc up I cant can't dance without my legs hurting me afterward Thanking you ou NEED ED HELP One must mut feel entirely free tree from fear ear or anxiety in order that ones one's muscles relax thoroughly Just Jut s say to yourself that you OU arc boneless that you are limp that you have no nomore nomore no more resistance than a Jelly fish sh Jell and see sec what what happens happes Let Lt your wrists hang limp Ump move them back and forth without resistance resistance just Just let them flop fop This will wi induce a mental attitude of abandonment for forthe forthe forthe the entire ody Practice dancing at home with your friends friend who can cn take the lead Then when the boys bys ask you to dance a assume sume the same air of freedom fredom from worry If I you feel te tense e ask your you partner to walk with you to get a drink of cold water This will wl slow sow up tho the action acton of the heart and help you rou to relax It is i a mental attitude more than tha anything else els that will wi make you limber up Your dally daily daly practice of dance steps step with your friends or alone will wJ of ot course give the necessary limbering exercises LETTER LETER SALUTATIONS Dear Dea Miss IUs Blair I have been trying tring to t think of some salutations for letters leters to intimate friends but to no aval avail Will Vl you yon help me out I get so tired of the usual Dear Dear after atter Ive I've Ive used it i once or twice Will Wi you suggest some closing cosIng cbs clos cos- cos ing phrases too to Thank you BOBBY If I you ou are writing a a. formal social letter leter your salutation would be b My Dear Miss Smith Increasingly intimate inti int- int mate salutations are Dear Miss Mis Smith Dear Peggy Pegg Peggy Dear Dearest Peggy Pegg Darling Darlng Peggy peggy The closing In formal notes would wOld be Sincerely Affectionately yours Always affectionately Affectionately Af At Devotedly Lovingly Loving I ly Your loving boring are arc terms term mac used macy in an increasing wale scale fale of ot Inti Inti- int-I int ARTISTS' ARTISTS MEASUREMENTS Dear Der Miss lUss Blair Will Wi you ou please ples tell tel me inc my ray correct measurements and weight I am 17 years ear old 5 S feet 6 inches tall taU ThankIng Thanking Thank Thank- in ing lug you advance LOUIE You should weigh about abut pounds Louie Loule This Thi seems seem a a great great deal and Is overdrawn if i you are small boned Under 18 16 years of or ago It is a a difficult matter mater to give measurements mea mea- meas meas- as a there are no standard measurements worked out because girls under uder 18 are as a a rule not fully developed Approximately however your you measurements should lie le in the Following proportions The Te length of the head to that of the body by is as one is i to seven and ad three quarters three the length of the legs should equal that of the torso toro plus plu that of the head lead The arms arm outstretched from finger inger tip tp to linger iger tip tp should equal the height of the bo body Variation of an inch Ich Is allowed here The Thc hand should reach rach from the tip Up of ot the chin to the middle of the forehead There will be much variation here These Thee three lengths should be equal height of ot forehead length of at nose and measurement from base bae of nose to tip tp of chin The length of ot the eye should shoud be equal to the distance between the eyes These Thee measurements measurements measurements measure measure- ments ments are given by an artist arit as an in indication in- in of perfect proportions of body and features feature |