Show SHE olne io HEARTS HEART L AVE 1 BETTY i Affairs of or orthe the heart and kindred problems ONLY will mil be dIscussed discussed dis ills cussed In tills tia department Letters questions ant anc and requests for advice should boud be addressed 0 to MISS 1155 BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly leibly upon onI one side of 01 the paper 0 It is necessary that you OU append the ri right bt name and address I but bat these will be held Id in strict confidence and will by no DO means appear In print Ed I Dear Miss Blair The letter from Reaching ng comin com com- in en on the tho case of or the single girl going out with a married man drew dren my fly attention aUr I think she Is to be praised for her point of oC view It IL Is possible I think for two people though loving Iovine each other deeply and aDd sincerely to become a bit restless and tired of each other after five or six lx 5 ears of marriage When I first noticed these symptoms symptoms toms in my own dear husband Ill I'll admit I was deeply hurt but being hurt hart did not help matters at all Besides I also had to confess to a aBort sort Bort of resU restless s feeling myself and ando BO M o I decided to take a vacation Before Before Be Be- fore forc leaving I told my husband I did not expect him to stay home and pine for me that there was no DO harm hann harmin hannIn in going out with a girl to a party or a dances dance providing it wasn't the same girl continually I stayed away in California for tw two months Then he lie came after me an and andye we ye were happy He lie said he hc was so o glad to have me mc back k with him I Iwas Iwas was the happiest mortal on earth i We Wc follow this plan now every ery one two or three 3 years cars Each year seems seem to be happier than the last You see we merely chose the le lesser Cr of or two evils ns Giving GI J him m his freedom freedom freedom free free- dom for tor torone one or two months each ach year yea CU when hen life lICe becomes irksome has kept hIi him choosing choosing- a plan Unit that is open ant and above board instead of or making making- him into a sneak and having him steal out leaving leaving- me at home borne This Iatt latter lattu course would have resulted in on our mistrusting and finally hating each ether As it is we love and trust each other ether When we meet again after th the vacation he tells me everything everything- ant and we have a good laugh to together ether Why cant can't women realize that th the happiness of their sex and their thel homes rests in their own hands bands That usually a married man man st stepping stepping step step- p- p II ping ping- out Is just looking looking- for pastime Nine times out of or 10 they would no not I think of divorcing divorcing- their wives wies especially especially espe espe- e- e If there arc are children Then too toa if iC a man is true to ono woman I lie will also be bo to another and vie vice ersil ersa And no DO true lasting lasting happiness happiness I can ever er be built bunt on the ashes o of oC somebody else's happiness s. s HOPEFUL Hearts Heart's Haven Ha has frequently urged the efficacy of oC the marital va vacation vacation va- va cation at a time of crisis as a a. means of restoring order to the troubled marriage As an actual working basis we C have known of a number of homes that have benefited by the plan We think however er that much lies Ites with the thc Integrity of the individuals concerned concerned concerned con con- as to whether a a. marital vacation vacation vaca vaca- tion would accomplish the desired end or not There are arc some ome people whom we know for tor whom such liberty would immediately be interpreted Interpret d as license Thank you your Hopeful for relating your experience with tills this plan We should be bc glad to hear from others who have tried marital vacations vaca and just what their experience has been S DOES HE liE LOVE LOYE HER BERZ Dear Miss l Blair I am very much In love lore with a boy who pays very little attention to me Does Dees he love lo me mc or not If Ie not will you please tell mc rue how to win him himI I hope Im I'm not asking asking- too much DOLORES Its It's no not asking too much for me to tell you U at the ou outset et that the boy boys Is s not in love with you ou Dolores Doores buit but bu it is asking a a. great deal that I tell teU you ou how to win a boy who does docs no not love you ou If the boy loved you ou you ou would have discovered it for lor yourself In hi his actions if he had not said so in so 50 many words Perhaps if you do not not- show too plainly just how Itow much you like Uke him hUn J if you arc are able to interest him in yourself If your our personality personality per per- is appealing If U you ou have a clever line and do not betray this line by characteristics chara that are no not notto becoming to a 3 lady I 1 feel sure that tha sooner DOner or later either this boy or orsome orsome orsome some other boy whom you shall like well will love you Dont Don't be in a hur hurry about it Love is one possibility ity that simply wont won't be rushed unless unless un un- less its it's the kind that blossoms aj at sight And we wonder how ott often n love at first sight is lasting love CIRCLES CIRCLES UNDER DER EYES Dear Miss Blair Please t tell teU U mc me how to remove circles circles cir cir- clr- clr cles under my eyes Thank you DOT Dark circles are arc due sometimes to toa a a. faulty cleansing of the delicate tissues tissues Us- Us sues sues under tinder the eyes Since even the mildest soap will smart the eyes temporarilY temporarily tem tern 1 U if It gets Into them use a good cold cream instead An extra physical or mental strain for which ones one's strength is inadequate made made- quat quate also shows in dark circles Under under under un un- der tho the eyes Underweight and general general general gen gen- eral poor health must in many cases be remedied before the discolored rings and wrinkles can be banished See your our physician p about this con con- dillon A simple home Treatment that will help erase circles is to mix peroxide in n the proportion of oC four drops to one J of lanolin cocoa butter or any good cold cream Pat this under the e eyes es and leave lea on over over- night The next morning wash off with warm water and nd rinse with cold HINTS ON ETIQUETTE ETIQUETTE Dear Miss Us Blair Frequently I am disturbed d about the bo following points Is it necessary that hat one ono take gifts to a trousseau tea tu When a hostess gives a luncheon fora for Cor forgoing a a. going going- away guest Is it necessary that hat gifts iUs be given riven Does one take a a. gUt gift to a ho housewarming Thank you ou MRS l R. R Ro Tho The trousseau tea is not given for forthe forthe the he purpose of collecting gifts gUts but frequently friends take the opportunity opportunity opportunity of attendance at the tea to leave leavea a trousseau gift If It it is a bridge luncheon that is given for the going away guest the hostess arranges for a gift for the guest of honor as well as one for the prize winner At any luncheon it is optional with the hostess though It Is s frequently done by the hos hostess her her- self The housewarming is not given for forthe forthe the he purpose of receiving gifts al although although although al- al though sometimes Intimate friends do bring gifts gUts We Wc think however there here should be a uniformity about it t and that eIther cither aU all should do so or all should not |