Show 1 YOUR BABY AND I MINE MINEI I By Myrtle Myrtlo Meyer Eldred ARE ARE WE TRAINING CHILDREN TO BE HYPOCRITES If you OU could only be e nice milco Hi like o your our fJ See Sec how lios c 8 sweet steeL el she li Is ab about ut helping mother to tel set the It and amid In wash h the dishes Why cant can't you OU benice benice be bo bonice nice Ilk lik alto sho Is Js so o wo woul would J all lo love your ou our 1 Has bins a familar 1 r ha hasn't nt it il Somo Sorno wn way we ne wonder why people cOntinue t to think that pointing out other p persons person's virtue wll stimulate mutation n. n Everywhere families art are using this utterly In Ineffective In In- effective tr method of trying to make their children e all replicas of oC thc the most satisfying child In tho lImo The Tue n most ln Is la th the thc child who conforms most mol easily to toV the thc of l the e adults adult V Or Oo OO o mother say ss IJ My Iy 1 11 car year old ld girl I Is so bright rl hl In school anO lcJ fco fo o ambitious She sets gets her le 50 1 nM comes copies home and helps me with tho housework ork without a a. murmur She Is iser er very savin nl also aiho o. o Her flee tnt two years younger Is Jut just the time Sho She Is so co o mean and WhiMs and grumbl gi s at everything wo wu disk k her to do I 1 c cant can't nl Understand why whytha she tha Isn't mO more e like 0 her sister Bister IGNORE BAD BAP POINTS No doubt from front her earliest lection she he has hag h had hOd d to gaze Upon this 1114 para paragon oo of ot an old older r sIster ter with admiration The Tha po poc t U is a little hard to retain tn Instead of ot b being ing loved ed and nd appi appreciated d for tor h her r Vcr very ery differ en cn ee h her r own personality l ha has been minimized because It didn't take the this lines tines qs as s tho tIm older r sifter Often Otten It Jt Is tho time other situation situation- The ol older e sister Is made to copy her younger sister Th older boy boyI I 1 told Lold It If he ho only b be ae IS sweet sweetan an as hab baby a c everyone no would love e him himas as much Instead n of inspiring a achi chi d J to Imitate the other child aUthe all aU the these theo o things thins pimply imply antagonize him He Us wants to lo be liked ed for or elf alone He wants walls hi his good points stressed and his lIs bad ad ones one ignored I If ho ch chooses oses lii hi his older brother or sister is JS a pattern it Il Is not l because C time the parents parent have 0 told him It is an admirable pattern to Coll follow but be- be he finds the older lder child so o swe and aad likable that ho longs to him This Thin hi has to come conic from within tho the ell child lid not from pressure without All 1 that admonitions to b be like someone else have ha ever cr done for lor a 3 achild achild child Is to make him go so farther and farther In th the opposite tto direction He Ire glories In tn refusing to be help hell hi his mother when t this priggish sister docs doc It so teU s sweetly L Let t her do It It thinks he to himself She mutt must like ilko to I dont And so he upholds his hilS own difference FIND SOME VIRTUES Inside nide of or him there I Is a a. hurt place too H He to feels fe-els that he lie is Js to bo be liked al alfo alco o and amid ho he w wants nt to win hii his parents parents parents' par affection without performing what l he ho considers h hypocritical acts The parent who grumbles at a achild achild child d. e exhorting horUn him hInt or her to be hike someone else ele is cert certainly for Cor she ehe cannot but see that tt It doe doesn't nt work On OM may try anything anything any aO- thing once or even en twice but aX after tr r rth th that t. t J If It Jl i Is still 1 unsuccessful tul It IB is IBa a n. most moet unintelligent per person on who refuseD refuses re- re fuses fuseD to ch change ne h her r tactics Tl Try another nH method with the thc child In the family who whoso whose o b behavior h Is an an- Begin trying to find some virtues that can b bo applauded and nd praised ed even en If It one one- has to make I II I a. a re real l effort effort- to find rind them There Is 15 I always alway something about every child that can be drawn out and sunned by y the family approval I. It is 18 surprising sur sur- how this the the bad child will b begin gln to live ll up to I virtues u CS |