Show to rne-to HEART BETTY BLAIR Letters and q questions for the department i should h. h j Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt L Lake Lako Telegram be addressed to MJ Muss Miss i Write I of the paper It Is necessary to append your ani only o on on one ne si side e I It t are re held In confidence e and will not be ba PUblished name Mm Lost t and address and a found Si SiUt but Ut these I I cannot be published ir in the column notices I I v- v UNHAPPY MARRIED LIFE I Dear Dear Miss Blair Another stray lamb Iamb from the fold r 1 w wants to enter the gate gato to your corner corner I hope you can help me and put my mind at rest Perhaps if f I had written to you when my trouble first first began I would have been on th th right path When I was first entering high school I used to say sayto sayto t to myself How can anyone be as happy as I 11 But there was no rea- rea ion on for unhappiness I had many friends and was president of my class llIs I I hoso Those days have havo quickly passed and I am wondering how I can be happy again again- I am married and have a darling baby and I 1 love my husband But before I was married a terrible incident occurred that n ido d me very unhappy How could I have been otherwise when someone someone some some- one one cne took that happiness and goodU good- good nes U that I 1 loved about life away from me Perhaps you will ask How did they do that Well by just leading me on to believe in them and trusting in them F Then hen I met my husband We Wo were were married and were as happy as tw two love birds I told him everytHing everything every- every tHing because I believed it was whit what I should have done But now whenever I go out or am with his friends I hear something about it imd md heaven only knows how un unhappy unhappy unhappy un- un happy it makes me Unhappier still when they tell toll me my husband told them He treats me all right until I am not there and then he takes it out by being mean to my baby or r otherwise Please Plene tell me how I can cnn loam learn to forget all this or overlook it Do you think I 1 should talk to my husband hus bus b band nd If things go on this way I wont won't be able to stand it I must try to look at things from a different different different dif dif- ferent point of view for my baby's MOTHER aa sake ake e. e UNHAPPY io Do you mean to tell me rae Unhappy Un happy napp Mother that the somebody else who led you ou on to believe In him and trust in him is the thee father of ot your ba baby and that you OU married your our husband without undeceiving Ing him as asto lo to this fact before the marrIage marriage marriage mar mar- You Tou say ia- ia your our husband Is when ou are mean n to your our baby you not present and in the latter part of ot your letter speak again of your our baby bab as if it were not ot also your tour husbands husband's child Is It this fact that your husband relates to others have ha left me to as- as rou ou see you ou lume aume things and without knowing knowin- exactly what the trouble Is I find findt K t hard to offer an opinion or attempt attempt at at- tempt to lo give advice I If my as assumption assumption assumption as- as is correct and you OU really didn't 11 t know an any better than thap to let leta a 3 man marr marry you rou without first t In Informing informing In- In forming him of tho the circumstances I 1 cannot annot see fee how you OU can expect treatment other than you ou are gettin get get- tin ting For thero there I Is no man living w wh would not resent being trap trapped d In hi this mann manner r. r I On the other hand If the child belong to your husband I think n now w that he Is married to you for better bolter or for worse that thal ho he should be big enough to overlook a n. mistake mis- mis take luke In your our past At least it Ills is un unpardonable unpardonable un- un pardonable that he ho should go about talking Balking t about aboul it to his friends He Herlin 8 ld plan with you ou for a happy rf together T r There is simply no way of es- es taping the tho reaping o of our own harvests han But If Ir wo we go about aboul the theof theof of oC tho the reaper with a n. quiet dignity and a n. determination that come como what may we will reap these tares a tS n. n good soldier i would would and in their place place- sow seed of golden grain in the knowledge that some day Wo will reap that weyaT harvest hanest too we are i In fn n a fair way of being ra- ra ed of or the sting sUnS of oC the burden Va e think of course that you ou should talk things over with your our husband Tell Ten him you ou are arc willing to devote your oUr life to him him and his child but that you ou must have ha his confidence and love lovo or the burden becomes too h heavy y a In case our fl t assumption is correct we we think you can only offer your oUr husband his freedom If Ie ho he chooses to re remain remain re- re main and make the best of or things s th then n he should do so with tho Understanding un understanding un- un that b bygones gones be bv- bv genes gones and that together you OU build on tho the present for a n. happier fu tu- tu ture Will you oU come again NEIGHBOR GOSSIP Dc Dear r Miss Blair This is my first visit to your corner I would like liko to ask you to help me I have have- lived in this town for or nine years but now I would like ike to make a change I I have four children and no place to take them But the people here bore talk about me all cli II the time Do you think it would be for fop me to go under tho the circumstances cir cir- dr I try to be bo nice nico to everybody and I like children and they hey like liko me but my girl friends make nake life miserable for me by talking talk talk- ing ng about me and my my children I have nave a husband who is very good to me but I think I would be better satisfied if I could go 90 someplace somo some place where people will not talk blk about me Please give me somo some ad vice Thank you H J. J Thero are aro no bans put on peoples people's talking In any town I 1 know of or H H. H J J. J and If fr you dont don't give ghe them something to furnish fo fodder der for fOl the talking machines the they will make maket It t out of ot whole holo cloth What is the use of oC worrying ing about bout It it Just go goon on ii about your our own business take e good caro care of your our children love IO our your husband husband and and him alone of ot all allmen men men try try to live e up to the time standards standards standards stand stand- ards of ot your our town as a a. citizen and ando to o tho the social stand standards set b by your our associates s and let Jet people talk You sa say nothing nothing- about what It Is the he people say about you ou If there are some points of your our manner of or living or of your our conduct that do donot donot donot not meet with their approval find out dut what does meet with the general general general gen gen- eral approval al of or the people with whom you have cast your our lot In other words When In Rome do doas doas doas as Rome does Is Iser er very good advice advice ad ad- vice fee for a n. stranger or a foreigner to o follow when beginning life in a anew anew anew new place or In a a. place where the they may have havo lived for years ears If It you OU are at fault rectify your mistakes It If f your our neighbors ate are just naturally the gossiping kind live lI above their criticism and live it il down Good Goodluck Goodluck Gooduck luck uck to you ou TAMALES Dear Doal Miss MillS Blair Will you please give me a recipe for tamales My family likes thorn thom very much but of lato late we we- havo have gotten got ten ton some somo very poor poop ones onea so 50 I am going to try my hand at making them Shall appreciate it If you will tell me how or OP perhaps some of your happy family may lend a hand TAMALES I We e hope you ou will like tho the tamales made from the following recipe Make a a. thick corn inca meal Spread this about one half Inch thick the wrappers Tappers For the stuffing use 2 cups chopped chicken chick chick- en beef or veal six garlic heads 1 tea teaspoon salt saIl 4 1 teaspoon each of ol commena oregano and celer celery se seed d dand and a half hale teaspoon El Toro po powder If u mixture Is dry moisten with a acry aery avery very cry little tm cream Form ob oblong oblong oblong ob- ob long long- rolls of or this mixture place on the cornmeal mush wrap up tightly tight tight- ly in wrapper tie securely urel and steam ono one hour RED CROSS HYGIENE COURSE Doar Miss Blair Is la there any place In fn your city of Salt Lake where a course courso in in Red Cross work is niven ven By this I mean a sort of hospital routine such as bed making reading th the thermometer etc Of course I know trained nurses cannot be bo made in 24 hours but I do dp think all girls and women need and should have some somo such for fop their own personal safety Other cities of this thit size siro give thi this about abou sort of training so I wondered Salt Lake Is th there thero re a trained nurse or OP Red Cross nurse who would give such a course In her own home homo o or elsewhere perhaps in your Public Safety Personally I know six girls who would like this train train train- ing Thanking you kindly for fop you your help liT T t tYes E. E 0 elt does docs af afford afford afford af- af Yes YC T E. E 0 O. our city t ford such a a- course aa at this concerning concerning concern concern- It Is 18 conducted ing lug which you OU ask well trained Red Cross nur nurse 6 by a at tho Civic Center 19 1 1 2 1 R Regent 5 n street The ne new ne course will begin time in term some om with wit the new and tho the six girls now wanting February such work should apply Immediately in order that arrangements arrangements arrange arrange- made male be bo for the tho course ma may ments should be at least ten in th the thu There Thero to 10 warrant its continuation class H Hy Hy- course is called Homo Home The rime and Care Caro of oC the Sick It I is gleno glenn principally to meet th the and family Fundamentals Fundamentals Fun Fun- the home needs or of are fIre taught such as us bed bed- thermometer r e 0 n. n d i ng nC making of or diseases In order that tha that symptoms when to call a u doctor doc doe shall know one aid problems problem tor tor and many first solved ved A fee of 3 Is 15 charged charge are aro and the text boo booco book for the course G go goI Tho The girls may ln co costs ts 85 cents I directly to tho the Civic Center or 01 ma may first t call Was las to make ar ar- ar- ar You aro entirely welcome wel wel- come conic NOTE TO WAITING The answer to your our question Is la yes s. s CORRESPONDENCE SCHOOLS Dear Deap Miss Blair Blaip Will you please me tho the address ad ad ad- dress of a few correspondence schools where my husband can specialize in master mastor salesmanship Thanking you in advance M MRS R RS o A. A Write National Sale Salesmen's TrainIng Training Train Train- In Ing a association North Dearborn a aKim at Kim Elm Chicago Ill Walton rattan School of Commerce Michigan avenue and Van Buren Duren street Chicago Ill III In In- In Correspondence Schools Scranton Pa rhe f schools are atO al all approved ed by time the National Horn Homo Study Council Welcome |