Show It I I to r J I a I P I BETTY BLAIR Letters and questions for the department should be addressed to Miss Mica Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side I of the thc paper I It Is necessary to append your name and addres but these I are are held in confidence and will net be published Lost and found notices cannot be published In the thc column A. A De Dear Miss Blair i always read Hearts Heart's Haven and an have ve in the past found the answers to all the questions to be helpful and good sound advice but bt on resoling the questions asked by y Anxious In The Telegram November 27 and your your answer I can f fairly ly say that I I have never read anything al so utterly j and unfair to the young I girls irIs of today In In ln answer to her second question y you u state that girls who go to public I dances unescorted must surely expect expect ex cx- ex- ex someone someone with whom they dance to ask them to go home with them and you also state that the very f fact ct that they are there alone shouts aloud their bid for a partner to escort them home Miss Blair I am just 20 years of age and have gone to public to-public public dances and know the cir circumstances circumstances cir cir- circumstances surrounding a dance hall You evidently are not acquainted ac acquainted acquainted ac- ac with the circumstances that are prevalent now I tan Can an safely say that three-fourths three of the girls who attend a public dance have come in the company of other ther girls and and nd three fourths of of the h have ve come to stag If a boy friend asks a girl to allow him to take her home I can see nothing cheap about t that at In my estimation it is no worse than if you were to go to i another girls girl's home to o visit her ber er and after staying a while you stated YOU you would have to go yo and have her mother be so kind as to offer that her son drive you home Her son I or the the- brother of the girl friend is no better than the average self self- respecting young man Of course I dont don't mean that a girl irl should always go 30 home with this fellow nor should she clue go with a fellow whom whom- she does not know In all the years I have been going to public dances I have only allowed boys to accompany me home on one or two occasions al although although al- al 1 though I see sec nothing wrong in it and it is is pe perfectly all right if other girls care to do it The Thc other times I went home with wiCk th hn with withIn In I came It see see-n seems that thai the fellows ii of today are either too cheap to ask the girls to go to dances with them or anywhere else for that matter or or else they haven't got the money I see see see-no no good sense in a girl girt having to sit at home and envy her girl friends at a dance cance because some fellow wont won't ask her and ancl be because ause she is cheapening herself It seems that the girls have always been een shoved to the back of everything every everything every every- thing ever since the beginning of time and just because we dar dare to go out out and and have a little clean fun at a dance and dare to go alone unes unes- we are shouting aloud our hid f a partner to go o home with This may be true of some girls but not as a gene general riAl rule rue Girls Girls' al arc not so bad as some people make out Why not give them a sqUare q are deal It is all right for a fellow to go to a dance sta and not be cheapening himself The fellows are becoming more ridiculous nowadays When they do take a girl to a dance they they- think they should dance every dance with them and if you happen to d dance ce twice with the same fellow they growl about that I and if you go out to get a drink of soda water with some fellow they growl about that but its il's perfectly all right if they go With some girl to a dance and let her sit around about three fourths of the time I have only accepted dates to go to dances with a fellow about times and believe me that was enough Now when a fellow asks me to go to a dance I simply I state that I would rather go to a movie or do something else The fellows dont don't think any less of you if you go home with them if you are perfectly decent and he is a self self- respecting young man and nine times out but ut of ten if a fellow asks I you YOLi to let him accompany you home and he has the best est of intentions he will n not nat t ask you to go anywhere with him again if you refuse This is not the day and age when a girl will sit home and knit because some fellow wont won't ask her to go out We have had to sit back long enough and now wo are jus juU just starting out to show the fellows that they cant can't give us the laugh because they wont won't ask ack us to go to dances with them This is js s a free world and we can all have our fun each according to his individual indi vidual taste taster and it is not for theother the theother theother other to criticise until he has libs found himself to be without fault I hope I haven't taken up too much room in the column but I just wanted you to know that we girls are human and are entitled d to a square deal just the same same as as the the- fellows There are self-respecting self girls as as- aswell well as self-respecting self fellows fellows fel fel- fel- fel lows and a girl or fellow is known by the company he or she keeps keens ANDREE AN DREE I And n now comes comes Jl with her herI side of the story Well Vell were we're very very- happy that youie youre had such good I luck Andree Andrea The argument waxes axes warmer We welcome all letters that will throw a true light lighton on the situation Judging Judging- from the two preceding letters In yesterdays yesterday's column one Would sometimes be at ata ata ata a loss to 10 know the kind l of company one was keeping Dear Betty Blair I have read Hearts Heart's Haven day by day and Im I'm now coming t to you to give me som something thing that will heal healan an aching heart I have a little girl 7 years old and my husband IS is her her- stepfather He always yells at her he- ever Al tim time hI N ti want U h. h han f. f fn In something g He talks t to h her r t Ju just like the Che was a dog or a mean animal animal animal ani ani- mal and it nearly kills me meto to hear him him- talk like that He is a a avery very nice nice husband but sometimes I think it is riot not worth while whiles but but we We have havea a 2 months months' baby boy and it seems to keep us together Before we we were were married he seemed to think the world of my little girl but since the baby came he is not the same When I hear him speak to her that way I nearly faint as I am so weak at times I dont don't know what to tp do I cry and pray but nothing not teems seems to help Please Betty is there any way way in which 1 I can break him of this manner man man- ner ncr of speaking to my child If not I dont don't know what I shall do as I cannot stand it it I am in no condition of health and haven't the heart to tell him as I am just getting get get- ting over my own sickness Do you think there is a a way I Ican Ican Ican can get him to love her as he does his own child I cant can't stand it to see her so 50 nervous She is not strong anyway and that makes it so hard to bear Oh I will be the h happiest woman on earth if you can help me if not I will be a nervous wreck inside of three months Dont Don't think me weak for not telling him about it as I am afraid he will fly flyat flyat flyat at me and that I cannot stand Many many thanks BROKEN HEART If you are unable to tell teU him yourself of the dreadful conse conse- I of his tr treatment of the child you rou must have someone else do It for tor you ou The Tho mother tiger will defend her young though she herself be torn and bleeding to the very ery death Civilization has taught modern mothers to use their brains Instead of their claws for the protection protection pro pro- t cUon of their young Is there a possibility of your our confiding In a a. friend who Visits your our home Your Tour doctor minister someone else elso to whom he will likely listen with a n great deal of confidence Someone who will have the tact to lead up to the point by generalities One could begin by noticing the frailty of the child and remarking about It Then proceed by y congratulating congratulating con con- you jou that you ou h Ae a L husband who gives his lila stepdaughter all the kindly consideration that he would give a child of his own That they have Ilave known of stepfathers who have wrecked the lives Jives of ot their stepdaughters through the fear that was Implanted in hI their hearts They have hav made them think tle they were Inferior creatures by the tone of voice with which they continually continually ally addressed them they have broken theft thedr wills to act and think for themselves by driving them like 1 Ik animals they have enslaved them through fear to their ow own TV wills Ills and antI have with all these handicaps ruined their chances foX fo for a happy Uto under any circumstances whatever what what- ever On 0 t the le o other her hand liand h ha have ve the friend relate circumstances of stepfathers stepfathers step step- fathers who have won the love and confidence of their stepchildren so that their own lives were made fulland full fulland fulland and complete In the reciprocation of esteem and love Mother l you ou cannot afford to per permit permit mit your our daughter to continuo continue to live under the badgering Influence of ot your husbands husband's mistreatment Her ner health her mentality h her r fu future tu- tu ture happiness are arc at stake Your own wits must be br brought Into pl play y tp protect her And when you arc are fired with a great purpose for one dearly deally loved you will forget your own own aches and pains paine and In the fr forgetting you ou will lose them en en en- Banish fear from your oUr mind Learn t ti to face Lace this actual situation with him calmly Say to him fe fearlessly fearlessly fear fear- r- r lessly should the he other little s scheme not work You must not speak to her so so dear There Is a condition of the human mind that will not beat bear speaking to thus without great Injury being done Psychologists who have st studied the Ule human mind have discovered that people who vho are driven from in infancy infancy in- in Infancy fancy are never able to think or act for themselves We want vant to preserve our happiness together s 's Wo 0 o must treat our children with the love and respect respect that W we would J. J have them feel Ceel for Us In their hearts Once you have e taken the first step yourself In her defense you jou will find find- your strength coming to take other st steps ps should these prove necessary Let us hear from you you again Dear Miss Blair I I I- have been going with a fellow I Ifor for about a a year now and I would like to give him something nice for fora a Christmas present Would yo you give me some suggestion as to asto to what I could give him Thank you EIGHTEEN l Have ave you scanned The Telegrams Telegram's columns of Gifts for Him appearing appear appear- ing dally daily In the advertising columns col eel Sometimes one happens on the very thing one wants without having having- to do a great deal of of window window win win- dow shopping beforehand There are lovely house sUppers slippers dressing and smoking Jackets aret cases and holders leath leather wallets wallets wal wat lets leather-backed leather brushes brief briefcases briefcases briefcases cases pen and pencil sets books that he may wanted desk I sets cuff curt links hat stands for fOl a mans man's dresser and numerOus numerous nu nu- nu- nu other things In Sn attractive display In the shop windows Hope i I have suggested something that may meet your favor and stretch of purse strings Dear Miss Blair Will you please give me a recipe for squash a la Is mode It is cooked with a number of other vegetables such as onions and carrots but I dont don't know how to fix it My family family fam jam jamily ily is especially fond of sq squash ash but I get tired of it cook it-cook cooked d in the s same me old way all the time Thank you so much if you can get this recipe for m me HOUSEWIFE Squash a la mode Is ma made 1 as follows follows fol fol- fol lows Cut squash In thick slices re remove remove re re- move outer skin seeds and fibers cut In two-Inch two pieces butter adeep a a. adeep deep baking dish arrange a layer of squash dust with salt sprinkle with minced onions then one layer layerS of carrots sliced thin sprinkle with chopped parsley Repeat Repent with al alternate al- al ternate layers until the dish is filled Then cover with well sea coned v vegetable st stock k Bake In a moderate oven and s serve rye with bro brown sauce And lest you do not know the recipe for brown sauce I am giving you that thit too Heat 2 tablespoons butter In a saucepan When brown sift sitt into it 2 tablespoons whole wheat flour Stir until smooth and well browned but pr prevent burning Add 1 cup boiling Water or stock and seas season n to taste Happy to have havethe havethe havethe the recipe for tor you To DANCING FOOL Your lettel letter let let- ter tel Is advertising material and as such cannot be used In the column Come again with a problem that Is column material |