Show olne to S AVENe r BETTY BLI I I Letters and questions for the department should be addressed to to Miss I Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only on en one side aide I II I of the paper It is necessary to append your name and address but these I are held in confidence and will not be published Lost and found notices I i I cannot be published in the column I ONE OF THE MOST GRATIFY GRATIFYING ING RETURNS THAT THE NEW YEAR HAS BROUGHT IS EVIDENCED EVIDENCED EVI EVI- IN THE HEARTS OF OUR READERS WHO HAVE SO WHOLE HEARTEDLY ANSWERED ANSWERED AN AN- THE COLUMNS COLUMN'S CALL OF DISTRESS FOR JUST ANOTHER ANOTHER AN AN- OTHER MOTHER AND BABE In Sundays Sunday's column we ve printed a alet let letter Iron tel reader a-reader who signed her amo 1 Just narno Just Another Mother and Ba Babe e The letter wa was one touched the hearts of many and only touched the hearts but the generous impulse to the extent that offers for help came immediately Offers proving provin that not only those well able to give assistance but that those willing to share the widows widow's mite h have vc hearts attuned to the suffering of another So far kind readers the Mother and Babe has not responded W We feel teel sure that it is because she sho has not seen the ver answer to her letter We Ye e shall make renewed effort to Jo locale otate ate her for surely her case is isona isone one ona that needs immediate atten atten- tion And may we use mere words to THANK OUR OUK READERS READERS' for lor ti L kindness that we feel genuinely and that we ve sh shall ll endeavor to re repay repay re- re pay tJay if it lies In our power to do so M My Dear Miss Blair Biair lair I enjoy read reading ng Hearts Heart's Haven and now I am coming to you with my problem It may seem seem very lit little lit tle tie to you but to me it means a lot What Would you do if your husband told fold y you u that he had taken you out for the last time and for me to put that down in m my daily book It all started the other night We had received an invitation to a Christmas Christmas Christ Christ- mas program and my girl and arid I were looking forward to it When evening came and we got ready to togo togo togo go my husband backed out Oh he didn't feel like going he was too tired tired tired-he he I said Oh always is so is-so so come on be a sport and show the world that your wife has got gota a man that thinks enough of her to take her out Remember it if l has as been a along along along long time since May when Y you U last took me to a show He Ho turned an ugly face toward me and said sale No I am not going And besides that you iou have said something about me meat meat at my mothers mother's house And what is that I asked That I was so lazy that I stank N No no not that I said But that you were all but buried And AndI I got mad and said things They I were true enough only I wouldn't have said them if things hadn't turned out as they did I think that I his mother had very little to do dowhen dowhen dowhen when she could tell a He lie like that and then be so sweet to mv my face while hile behind my back try to blacken black blacken black black- en me so that there is not enough water in Provo river to get me clean I asked him hint if he thought he was VMS doing the right thing by me never to let me have enough money to buy me some clothes I am still wearing my spring coat your hard luck If you dont don't take it out of your check that's yo your r lookout he said You see Miss Blair there is s al- al ways way money for fishing and nd huntin trips in inthe the summer and payments on HIS CAR not OURS Instead of slowing down on trips in the summer so we could all have some clothes in the winter no every Saturday afternoon saw naw him on the road to some stream in s some me canyon canyon can can- yon or other othet and it does cost something some som thing to go all the time What would you Jo do o lr In tn my place Miss Blair Stay at home scrub wash cook bake drag home homo the the thi eats like a pack horse Oh Vs yes I have three meals a day and bed to sleep in What more does doea a woman want wYant anyway I have never flayer been used to going shabby Have been able to make my own way in this world so 10 I just cannot stand it it I told him if he thought more of hit his mother than he did of me t to go go anc and stay with her All All' I was asking Inthis Inthis in inthis this world was wu to be given a fair fail fairchance fairchance chance to work and I J wo would ld get B Balong along all right I 1 can do that too he said but he still hangs on talks only when spoken to so it i is is' up to me to keep the conversation up ui up or this would be a b burial rial place I J I could go on and on but will close with the best wish wishes s for a II Happy New Year Please excuse any errors errors er er- er mrs you may find but I am am nothing roth noth lothing ing ng but an immigrant a at least his hi family calls me that NORWAY Do you know Norway I I Iam am am inclined to think that you are stressing stressing- out of all proportions a tiff tire which of course never should have occurred but which 1 since it has must b bit be relegated to the background background back back- ground as rapidly as possible It Js Is really unfortunate that the affair should have come to a a. battle of words because words can cut such ugly wounds and are perhaps the hardest to forget So many things things' may be said too under the Influence influence influence ence ence of an an emotion of ot anger anger that never would be said at any other tI tithe time ni e. e I It is is' true a woman does does' like e t to have her husband accompany herto herto her to places of amusement or recreation recreation recreation rec rec- but dont don't you think k that thai thata thaia a little diplomacy on your your- part would have accomplished th the re result I sult whereas angry words only drive you you farther from the the goal To have gone to the Christmas s program without him and then come home and describe it jt itin in glowIng glowing glowing glow glow- ing terms with the expressed re regret regret re- re gret that he did not hear It would have probably awakened awaken waken d a a. desire on his part to accompany you next time And the desire does really have to be awakened some W way wy y or another I As for the things he said your mother in said he was angry when he spoke spoke and and probably exaggerated to the extreme ex cx- trem limit the state statement just as asa as ad ada a m means ans of retaliation f for r the unkind unkind un un- n kind things you said gaid to to him But this is what I mean ab about ut allowing this quarrel to occupy a place in your your consciousness consciousnesS' out ot ota a all l to other things In life Anybody could coul Just l let t go and and fly into a a passion about things gs' gs th that t disturbed ed th them m if th they Y did not hold the reins in by main force Ev dy has to tri to practice h he head artof art artof of self control and som some l people e have so many things that are are so som so m much ch worse worse than your troubles t to contend with that in comparison yours look iery y ery small Not tha that I 1 wish t to minimize yours for torl I I reaUze realize realize re re- re- re alize that you have been sorely sot tried But oh how very vC very much you ou u have hive t to be th thankful l r for L Let Lt t the spirit of charity and nd forgiveness enter your to r heart heaxt l Ia Make e u up uj 1 your ur mind not to let things up upset et you jou Plan Plait with your husband on the ex expenditUre expenditure ex- ex of your J Income rind Income me and nd be thankful th there re Is an Income on J which to plan Plan also to let him have his evenings s at home for re rest t when he Is tired and ai arrange with him that you Iou have evenings to together together together to- to gether when you can cango can go go out So much depends on the planning and the spirit in which it it is is' d done n ne Acknowledge your own fault and make the Hie effort to to begin the ne new ne- year with a 5 renewal of the heart rt and attitude And when you nave lave ave set your own house in order loo look about you for those less fortunate to see what you can do to help It ItIs ItIs ItIs Is then that you will know how much you have stressed your own troubles out of to the really deep distresses that do exist My 1 own wish for fOl you vou 1 0 that through your OUr own wise adjustments peace and happiness may reign for the coming year Dear Miss Blair Would you kindly kindy answer th the 1 following question in in Hearts Heart's Haven Can Cn a world war veteran borrow money money on on his hi adjusted compensation insurance and where I Thanking you in advance J J. J L. L L. L If you have had the he insurance for 2 years ears money ma may be borrowed borrowed bor bor- I rowed on it by making a application P to the United States Veterans Bureau Bureau Bur Bun eau roon Boston Building I Salt Lake City Entirely welcome Dear Miss Blair I I read in Hearts' Hearts Haven about Joe having an extra copy of St. St tEIo t. t I Elmo EIo and would surely appreciate it if you would give me Joes Joe's address or I J could call you on the telephone and get it Wishing you you and happiness in the New Year NURSE GIRL Call CaIr me on the telephone urso urse Girl and I shall be glad to ta give you ou Joes address so that you yO nay may take advantage of his kind offer And may the new year also bring you happiness Dear Miss Blair Bair I J would like to correspond with wit a Scandinavian girl girI who is is a good respectable girl I am a member of the L. L D. D S. S church and do donot not go O out much to get acquainted Do you Iou know of an any girl like this Miss 1 I Blair who would like to write to tome tome tomel I me mel I would like to write to a a girl r rl about 25 years old Thanking yo you E. E A. A T T. I know knew of ot no such girl E. E EA A. A T. T but advise that you get In touch with your bishop or orthe the ward teacher teachers teachers teach teach- er ers or some other officials of your your church who will quite likely know of such a a girl and who could at atthe atthe atthe the same time give you a recommend recommend mend that would satisfy her re regarding regarding regarding re- re garding your our own trustworthiness trustworthiness' to enter into such with her I should not advise that you you write to Just any girl that might apply or that any girl wrIte to you without first taking some steps of r learning something about each other and surely your church affiliations can can help you both In this regard Very welcome Dear Miss MilS Blair Will you please tell me if you youcan can what jewelry company carries the wrist watch Thanks so m much ch A A. A L. L I Will WUl you get in to touch ch with me IDe either by telephone or or by sending self addressed envelope for fO forthe the answer answer an an answer to jour question W V Welcome Dear Jear Miss Miss' Blair I read your comer corner in the paper every night and certainly get siet much knowledge and enjoyment from It lt Miss Mii Blair Blair my mouth is always full r. r of saliva and I am always swallowing swallow swallow- ing ng What is the cause cause of this Has goiter anything to do with it Thanking you you in advance MERELY MARGERY The salivary glands are evidently Irritated but for what cause J I am unable to state Your physician will be lie abl able no doubt to to tell you what wha is th the matter matler and If you sus- sus goiter you should by all means ee see him and begin the iodine trea treat treat- lents ments Sorry but ut I am unable toive to give ive medical advice or to diagnose a case case needing m medical dl a attention De Dear r Miss Blair I 1 have a thoroughbred A Airedale redal puppy 2 2 months month old for which I should hould like to find a good home Anyone wishing to supply the need may call after 8 8 o'clock clock at South Seventh East Thank you A. A W W. PWe P. P We lYe haven't the slightest doubt but ut what the puppy will find the theome home ome of wh which ch it Is in need |