Show F i A K aiH c T I I o I l r 2 r Tt X FAMILY IL YLO LOVE fJ JERITZA E RITZA a aI I ti I f a In A m a I R T J- J r t r. r l h. h r T. T N n n E k t t Z y k 3 y i yn 5 I 4 n r I j H 3 FM cy J. J jt 9 n t ij j r Hc is 7 If rv s J i A. A n a I 4 S r t. t r 1 g r FY h ho hr r o I i r g ry ryA 1 A 9 4 r r rs s z R I It s i t I E I 1 i r S i y h American Mothers Mothers Equal to the to Best in the World 4 Says as the Famous Diva but Home Life Suffers Suffer u ei s J l When Maternal aterna Guardian fan Goes o Off to Seek ee f r 4 IStl i Career Career Leaving Children to the Care of Others r a s k A GREAT many thoughts flashed through my mind while I packed to come back to America a a. few weeks ago A friend had stopped in to see me at that S' S time and we fell into a discussion over oer s the two places on either ither side of the great mysterious Atlantic Ocean I told her that I loved loed both I enjoyed much happiness at either end During the milder months of the year I spent my va vacation vacation vacation va- va cation at home in iii the heart of the Austrian Austrian Aus Aus- trian n Alps And the whole world has heard beard about the he beauty of that section of Europe Beginning in n the early fall fail and until the late spring I covered the larger cities and the great wide open spaces throughout throughout- the United States It was a. a change from civilization on the Continent to civilization civilization tion in A America erica where people were also aso wl white skinned and equally progressive and they dressed alike In one country I played in the other r I worked Singing is work you know y ty even if it my audience is made up of men and women who come to hear me for recreation in their own scheme of living B But t working in one place and going away for a vacation in another should be no different from a situation where one onet t passes from the city to the suburbs for a 8 a. a rest And And yet on deeper reflection I found that in respects which appeal particularly to w women men America is a place far different from my native home Family life Ufe is not not quite the same here as over there i. i Some of you may think that when a woman b becomes comes a public figure through l her work work her desire for a private life vanishes HAT isn't true No matter what a THAT woman does over the caption career under the skin she is a woman first and her instincts are the same as those of other women She still stin craves for the then n same things and the thought nearest the heart is the home home- So that when I speak with enthusiasm about the home spirit r in Austria it is because I am no exception k among those of my sex in the belief that nothing matters before it Until a a afew few ye years rs ago I didn't realize c that building home building is taken token far more seri serl- in Austria than anywhere else One accepts and takes for granted the place In ln which she has has' lived all her life People People People Peo Peo- who have much sk sky y overhead and andare andare andare are surrounded by trees and flowers never realize how blessed they are Much less do they appreciate it It is after they come cometo to tb th the crowded cities and get only slits o of su sunlight ight through narrow avenues of open spaces that they feel a stifling Y sensation and nd hurry back home So it was with me I never realized F how outstanding Austria was through its t strong family units If fath father r and mother and the children ol of all classes spent much i of their time to together Jt didn't s seem seem em c extraordinary to me One who hadn't seen t- t how the other half haU lived f ac accepted it as i the most natural thing In the world 9 i r But after the war and the large Influx 4 of visitors and I went out and away from d home to other parts I found out that t J home stood for far fr more over there fr than in inn I any other place I knew Members Mem- Mem l t bers of the same family were almost inseparable in- in tJ- tJ r 3 separable especially mothers and theft thelt children With we always make maks i allowances because they must go out and provide for the home For a woman in Austria to go out and y leave her babies entirely in the hands of nurses is unheard of erstwhile Princesses not excepted A Princess forgets her rank and comes down to the level of every eelY other plain simple mother when her baby is born Governesses and nurses function function function tion only for educational purposes or to take the children off their mothers mother's hands after the intimate duties have been done unless the mother is ill and physically incapacitated Otherwise from royalty down every mother nurses her own baby Bottles dont don't exist except when the mother is is- ill iII She It personally bathes the child child- no matter how many nurses are in the house And when the older ones are ready for school mother sees them safely to the schoolhouse schoolhouse schoolhouse school- school house even if they are taken in the carriage carriage carriage car car- or car And she waits for for f them at the door to fetch them home A Princess of m my acquaintance was only 18 when she married She had be been n reared very carefully and sheltered much meant to for to her do own She as i i j Zi child when it J came So to perfect pcr- pcr per per- y JUr r Li feet herself she f took s special p e cia 1 lj Sk j i courses In child- child i. i training somewhere some some- X t l where In Vienna Vienna- f j and she was very 4 Z t Y Z u. u P p z well pre prepared par e d I y fp fJ wJ f i sk o r. when the baby s f was bo born j if 7 Ff t t i N Nothing o t h i n else t h jl mattered at t baby's feeding time or the hour for its bath She personally put It to tobed tobed tobed bed and usually was on ha hand d when It woke up A mere slip sUp of a ft a. a girl per per- herself herself her her- self seU she represents the typical Austrian mother in her devotion I 1 am wondering 1 if things are are d done that w way y here in America I 1 think there is a difference in the p personal touch although in their love and interest American American American Amer Amer- ican mothers are equal to the tIie best among them in any part of the world But still there seems to be beS be'S a a difference between them anc and our mothers back home Any Anyone one here who can afford to pay adequately for a trained nurse nurse feels that when she engages the best available that thatis is enough True a nurse knows how to bathe a child She also learned at a nurses' nurses training school how to feed and otherwise care for it And so soshe she is taken for or granted as as s a dependable person But an Austrian takes nothing for granted where her children are con con- From the time Ume of birth baby is under the watchful eye of its parent And no outside o luncheon engagement of any Importance whatsoever shall shaH rail catt h hoi away from home d. d f fF F l i r s sa r. r a 0 y w x o a j. j x f s a ae r e 2 r r r jf j L F i N AXI sz r 4 f I r 0 I Ir r L b Copyright ht Wh Whereas reas In the States especially in t the e elarge large cities cities' with their alluring restaurants and rendezvous it it itis is quite customary for married friends to meet and lunch in one place or another while the children are lunching at at home I 1 know American women wealthy enough to keep a staff of servants who rise at an hour far beyond the tl e time when their children are sent off to school Then they dress and go out and leave to the excellent housekeeper and to the competent competent com com- nurses the performance of all du du- du- du ties When mother gets back she may ask for an accounting But questions are only perfunctory In cases where they keep reliable help They take for granted that for the sums they pay they have reason to expect that that- everything was all right while they were away T IS something to be marveled at the IT way women keep the families intact In Austria Every member of the family meets every other member of his family at the table for three meals every day Men of all ranks come home for the thc noon meal when we have our dinner the mil mil- banker bankers is s well as his clerks And th the same refers to the evenin evening meal In Vienna if you plan to go to the tho theatre for instance you come home to have your supper supper with the family and then you keep any appointment you please People go goto goto goto to the restaurants only on the mo most t unusual un un- usual occasions mostly when there are guests Perhaps I ought to mention that In Austria people work and live much more morein morein morein in a cIr circle c. c We dont don't cover such a large area Perhaps people living liing in the smaller cUlt cities and out in the country in America also keep closer together at home But on the wh whole le the atmosphere is 15 not quite the same and results I dare daresay daresay daresay say are evident I never saw sons and daughters as devoted to to tomother mother as in Austria Aust All their joys anc and problems re revolve re- re volve around her from the highest rank down She is intimately associated with them In their lives lies not only during childhood childhood childhood child child- hood but long after they have grown up It never occurs to a young woman over there to debate In her own mind or openly 1 if she Is indebted to her mother for an anything hing or If U there is a debt due her J Ft r The vivacious singer refuses to cut her luxuriant blond tresses because she thinks women should be feminine in in appearance for giving her life me Nor Is there that struggle between the two generations generation's s Wesee we wesee wesee see so much of here In this country children children children chil chil- dren seem to be outgrowing their parents all the time The younger ones are trying to get away from parental supervision and appealing through an issue that mothers do not understand Every Everyone one is preaching to every one else to leave the younger ones alone In al almost almost almost al- al most every magazine I pick up here I am sure to find an article dealing with the conflict in the home I r dont don't believe that our girls over in Austria are less progressive or because of the lack of intellectual intercourse they hang on to their mothers' mothers skirts I think they are not lacking in breadth of vision either The whole world knows that Austria is isa isa isa a center of culture and learning It is isa isa isa a veritable hotbed of education A child raised in Austria learns to think and to appreciate the finer things early in life But when one has been mother in every sense of the word a strong tie develops between the two generations which enables enables enables en en- ables them to go on together and to fit into the same world Mothers cannot leave their children to governesses and expect the children to develop depth of feeling for them in re re- re turn For that closer touch they must be much more together while the younger ones are arc growing up or the stranger who is as with them will get it instead We know no rank where taking ones one's own children and playing with them is concerned The two generations are sort of kneaded together Fathers and mothers moth moth- ers and children of all classes take their walks together at the end of the day And it is truly inspiring to see whole families parading leisurely along the avenue meeting meeting meeting meet meet- ing friends and discussing topics of the day S SOME may think that Austrians go about so contentedly because there arent aren't enough attractions for them to be hectic and excited over That isn't true We have operas and theatres and motion pictures and concerts and lectures There are enough cultural and charitable activities activities activities ac ac- ac- ac to keep women continually busy outside of the home But women choose to be with their families a a great a-great great deal Because of their background and culture it isn't necessary for fot them to be chasing aroi id for new interests to fill their lives They get them right light among their own And home life has always been made so attract attractive ve In Austria that there isn't the desire to run runaway runaway runaway away from it Or you may think Austria hasn't been touched by the restlessness which Is the aftermath of the World War Here too you are mistaken That place has even more reason to be unhappy than any other But whatever the economic condition condition condition con con- may have been reduced to to home life must not be touched Take the girls for instance A good many of at them were reared under much more flourishing circumstances before th the war They They- see things as they are today they understand and they are modern modem They smoke and they dance and they bob Personally I prefer long hair for women I like them to be fen feminine nine In appearance And to be individualistic we should preserve pre pre- serve sere our hair Why imitate the men However this is beside the point point just Just now I merely touched upon it In paging passing pass ing over the adaptability of the Austrian woman But in one sense she Is strictly old- old fashioned Modern Modem husbands and wives in other parts have learned to take va vacations vacations vacations va- va away from each other and the children go their own way We believe in remaining remaining- close together Parents and their cl children move like one unit And the respect for the older generation is extraordinary RUNNING away from ourselves and Cv from one another solves nothing Where such procedure Is necessary re results results results re- re are only temporary There must be bea a tl deficiency in spiritual and Intellectual influence in the home if people who presumably presumably presumably pre pre- are in love must break away to appreciate each other again What I say is not to be interpreted as a reflection on the capacity of at family love in America I have found the people people people peo peo- here as capable of a depth of feeling feeling feeling feel feel- ing as men and women and children any any- where But Buc perhaps the trouble lies In the fact that here bere people are too much ab absorbed absorbed absorbed ab- ab in commercial things Father from the richest down Is so completely wrapped up in his business that he hasn't the time to see what is going on at home He isn't close to the situation at all He may see l his s children for a few mins minutes minutes min min- utes before he leaves in the morning and maybe again for a few minutes when he gets back at night But immediately after dinner father feels he ought to togo go out for diversion from a hard days day's So he and mother dress and go away to mingle with crowds where they probably lose each other in the rush Americans go out a great deal There seems to be a madness for getting away from home Women who have a house and children to take care of prefer to hire a servant and follow career More frequently th career is nothing more than holding a Job They feel that homemaking homemaking homemaking home- home making is old-fashioned old today and the they want to get gt away They must be out of it to keep pace with the tho times But the Austrian wh wb i 1 al Rise also O Ois is cultured and Intellectual and in insisting insist insist- lating lat lat- st st. ing prefers to remain in her home She is alive on topics of the day aj She do doesn't feel crushed within the four OUI walls aIls ol ot her home Instead she Ehe takes her bel resource resources and uses them for for building building up her little nest And as she sows so she rca reaps tv tiff L L |