| Show I 1 THE CHARM OP OF RESERVE nothing more becoming in a young girl Th anThis this there them is a great amount of small talk indulged in concerning the modern modem girl she is supposed to be an entirely novel type of womanhood old fashioned mothers look askance at the greater freedom freedo in allowed to the girl of today to day they predict all manner of harm ham to come just as the old fashioned mothers of their girlhood predicted predict I when they were departing from the ways of previous times biml these latest mentors forget they themselves cast aside the stately fashions of the days of the minuet and the lengthened tilt tilted phraseology in which well bred damps dames were then wont to express their simplest thoughts these sentimental stately ladles ladies who wept over the sorrows of 0 and melissa could see nothing but a revolt against thoe the social order in the freedom of the girl who read george eliot and thought for herself yet the women of that generation have grown up and reared ed their daughters daughten s who are reacting rea chint forward to a still broader life and greater opportunities of usefulness V y u dare say that the generation of our grandmothers or greatt reaf ea grandmothers was more moral than the generation of today to day it was far more sentimental and this macvl mawkish ish sentim sentimentality bality no doubt weakened the clare morals more than the coarser realism of the modern novels dunaway ty matches matche among well bred young people were much more fre frequent quert than today aud and no special odium seemed to be attached to them Clari clandestine lestine engagements gage ments were common certain sac fc eions of country are still po pointed i anted out which were in dispute between two states there were the gretna G greens mens of a whole territory where justices con sider si deril d keople amenable to no law because they were in doubt to which state law they should give hurried ceremonies of damage ma mage e mi could ld be b e performed ner formed there without the nee lyof ty of publishing banns and before the irate parents of tb the contracting parties could prevent it we live today to day in a blaze of publicity the presence of ofa local paper eager perhaps for a sentimental paragraph restrains many a foolish maiden today to day from an clop elopement which her grandmother would have looked upon as a sentimental episode our girls of today are not given up as the girls of a few generations ago were to the all ab arbing pursuit of husbands they are not engaged in the unwomanly task of setting set tig their caps as the old eld plira phrase ic goes for every handsome stranger that appears they must be wooed and bori n on by some more sterling quality than a handsome face and fine clothes it is a great mistake to think thata that a pretty girl arrays herself in dainty gown and fetching colors merely to attract suitors she dresses in pretty color and an d graceful attractive fashion bebau because beshe she is attracted to such surroundings she arrays her room and fits out all her surroundings roun dings in the same way because she enjoys beauty she is gay bebau because ze she is young aung somber thoughts belong to experience the danger is that the modern girl with all her exuberance of animal spirits maybe be misunderstood chewill she will be wise and she will be doubly attractive if through all her gayety gaiety her ber natural flow of spirits there them be thrown a certain reserve let her toilets be as dainty and beautiful as she can obtain let her remember to moderate the tone of her voice leaber let aher cultivate a certain repose of manner which need not interfere with the most graceful dancing footfall or the airiest lotions rot ions an objection to the old time maiden undoubtedly was that she was too anxious to be sought her future depended upon a successful marriage Is this the reason why those bygone by gone loves were so frequently if we must believe story books untrue and the unhappy maiden left as a blighted being to drag out long years of purposeless spinsterhood ste sensible girls and sensible young men sometimes find they have made mistakes and engagements are broken in a sensible manner without either party considering it necessary to pose as heartbroken heart broken n such a matter is always to be im regretted g retted and no self respecting girl should enter on such an engagement lightly N Y tribune |
