Show with OR WITHOUT WINE mrs adir admiral iral Dab loren on wine serling sen ing on new ker years day WHEN IT IS SAFE TO OFFER THE GLASS how bow to trent treat new years yearb callers Cl ler ri danere angers of 0 41 eady stimulants thel wine in A ionne anna lend head tender society th tho bald head is I 1 generally safe little points for AV abortion who intend receiving callers on the years year first DAY buy 1680 t tha ati rok bok syndicate pw pra aw york I 1 As the recurring beason eason approaches it Is a subject discussed in social circles how bow far men tire lire unduly tempted if vine Is 13 offered to them when they make their round of yew new years hibits to the direct qu etlou shall wo we offer wine to th tho 0 men who call upon vs I 1 would mould answer with discrimination and when it 1 again a aked ked pray what does docs that mean I 1 m would t reply ono cannot on a social point mako make an absolute rulo rule or a cle finato law unless s rood good literals may bo be endangered but ll it Is necessary to be guided by variety ot of circumstance i if as should bo be the case a ver very 7 cautious cautions I 1 surveillance existed as to the character of tho the men who form ones circle of acquaintance any selection thus made would doubtless bo be such as a to render it quito quite safe cafe and proper to offer ft glass of 0 wine in order to arrive at this conclusion it must most of 0 course bo be presupposed that the carefully chosen guests who visit at the house aro are well known to us its approved as men of good habits and gentlemen who know how to avail themselves of tho the amenities of ili ilia a without overstepping over stepping stopping the bounds of tie decorum co it from detective defective training or inherent bad qualities such Is not the caa mistake will have been mado made in pl permitting e r m it ting these men to visit the house su all and the sooner the ill timed acquaintance ceases the better it Is doubtful if a man who Is not no sure of his power of self felt command la is a desirable acquisition in any society tor for at tho the best his bis moral nature needs strengthening before lie ho can bet ba ready to baulo with tho the world inasmuch as a lack of moral power in any one direction Is apt to be a signal light of danger all around or if ft a man Is simply SIMPI y weak then he la Is so negative as to be to say the least unreliable Is not a high sense of honor a keon keen sensitiveness against all reproach I 1 tho the best proof armor in which to cries encase our youth A man must already have a dangerous appetite for drink if a glass of good wine tendered on a festive 0 occasion sion rca drove an incentive to excess ed education U lien teaches self restraint culture enforces tho the lesson and a true gentleman understands tho the requirements of bis social position it la Is but a poor compliment to a selected circle of friends that we dare not trust to their refinement rolin ement or discretion this and much more may bo be said coner concerning ning those delicate dell cato distinctions that mark tho the intercourse of the polite world atut lot hero here one must pause for no broad lint mn an be safely drawn no sweeping rule defined on new years day many men visit the tha houses house of merely casual acquaintance and how to entertain such callers must bo be left to those particular s known best to each hostess who thus receives the christian of setting retting a good example may never be ignored by am an woman and it rests with us also not only to sustain intact but bat to elevate tho the social standard stan daid it ii Is a great responsibility now how can wo we best meet it again I 1 repeat by the exer exercise elso of good common sense which involves nice discrimination C the official receptions of washington are hold held upon such a scalo that thai no discriminations are mado made i and bealo d no wile lions aro are possible it may b bo A so said ld that those these assemblage are indeed and aid in tact fact public receptions tho the 1 public it b le pay their respects to their leaders I 1 it t s a patria sort of busl busi ne which van ran scarcely bo be considered is society assuredly it would bo be e to present to a collection of people of whose antecedents ono one knows nothing that which might provo it a stumbling mumbling block or a snare I 1 i suld sald that an inebriate Is a walking powder to which the unguarded application of a lighted match might bauw ciu o spontaneous combustion ai any general assembly where distinction if ne lien as aa to the character of tile the participants tiel pants Is impossible every care should be 0 torvold to avoid the tha weak t no wine should to te offered whore where no just discrimination ran can bo be practised practiced hut but this is ii not the exercise of hospitality that graceful tribute of regard and respect we pay to those mho ho have won par gar esteem speaking of this subject of hospitality I 1 am m reminded of an anecdote of robert toombs of georgia whom hom I 1 know very well in fit bellmo days llo ile was wai a wealthy typical southern planter and lie ho yield hold a sort of feudal sm sway ay ov over r ill the town adjacent to ills his extensive plantations it Is told ho be declared that no man should loop keep a tavern in that towo town tor for ho he said 11 II if any tranger stranger comes come a along lone who rho Is worth knowing I 1 propose to entertain I 1 him but bet it if ho he Is poor white trash ho he must clear out anyhow ono one might not exactly subscribe I 1 tot to the howay way the old planter formulated his opinion the principle involved la Is not bad it if a mau man la Is worth knowing he li it worthy orthy of good cleer and hospitable treatment there I 1 la one oan thing not to bo be overlooked ahat there Is a special pedal danger dancer of offering stimulants that are too heady or on now new years day on account ot of the number of isi men coca aro are expected to make so that the the glass that thai cheers may end and by lueill II tiling this is a serious objection to the ibo I 1 ulo ue of wines on that thai and ono one tint should be ba carefully weighed it Is subJect subjecting ina to a cruel mortification a seni sensitive tive loung man to render him ila ble bla by a hospitable intent to do or as nay y billy tiling th then e n again some same very nice young men mea are at best easily muddled not being beine bing bine naturally ble blawd aled perhaps with c tir tra strength of 0 brain and to I 1 these thes 0 society la lambkins very tender treatment should bo be extended and no temptation of strong notations potations ions cRed on oil tho the other hand bond it Is always thoughtful to offer a glass of choice wine i to in n old gentleman the presumption being that list if god las has honored him with 16 coronet of silver or mav mal ile he that bald head the iho scripture t irhe u to ro re that he be has not reached his bis three score and I 1 tot ton without having learned mcw b how honake to toko lypor pe care ot of himself again tile pir gradual ad ricaro tat introduction of native wines Is really a blessing as their general use rise will help to solve a did problem ono can call now procure puro poro wine not intoxicating from our own vineyards vineyard taits albat lea healthful and adapted to ibis exhausting climate when these wines can bo be sold cold at such stich cheap rates as to bo be within tile reach of people of moderate or restricted moans means tho the day ol of strong drinks will have passed away I 1 havo have boon been told that our native wines could bo be made at such stich low rates as a to bo be as ruble by poor people as tile the nines ines aro are in fit europe but that the prices have to bo be held at ai higher lates intes lit in order to induce tho the fashionable world to buy bay them this it to so Is a sad commentary upon the absurd american sensitiveness as regards tile alio outlay of money looney which makes it to make tin nn article high priced to bo be held in esteem I 1 would submit this reflection to society m conever it may become susceptible of any philanthropic considerations there Is ono one rule of high brooding breeding in the o of hospitality that may well bo be remembered at all times but especially in title tins connection and that 1 Is never urge a guest to partake of 0 what ei eer or you may havo have to olter offer it Is to bo be supposed that tho the old spanish custom of 0 unbounded liberality libor allty li Is also ours when wo we entertain our friends although wo we way may not 0 to offer our house and all that it cont contains me with tile tho castilian Cos grandiloquence ot of phrase yet tho the spirit ot of generous hospitality a ity Is 13 everywhere tho the same wo place before our guests whatever wo we may have to offer them and in doing so wo we take it tor for granted that they will tor for tho the time being consider our house hous G as theirs to insist upon choo choosing bing for or I 1 thaia oin Is a sort ot of tyranny not graceful to say tho the least men mea often complain in making a round around 0 of I 1 visits of this amiable insistence on tho the par pan of tho the fair air hostess ho stes which really deprives them of the liberty of choice an and d actually enslaves their inclinations it multiplies for instance a glass of wine on now years day beyond a prudent or even safe halt A bashful young man once confided con to mo me that this very persistence which c lura lurs oftener than Is agreeable formed one of his most dreaded social woes boes another complained of an awful timo time be had at a dinner ta ila the country on this very score where a lynx eyed hostess seemed to consider him as a sort of a cormorant keeping his plate replenished pleni shed hed with inexorable zeal there thorois Is no finer point in entertaining than to notice without seeming to do so this indeed Is that indefinable something which may be ba felt but not explained pla ined and that may for the lick of a better name bo be called tact however let no one despair of 0 its acquisition for it ft has as its foundation good feeling can lan it it bo tie that hat this is counted out of olite lipty assuredly not one of its cherished maxims 14 lead ns not into temptation oven with a glass of wine when not advisable on new years scars day after all any inconsiderate or conduct that might result from the too free aco use uie of vino mine by a guest even it if accidental or unforeseen must always be source of keenest mortification to tho the hostess and ono which every lady pro feri fen to avoid MADELEINE vito i |