| Show I Marriage of Child a a. a Puzzle EW E questions perplex tho the conscientious conscientious F FEW parent more than the th one presented when a son or daughter reaches the marriageable n age e In some somo Instances of course there Is no room for tor perplexity because the choice suits all 11 parties but in the majority of or cases tho the parents have havo much to think about Probably the mother is 19 more perturbed than the father tather but all alt parents who who have havo the th welfare of their children at nt heart must feel teel some flome anxiety when hen the they arrive arrIvo at a marriageable ago age Co The first anxious feelings arise over the choice which the son Bon or daughter ma may make Then comes the selection and the tho parents wonder whether the future partner J Is Is or will prove provo suitable suitable suit uH able In tho the best sense of ot the tho word Suppose that the child be he a a. dau daughter The future husband Is subjected to the mental process often otten c. c called led taking stock of ot him and certain questions arise The parents parent not blinded b by love as ns they are Inclined to think their u daughter daugh daugh- h- h ter tel is are not altogether satisfied Living Loving Lov- Lov LovI I ing their da daughter they set up ideals and this young oung man Is 19 not quite what they the expected tho they are rc not able to ex explain explain ex- ex plain exactly v.-ll v. why but somehow he lie falls short hort CHOOSING G A HUSBAND J His Income Is smaller than the they think it should be or ho he is very fond of ot sports and the they fear ho he will ne neglect lect his hla wife In favor of ot athletic pastimes he Is IB perhaps clover cr but like BO so man many clever clover persons rather erratic and that means coming coming- home for tor dinner at an any anytime anytime time and making his wife ICe unhappy by a n constant series of little vexations They m may object to his avocation a and anti the they ma may also fancy that he is not really In love lovo with the girl Irl or that she eho herself Is s simply infatuated and will rc-rc rc regret t it Quick quickly So the they endeavor or to exercise exorcise their right as they ell say eay The girl irl disputes their rl right ht saying that she Is the best judge they cannot know as ns much about her sentiments as she sho does It is she who has to take tako the consequences good or bad she believes that t she sho will be happy with Uh him and that she has the right to decide WIIO SIT SHALL ALL DECIDE r Who ho shall decide Can the parents do more than endeavor or to reason calm calmly with her or have the they an any right to exert their Influence or their autocratic auto auto- cratic power If they po possess ses an any to toI prevent the tho marriage I If we examine similar instances we shall shan find that the parents have been rl right ht at times and that they have spoiled the girl girls girl's s lifo life at others Surely the situation Is disturbing enough to make mako both sides ponder gravely ra The trouble Is that the girl girlis is not r Anted enough to ho bo able to reflect properly the parents would retort What can b be done rho The best beat su suggestion suggestion es- es tion that can be bo made is that the young people should be asked to wait w awhile before thinking of marriage e or eves even of a fixed engagement ement Jf JC f that can be managed and then let the girl lrI see more of other men If It It I Is mere Infatuation it will Ill w wear ar off time works wonders In all directions ts and whether marriage e or separation be the result the outcome will be more satisfactory than n the arbitrary arbitrary arbi arM and angry exercise of or rt right ht on el either cither ther side Bide |
