Show freedom for elders the ruling rulin of parents by grown children often Ani amounts to tyranny J R RECENTLY says a woman writer of note I 1 read a letter from a young married woman who having a house in which she evidently took pride and large enough to accommodate her mother was disturbed she resented the fact that her mother refused to live live there there although she had been invited to do so she complained of her mothers travels and her insistence in keeping her own home A strange plight it was impossible not to consider what were the reasons underlying d der emizh lying the invitation the young woman said her friends thought the situation strange and she feared they blamed her for not having her mother with her such super sensitiveness is certainly a mistake nl stake it can scarcely be taken as the real reason for her annoyance no the homo home atmosphere would scarcely be improved by having a reluctant member included in the family life even though the husband agreed to it willingly money matters clatters A reason of money might exist that is there is a lurking suggestion that the daughter disliked the mother being at the added expense of keeping up her home and and spending money in travels which v went as far as eur european thant trips tip the letter e ater said that the mothers health was good could it be that the money saved by the mother should she live with the daughter would revert to the daughter or would the mother be expected to pay board or make some contribution to the home I 1 although of a less stipulated sum freedom for mother whatever the fundamental reason for the daughters dilemma one cannot but sympathize with the mother here is a wo woman man who cherishes her freedom and is enjoying it evidently either she had been accustomed to traveling and keeps it up or she has not been able to indulge her longing to see the world until 1 now when she is tree free to do so and has the wherewithal freedom for elders A great deal has been said and written about letting children have their right of freedom of action and ideas it is not they alone that must have this privilege parents when they get older are often ruled with rods of iron by the children who were themselves granted freedom this ruling of elders is olten often under the gui guises es of affectionate care and a p patronizing tron kindness and it sometimes becomes a tyranny especially ver over mothers such situations are indeed difficult 0 den dell Synch syndicate cate service |